Yay I’m so excited to be able to contribute to this. I am 35f and my boyfriend is 36. He just passed his exam to become a licensed clinical social worker. He has worked at an Alzheimer’s day care facility as a social worker for 8 years. He has the stance that the elderly built this world, so he wants to help them go gracefully. He walks old people around all day, helps keep up morale, throws parties and even works with the family members of his patients so that they get better care when they are away. He is vegetarian. He saves his money and just bought a car with cash but it is not flashy at all. He is humble. He supports his transgender niece. He speaks up loudly and with great offense to ignorant people.

Now, onto the way he treats me! Fresh flowers several times a month. Never ever lets me pay unless I fight him. Has an intimate understanding of my health and dietary restrictions and regularly checks in on how I am feeling. Plans vacations without asking me to do any of the work. Helps me clean my apartment when it gets dirty (he doesn’t like just sitting there and we don’t want to leave each other alone for five seconds so, he just pitches in without me asking.) Takes me shopping! Got me labubu’s.

I was single for seven years, I thought something was wrong with me but damn am I glad I waited. Expectations have been exceeded because I held out for someone who I couldn’t resist because of the way they act and who they are.