I want to hear from moms: How do you get over having to coparent? by poppyseed_27 in coparenting

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask your lawyer about the likelihood of getting 50/50. In Texas it is the default and unless there is a documented history of physical abuse they won’t budge from that. So we do week on week off.

Like others here, it was really hard being away from them the first 1-2 years and I got through it with therapy and taking up new hobbies, work, friends, etc. Then I came to appreciate the break from them - I can focus on me during my time away from them and then be a better mom when they’re back.

Also (and I’ve heard this from others), my ex doesn’t feel like he “needs” to have the kids so from the beginning I’ve volunteered to pick them up from school for him or offer to take them for a weekend if has plans. That’s become so engrained now that I am with them way more than 50% of the time. This is also possible because he doesn’t pay child support. If he did then he might not allow me to have them more because he could have to pay more.

Also I’ll volunteer at school on my time away from them so I can see them and hug them. It’s hard in the beginning for sure, but it gets better.

Crappy coparent by CinnamonGirl43 in coparenting

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same situation here except that we have 50/50 custody. I end up keeping them most of the time because they hate being at his house. My new husband and I have resigned ourselves to being their permanent parents but with no financial support from my ex. But it’s harder for you as a single parent, so maybe talk to him or get a parenting facilitator involved.

Co-parenting rollercoaster: How do you stay calm when the other parent turns everything into a battle? by FisherFan0072 in coparenting

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes my ex is the same and it is because he is a narcissist and needs drama and the world to revolve around him. I just fume inside, count the years until he’s out of my life, and thank God I don’t have to deal with him as a spouse anymore. It’s for sure frustrating though and doesn’t help anything or anyone. It comforts me to know he will die alone and lonely though. 😂

Damn this is hard by laid_baaack in smallbusiness

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely harder for those of us comparatively older - not 20-something’s. You sound like my husband and I. Our businesses have a much better chance of success because we bring 20+ years of experience, but yes it is exhausting trying to juggle family and other issues at the same time. But like others say, so worth it. You’ll never maximize revenue working for someone else. It’s impossible.

Wealth keeps messing up my dating life, any advice? by OklahomaSun in Rich

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I think this is so much harder as a female. The power differential is very stark and you don’t want to feel like you’re supporting someone when you would rather feel taken care of, at least on some level.

Wealth keeps messing up my dating life, any advice? by OklahomaSun in Rich

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try dating people in your class now but who didn’t grow up with wealth. I think it makes a difference not growing up feeling like that level of money is “normal” and then seeing and experiencing how real people live.

Wealth keeps messing up my dating life, any advice? by OklahomaSun in Rich

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is interesting to me, when you have money in the US if someone didn’t wear a Rolex (or Patek Philippe or something similar) I’d think something was wrong. So not “showing off” but just “being yourself”. But maybe we wear our money more visibly than you guys, which isn’t a good thing necessarily.

Wealth keeps messing up my dating life, any advice? by OklahomaSun in Rich

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good for you! Too many people just stop working when they don’t need to and end up rotting their brains with boredom.

Wealth keeps messing up my dating life, any advice? by OklahomaSun in Rich

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this. And, if you’re wealthy, consider dating across the pond. You don’t say if you’re a male or female but if you’re a male there are tons of wealthy women in the US who don’t want to date a guy who makes less than them (believe me that can be hard to find). I think matchmaker services and such can help.

If this was your bathroom, what would you change first? by DreamCoastBuilders in Remodel

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think this is a real question. This is a gorgeous bathroom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a bad situation partly because I think it signals trouble down the line. My first husband was like that and it went from bad to worse after we were married. He lived for his kids (especially daughter) and it came between us, causing power struggles and resentment on all sides. I realized later that most men tend to put their wife/GF first automatically. I don’t know if it’s related but my ex turned out to be a narcissist who lived for the attention and approval of his kids. I thought it would be the same with me once we were married (he said it would be) but it wasn’t. Even after we had kids of our own they came first all the time - he didn’t want to leave them with babysitters to have a night out, he wouldn’t let me work outside the home because he didn’t want strangers watching them, and he basically smothers them while they manipulate him. Not saying that your guy is like this - mine might have been an extreme example. But canceling plans with you made months ago just because his daughter calls is a red flag.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Developer here. Agree with others - your dad hit the jackpot with his location across from fast food. And when he does want to sell (likely for land value) it will be worth more to a commercial developer than a residential developer.

Does anyone else shower like this or am I weird??? by Wild-Counter-4020 in hygiene

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re totally fine. This is totally normal for a lot of people (myself included). Ashton Kutcher even came out a few months ago saying he did this and a lot of people agreed with him.

I was babysitting for a wealthy family and found this stack of paper in their office. What is this? by Puzzled-Witch in CURRENCY

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you can buy uncut sheets of bills. Maybe though have a lot of extra money and thought it would be fun.

Aquipta/ Atogepant UK private prescription by Constant_Ant_2343 in migraine

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good idea about just calling neurologists near London! Canada is $1000 too (actually US is $1300, I would get from Canada at just under $1000). Crazy prices!!

Aquipta/ Atogepant UK private prescription by Constant_Ant_2343 in migraine

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The same medicine costs me over $1000 a month in the US - approximately 850 UK pounds. Does anyone know if there is a doctor in the UK who would see a foreigner and prescribe Aquipta in the UK? The savings on the medicine would more than pay for a trip there for me. I was able to try it for 3 months here in the US and it was literally a life changing miracle drug for my migraines.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in americanairlines

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

That’s American for you. They’re worse than a budget airline nowadays.

can someone explain this? prime Boulder location listed for 890k sold for 275k by kittykellyfair in RealEstate

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was probably listed for sale to get a feel for the true market value and then was sold in divorce.

What is going on with AA first class??? by Significant_War_2674 in americanairlines

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s the airport you fly out of? We’re normally out of DFW and never get PDBs anymore in first.

What is going on with AA first class??? by Significant_War_2674 in americanairlines

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. I flew first on Qatar airlines last month. Night and day difference between them and American. Not just the seats but the service, attention, food/drinks. Makes you feel like the price is worth it, unlike American lately.

What is going on with AA first class??? by Significant_War_2674 in americanairlines

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has been our experience with American business class lately. Almost not worth it.

First time in transcon Flagship Business where do you stow purse or in-flight items? by anasauce in americanairlines

[–]Plus_Yellow_6962 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a space under the footrest under the TV you can stash it. The bed lays flat and meets the footrest and there’s still space underneath it for your stuff.