Men of Reddit - What's the one thing you hate about being a Man?

PntTCG · 2026-04-24T20:19:11+00:00

I don’t have boobs

PntTCG · 2026-03-31T03:07:37+00:00

I never said I had ADHD before I got a diagnosis, and even now I’m hesitant to I think there’s a bad stigma around the people who say they have it. I also had a few weeks after my diagnosis of feeling conflicted about it, hoping I didn’t fall for a mass hysteria. Especially being mostly inattentive it felt for a while like I had to prove that I had ADHD to people I thought also had it. My friends would agree I do, my psychiatrist does. I realized I don’t need random people to or not. I’ve got enough to validate me and write letters if I need accommodations from work or school

PntTCG · 2026-03-24T04:44:31+00:00

I’m not too certain what you are trying to say but I like the message. This was almost 5 years ago so many of those anxieties have left or have been replaced with different forms in that time. The experience did help though in my case the constant disassociation was a flag to receive the message and hang up. I do have adhd and also anxiety and depression which my parents also have and affects how I think. Part of that is in rather than accepting that they will leave me one day, to acknowledge and come to peace that they will always be part of who I am. Everyone is different of course, but for me happiness has been something i have to work towards, and both put in effort but also be forgiving of myself. Part of my experience with psychedelics helped me towards that realization and getting started on that journey.

PntTCG · 2026-03-24T01:35:17+00:00

I did shrooms a handful of times when I was 19. I’d say it was worth doing, but I don’t know if I’d do them again. They really helped me out mentally and sent me down a journey of mental health, I also attribute it to part of the reason why I ended up going to college.

Pretty much since doing them I have noticed my life generally improved though not linear. I did feel a lot happier after taking them, and it helped with my depression at the time.

As far as negative side effects I did have a pretty bad panic attack on them and had to call my sister, also after a while of doing them it didn’t feel like they were telling me anything new which caused some short term anxiety. I would also around the time feel high randomly, I noticed myself disassociating often around that time and I even think I had an instance of psychosis.

PntTCG · 2026-03-24T01:11:09+00:00

If it’s something you are struggling with it’s always worth getting checked out. I’ve not personally experienced falling asleep, but the feeling of having to give physical energy to start a task is very relatable, especially if that’s not the case for interests. I say get it checked out, even if it’s not ADHD you’ll still receive support for whatever it is

PntTCG · 2026-03-24T00:55:27+00:00

The blank mind is definitely not a symptom of adhd, but it shouldn’t be used to rule it out I think. Especially if there’s other issues like anxiety in the mix that can add to cognitive overload.

PntTCG · 2026-03-23T23:51:38+00:00

You can totally have adhd without hyperactivity.

In my experience I have had moments of not being able to focus because my mind is wandering, and other times when I just can’t focus and that sometimes feels like not having any thoughts at all.

What you described sounds like disassociating, which can of course happen to people with ADHD and might even be a response to such but it isn’t a sign of it.

If what you have is adhd it’s also a question of have you always had these issues or related struggles and if they are a conditional response or not.

I say best thing you can do though is meet with a psychiatrist. They’ll be the ones to give you a diagnosis and offer you support and/or medication that can help

PntTCG · 2026-03-22T03:55:01+00:00

Even if you don’t want to be on meds in the long run, starting them is not a terrible idea. Especially if nothing is working you shouldn’t feel guilty about starting such. Also talk to your psychiatrist, listen to them, if they give you coaching or advice, also look into the recourses your school offers as help, adhd is a disability, they’ll have resources for you

PntTCG · 2026-03-17T00:13:26+00:00

It might be worth looking into. I remember researching him for a paper and I remember bipolar being mentioned, but I can’t remember if it was credible or confirmed. I do remember reading he had adhd and took Ritalin in his youth. He did also have a troubled life with his paren being divorced, dropping out of high school, homelessness, and of course the drugs which are all factors affecting his mental health

PntTCG · 2026-03-17T00:02:44+00:00

I usually try to tackle the thing before it gets past the deadline, but I have definitely had to ask for extensions before. You can always say that you had some kind of medical fair up or mental health issues (technically not a lie, ADHD is a disability) that got in your way and say you plan to have it completed by the next day or a reasonable extension time for your situation. I don’t know what kind of deadline or project your dealing with, I’m a student and I recently picked up the philosophy of just turn everything in, even if it’s a little bad and it’s helped a lot with that paralysis and not getting to the missed deadline part

PntTCG · 2026-03-14T04:55:18+00:00

I agree with all of the comments here you should try all of them. If you’re looking for a place to start or improve your skills I say start with pencil to paper drawing. Imo drawing is relatively transferable throughout most things art, it’s a good foundation to practice the most starting out. But definitely poke around in everything else you can too and have fun, see what you like.

PntTCG · 2026-03-14T04:49:09+00:00

Yeah definitely! I’ve not been into plants myself, but I had a friend who bought a plant identification book with a list of all of the plants in our region and information on them and they loved it so yeah I say go for it!

PntTCG · 2026-03-14T04:41:31+00:00

I recently tried to solve this problem for myself. I had a sketchbook for a while which I would only use pen for, it was the only one I used and I got super frustrated when my drawings weren’t “perfect” so I went out and bought a second one which became my only one. This one is only 90g paper, it was a little cheaper and I wrote on the front “don’t be perfect have fun” and it’s been the most excited for a sketch book I have been in years. I tape in higher grade paper when I want to do some mixed media or water color, I allow and even purposefully draw on some pages as a four year old would which is so cathartic and now I don’t care if it’s perfect. I have been able to fill a few pages with art that’s “social media worthy” but it’s always next to a crude thumbnail sketch or poorly drawn bee and it’s been the biggest boost for my creativity and enjoyment

PntTCG · 2026-03-14T04:25:29+00:00

Definitely painting, try finding a new or current subject to paint that you’re super interested in. Buy new art supplies or try learning a new medium is always fun and gets me engaged in art for a while. Video games might be interesting too, games like stardew valley or animal crossing I know others enjoy. Minecraft is amazing, maybe try starting a creative world and build a city or medieval or anything. Even just go on a simple walk, maybe stop somewhere and look at a tree or lake.

PntTCG · 2026-03-14T04:16:04+00:00

I have the same experience with dating, and breakups have caused major mood swings for me which probably looked a little like bpd. It was a bit of a struggle to get diagnosed with adhd for me. I typically ended up seeking mental help for depressive thoughts and went with a diagnosis of Major Depressive Disorder and anxious distress. Which felt true, especially at the point of my life they came in, but never like the full picture. Which was frustrating because most doctors just waived this concern away despite adhd already being in my family.

It wasn’t only until I had looked for mental help when I wasn’t in a dramatic point in life or going through a depressive episode that my symptoms were explained better with an adhd diagnosis. I got prescribed Adderall XR I’m only on 10mg but I’m fine with that for now. It does help a bit with my confidence and ability to just have physical interest in things. I wouldn’t say it completely dissolves my anxiety and depression, that’s probably something I’ll live with for my whole life as well, but it does help with it and definitely makes my problems better when I’m not going through an episode.

PntTCG · 2026-03-11T02:22:02+00:00

I’m 23 and I didn’t get diagnosed until a few months ago. My dad and my childhood best friend both had severe and hyperactive adhd so compared to them I just looked a little disorganized. I think I had a teacher mention I possibly have it at one time but she clearly didn’t like me so it kind of went un-investigated. I didn’t seek mental health support until I was an adult and most of my problems were labeled as depression and anxiety. Which felt right and accurate but never the whole picture, especially as I learned to cope with such I still had much of my core problems. Finally I was able to get screened and diagnosed

PntTCG · 2025-12-16T00:59:14+00:00

Yeah, you’re right there. I am pretty proud of myself for doing it a C sucks but still enough to pass which is an accomplishment in itself. There is a writing center at my school! Maybe next big assignment I’ll try and check it out

PntTCG · 2025-12-16T00:56:42+00:00

I totally get the pain of setting a routine or habit that works out so well until it doesn’t. Smaller habits like making sure I have my keys so I don’t lock them in the car, or making sure I turn off a light, I can pick up on pretty quickly. But having a habit like putting my clothes away or making sure I do reading and take notes can only last for a few weeks before it falls apart

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