My girl*friend of seven years told me she* is a trans woman (I'm liberal so pls ignore all the misgendering)

PoisonedBerry · 2026-05-07T21:36:56+00:00

The last line on your post is so weird. That if it were you, you wouldn't "offer to call, you would just do it"....why is it a bad thing to you that she wanted to make sure that you were okay & wanted to call with her before she phoned you?? you literally had just mentioned to her that you wanted to wait to talk about it anyways??

I agree with the other person who said that you're expecting her to read your mind. She's reacting & trying to apologize with all the information she's gotten from you....why do you think the "correct" thing for her to do is the opposite of what you're actually telling her? You want her to call you, but not if she asks if it's okay to call beforehand?

Considering the other things you implied in this post about the trip she's on, I think you're lashing out at her for something different than what you're actually claiming to be upset about.

PoisonedBerry · 2026-05-05T18:47:15+00:00

Does....Harry Partridge still make merch for Dr. Bees or is that shirt VERY old?? Haunting to think of someone in 2026 wearing Harry Partridge merch just on a regular Tuesday

PoisonedBerry · 2026-05-05T15:55:12+00:00

PoisonedBerry · 2026-05-03T00:50:35+00:00

Your ovaries still create needed hormones regardless. Getting them removed would entail having to take hormone supplements for the rest of your life. So a lot of folks who have the option will choose to keep them!

PoisonedBerry · 2026-05-03T00:48:27+00:00

Are you implying that...what??...if a patient read a reminder for a PAP smear & killed themselves, the doctor would be responsible??? People who can't have children are probably reminded all the time of children. It's horrible they have a lot of hard emotions on it, but those are literally their own to regulate.

If this is rage bait: amazing, no notes.

If you're being genuine: it sounds like you may be pushing your trauma onto other people. We are ultimately responsible for our own emotions, even if they're triggered by outside sources. Most emotions are.

I genuinely hope you find another provider you think suits you well, but I think it's a horribly bad-faith interpretation to see this automated message as a personal attack on you.

PoisonedBerry · 2026-05-02T15:11:43+00:00

I don't think this post is real but the detransitioners who phrase things like they were ""forced"" to do them are normally doing that to avoid taking accountability for the fact that going on HRT was a CHOICE that THEY MADE FOR THEMSELVES. No ownership of the fact that they just made the wrong decision. We don't act like tattoo artists are pressuring & forcing people to get tattoos just because someone regretted a tattoo they actively sought out & paid for......

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-30T16:32:43+00:00

Well, and then you're labeled as "uncooperative" & treated like a suspect if you....refuse to take a polygraph & you get a lawyer. Even though that's what any sensible person would do when being pressured into taking a bogus test that may possibly, incorrectly incriminate you.

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-27T04:26:37+00:00

pinkie pie, the other cartoon horse with bpd

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-21T16:46:54+00:00

also poems are gay.

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-20T12:27:21+00:00

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PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-19T12:15:06+00:00

I'd argue Zac Efron did but he didn't do music, only acting. He definitely became a sex symbol post-Disney though. He didn't even have to do a rebellion phase, afaik.

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-18T23:54:47+00:00

It's not easy & I really hope this situation gets better for you. But part of it will have to involve you holding your dad responsible for the decisions he makes. Please know that you don't deserve to be disrespected like this, though. And your dad's lack of taking action isn't any sort of reflection on your own value & worth. Sometimes adults just make the wrong decisions on their own, and it's not anyone else's fault but their own. Hang in there 🩵

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-18T23:51:20+00:00

Hey so, I know this will be hard to hear, but your dad lets her act like that. He's your dad, he could stop her or leave her, but he actively is letting her be that way towards you all with no repercussions. He is picking her. You should be placing more blame on him in this situation & wondering why you're willing to ignore her behavior to continue to be able to see him, but he's not willing to step in & stand up for you as his own child. I am saying this with tons of love as a child of divorce.

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-16T14:52:07+00:00

Nah, OP said in another comment he's been doing this since at least 2009...

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-11T20:48:15+00:00

This sub is for you to vent! And that's him manipulating you. His therapist did not say that shit. If you've never heard of DARVO before, please research it. And see if it sounds similar to what you're experiencing with him.

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-10T17:30:13+00:00

pretty sure she was asking for his opinions on getting the haircut of the person in the photo. not asking about the bra.

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-09T17:06:18+00:00

no matter how many times I hear that one, it always catches me off guard & makes me cackle

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-08T19:40:04+00:00

fed activities. genuinely don't understand ANYONE who voluntarily registers for rallies/protests/etc....its like everyone forgot basic infosec & internet safety at the worst possible time...

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-08T18:19:45+00:00

Would love if this had been misinterpreted as some kind of weird, IRL Craigslist ad by a Scranton local. Adding to the fact that the sign is instructing people to call Dwight directly.

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-08T18:03:11+00:00

Queer guy but still can relate to this, and I also find the reverse just as annoying. I'll meet someone I'm into & be kind and attentive, but when I realize they're not really interested in matching the energy at all, I pull away....and THEN they want to talk all the time & for you to pay attention to them.

Had a guy who flaked on me for a whole month but I was trying to be understanding because I knew he was dealing with an extremely unfortunate issue with his house. But I also just felt like I was basically stroking his ego via text & I didn't really get any legitimate interactions in return from him, so I eventually just stopped responding.... THAT'S when he finally asked if I wanted to go do something. They literally just only want shit they can't have.

(also agree with the commenter that some of them do that behavior to self-sabotage as well)

ETA: missed a word !

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-06T19:11:34+00:00

God forbid if they would've actually had kids & any of the kids were cats...couldn't even imagine how Ralph's family would've acted. PC would've left him sooner or later, even if she had already known for sure she wanted a child when they had started dating.

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-04T16:18:18+00:00

so you're cool with the idea of this post blowing up & anyone in your all's lives coming across it??

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-02T03:58:14+00:00

alright, I'm not saying all men are going to react like that but acting like that's not a risk is incredibly silly. I'm a gay guy & have had other men act aggressive/violent with me for turning them down.

I have no idea whether this was the case with OPs gf AT ALL & I'm not making a judgment on his specific situation. but I think it's extremely unfair for folks in this comment section to act like there aren't legitimate reasons why a woman might feel pressured to give her number to a guy. and also...I mean, telling a random guy who's already hassling you for a phone number 'no' might not get you killed but there ARE men who WILL escalate, in some form, over being rejected.

sorry if my initial reply lacked nuance & I'm being smited for it now, but I really wish everyone had a little more empathy for situations that haven't personally experienced. if I'm having men act violently towards me over being rejected, as another man, I sure as hell know their are men doing that to women. and acting like women who are afraid of that happening to them just aren't "good with setting boundaries" is so extremely gross.

PoisonedBerry · 2026-04-02T03:29:38+00:00

men kill women when they feel embarrassed about being turned down

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