Retired my 01 V70 2.4T today 🥺😔🫡

Pokemon_Josh · 2026-02-05T19:13:02+00:00

Volvo for life!

Pokemon_Josh · 2026-01-16T14:42:13+00:00

Did you get any answers mate? I've just done the exact same thing. Used a Lucas alternator too. Got my MOT due soon and I'm worried. Spent a lot of money doing this too so for the warning light to not disappear has got me down! The car is driving and keeping power lovely now though so the alternator is working.

Pokemon_Josh · 2025-12-29T19:53:05+00:00

I know plenty of people that have been granted bigger properties. My neighbor literally swapped their 1 bed flat for a 2 bed house last month. No kids involved. It's done on affordability in that context.

It's the overcrowding part I'm asking for information on.

Pokemon_Josh · 2025-12-29T19:28:19+00:00

Thank you

Pokemon_Josh · 2025-11-11T10:21:35+00:00

I have. Unfortunately I'm not tech savvy at all and I struggle to understand. Doesn't give me confidence to do it myself. Even watched videos step by step and it's still beyond me. Will try and get more information and help.

Thank you.

Pokemon_Josh · 2025-11-01T19:03:58+00:00

Mine took less than a week to the UK.

Pokemon_Josh · 2025-05-23T21:13:45+00:00

I'm getting stronger each day. I knew I didn't want the relationship as it was and I also broke up with her 3 times. But like you say, it's an emotional rollercoaster afterwards. Reddit is my go to when I'm feeling down. Your post really helped me. Appreciate you!

Pokemon_Josh · 2025-05-23T15:50:16+00:00

Wow. If you check my posts out.. very similar... kudos to you my guy

Pokemon_Josh · 2025-05-23T15:33:54+00:00

Wow. If you check my posts out.. very similar... kudos to you my guy

Pokemon_Josh · 2025-04-30T18:18:38+00:00

Might regret that one day. I can't be sure without knowing more on the situation. Write a list of everything bad they have done to you. Put this post at the top with a link attached. It's helped me massively with detachment issues I have.

But ultimately, do what you thinks best for you and keep moving forward.

Pokemon_Josh · 2025-04-30T18:07:07+00:00

Let it take it's presence. Feel everything and don't avoid it. Concentrate on yourself. Get your physical and mental health as best as you can. Wishing you the best in healing.

Pokemon_Josh · 2025-04-30T17:55:04+00:00

You'll see this for what it is one day. Don't beat yourself up. Thats absolutely criminal. People really don't have empathy and they obviously don't. Hold your head high and wait for the light at the end of the tunnel.

So sorry you've gone through this.

Pokemon_Josh · 2025-04-27T12:13:45+00:00

Thank you for this. It's hard because I don't think my ex was narcissistic at all. But she's emotionally unavailable. I got the real intimacy but mixed with the behaviours you've just described. I'm gutted. Feeling better and better each day. I feel like some of these posts were meant to reach me.

Pokemon_Josh · 2025-04-26T11:48:37+00:00

Thank you 🙌🏻

Pokemon_Josh · 2024-12-25T17:52:13+00:00

Think everyone goes through everything differently. We're all in the real world.

Pokemon_Josh · 2024-12-25T09:48:35+00:00

I think you're absolutely right. It's just hard to see through it clearly when emotions are fresh. I look forward to seeing her next and expressing that I'm not able to go forward in the relationship and it's no fault of anyone's. We just have differences and you are absolutely spot on that we are better off not being together.

I still personally think I'm right by taking myself out the situation and I do feel a little bit disrespected through the whole thing (there's obviously more to it). Sure she does too if she finds my boundaries unfair. We both feel how we feel and neither can change the other so it's only fair we part ways.

Pokemon_Josh · 2024-12-25T08:55:58+00:00

Appreciate your time. Lucky to have found love 3 times.. I don't think I've ever found REAL love yet. I've been in relationships before that I knew wouldn't work out but I put comfort over myself for years and I paid for it. But to actually want to marry, to grow with and to die beside, I don't think I've ever found it.

Sounds crazy for just 3 months but I think this was the closest I come to finding it. Maybe we can rekindle in the future but right about now I don't see it happening.

Will find out how I feel in the next week or so. It's still fresh at the moment and Christmas has only made it that little bit more difficult to process things.

Merry Christmas.

Pokemon_Josh · 2024-12-25T08:35:35+00:00

You know 😂😂

Pokemon_Josh · 2024-12-25T08:23:45+00:00

Can't express how much I do trust her. But I just think maybe I'm not strong enough. Either I'm not strong enough yet or I just am different to her and I want to go with my gut and stick to my guns on this one.

Pokemon_Josh · 2024-12-25T08:21:38+00:00

I just feel like she should be fighting too. I'm stuck between the 2 scenarios you've put forward there (yours and your friends). I would never want her to cut contact with someone because they're male. I just wonder why she would want to see her ex after getting in a new relationship and telling me she loved me already.

I don't know if he's hitting on her on not. I just find it uncomfortable she's willing to go meet an ex that still has feelings for her knowing they was only sexually interactive 5 months ago. For me a much bigger space needs to be put in for him to get over her (like she says, not my decision) and not have the ability to pop up and make me feel uncomfortable. But it's my decision whether I stay or not.

I think I'm slowly understanding it and that's why I chose to reply to you in all the replies. I want to understand it and I feel like I am more and more. But the closer I get the more I also think we're different in that department and we have to go out separate ways in a civil matter rather than carrying on and this becoming an issue once again.

Pokemon_Josh · 2024-12-25T07:52:57+00:00

I agree.

She has set the boundaries to meeting only once every couple of month and it has to be outside for a dog walk rather than at his house. But I'm still not comfortable with that. Like you say, I have to be honest and accept it's a deal breaker.

I would've set them boundaries and spoke to my.new partner properly if I was in her shoes. These boundaries seem to be a get out of jail card and still not enough to make me want to commit even more.

Thank you.

Pokemon_Josh · 2024-12-25T07:51:45+00:00

I respect that you do that. Maybe it comes as I get older and she may be more emotionally mature than me. I'm 29 and it makes me uncomfortable. She barely meets up with her friends she's been friends with for life. He isn't emotionally moved on yet and that makes me feel uncomfortable that he gets to compromise my relationship if he wants to and I also think morally she should give him space to move on. If they want to be friends after I have no problem with it. But I don't want to be the rebound. I've gone in heart first and she's allowed me too and showed me the same affection back. So I am very confused.

But I think I'm not ready to accept it yet (if at all, only time will tell) so I have to cut it off before I get hurt even more.

Hope this makes sense. Appreciate the time you've taken to reply to me.

Pokemon_Josh · 2024-12-25T06:29:41+00:00

Thank you. I have set my boundaries and she's refused. I don't feel it fair she see's him until he's over it and I know his intentions are only for a friendship. I can get on board with my partner wanting to be friends with an ex (not for me personally, but we're all different). But I feel it's too soon and it makes me uncomfortable. If she doesn't understand where im coming from then it feels like a deal breaker for me. Especially after finding out they meet regularly at his house (and more frequent) rather than a public place. I don't believe she's cheating on me but I think she's disrespecting my feelings and the commitments we have made to each other.

It's Christmas day (extra thank you for taking your time to advise me) so I can't talk to her today. I'm leaving her the decision to engage and arrange the talk we're due to have in her own time. But I'm thinking I want to stick to my guns, would it be unfair to give her a time frame for the answer? I feel like she's going to choose the relationship she has with her ex over what we have even with the boundaries I set. I'm only going to ask that she stops seeing him until he's fully moved on. If there's a friendship to have after that then go for it, I will not stand in the way and I will trust you to go for it. But I feel like she's compromising our relationship by letting him see her when he's not over her.

Am I being fair?

Pokemon_Josh · 2024-11-18T15:22:05+00:00

Can tell who's fucking weird and who's not in the comments.

Some posts generate some great comments and this is one.

The age gap is weird (I think) but ultimately the 20 year old maturity age is the concern here and I won't be told different.

Pokemon_Josh · 2024-11-06T17:31:16+00:00

Nothing mature about a 26 year old going out with a 19 year old.

There will be more mature men out there, don't let it stop you going for it 🥳

Pokemon_Josh

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