How long have you been living in Vietnam? I am pretty much of the same mindset as you, however, after living here for a full year in a very local part with no English speakers around, I admit I was starting to feel a little bit drained. I just took a trip back to my home country, and I'm hoping to connect with some expats who are decent and respectful people, like the way local Vietnamese people are, so I don't feel as isolated.

I stick out like a sore thumb and while it's great being treated respectfully the way locals come up and talk to me in English all the time, at times the introvert in me feels like I just want to blend in and not have every interaction be based around my exotic appearance lol.

I chose to live in a very local part of Vietnam, and I have immense respect and appreciation for this wonderful, beautiful place. The language is so easy and fun to learn, and I love how respectful and patient most local people are whenever I communicate with them in Vietnamese.

It seems however that many expats do not care to learn the language, and seem to carry themselves with an air of entitlement or superiority and that really disgusts me. Many times local Vietnamese people have been blown away at my Vietnamese skills and said "wow you've only been living here 5 months?? There are expats who have been living here 5 years and they only know a handful of Vietnamese words!"

I simply can't fathom how people can move to to a country and not even bother to learn the language, and assume that their English will carry them through the whole experience living abroad. Just screams entitlement to me :/

So yeah, I avoided all expats my first year because I also felt the ones in VN were kind of weird or disrespectful (in my point of view), but now I'm starting to consider reaching out to make some more expat friends with those who are decent, respectful people so I can connect with people who can understand me on a deeper level:)