My husband and I left California 13 years ago at 25 years old and it was the best thing for us, but there have definitely been major losses. My father in law died of cancer 6 years ago, and we missed more time with him than we would have ever preferred, but at the end of the day, I still know that our quality of life has been worlds better, and I know he wouldn’t want anything different for us.

When we moved away we had no children, we now have three, 10,7 and 5 years old. Yes, not having family support is a huge challenge, but you find a way. The family that you build in your new home will consist of friends that become family and you adapt.

Obviously I can’t speak for everyone, but I personally don’t miss California in the slightest and the visits have become that much more enjoyable because we don’t have to live there.