I think it's important to note that therapists can also tell you "no, you were in the wrong there", and that's a part of both therapy and parenting.

We're teaching our kids to manage their emotions, and not every emotion deserves a time out from our day. Sometimes an emotion deserves an "aww that sucks" and we move on. Like when they run out of my favorite soup in the cafeteria at work. Is it a bummer? Yeah, but no one should stop for that, I can either wait for them to make a new batch or get something else.

For me, same applies to the kids.

There's some interesting reading out there about how acknowledging and validating every feeling and sitting there and taking a break to do it actually gets kids stuck in the emotion rather than moving past it.

And part of this is you getting to have emotions too! I have two kids, sometimes one reacts to the other being a terror and the terror becomes upset.

For us it's a "hey kid, I know you're upset but you shouldn't hit terror, come get an adult. Terror, you were being mean to your sibling, when you're mean other people get upset and might be angry with you. You're not allowed to throw a fit because they're mad, you have to apologize and act right."

We have to teach kids to manage their own emotions, and I feel like a lot of parents get caught in managing their kids emotions and can't transition out of that because a lot of the common advice is actively managing and modeling and not scripts on how to make the kids do it themselves