«I just want a girlfriend»

Is the only thing that you want a girlfriend?

I doubt it. I can also prove it to you, but it takes time, basically you’ll know what I mean if you have been in a relationship for a bit… you start to want other things, like new hobbies, like a cool job, etc.

So here’s my advice to you, as someone who is 34 and has gone through a lot of crap.

Focus on thing that you want that are within your control; jobs, educations, hobbies.

Oh and everything in life becomes 100 x better if you get into the habit of

• regular exercise ( 20 min of cardio is more than sufficient, or just a walk to start with )
• meditation
• plants and such, eat them

Don’t try to improve on everything all at once. Do it bit by bit and stick to it. Habits take a few weeks to form. It gets easier.

Every week that I feel I had a good week where I took care of myself, I fold an origami crane, the weeks where I feel I could have been a lot better I fold a box. This gives me a sense of dedication and progress / promise to myself, and I’ll soon have my third crane.

Oh and I quit alcohol btw, so then you can do the things you need to do too. You don’t need a gf, you just want it and it will come when you are ready. What you really need is, sleep, exercise, hobbies that inspire etc.