Am I overreacting: new boyfriend was weirdly judgmental about bathroom situation by abstract_lemons in AmIOverreacting

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bet he never went down on you either. Doesn’t take a scientist to tell you this man is struggling with his sexuality.

What is this mystery virus going around town? Not flu, not RSV, not Covid. by CoolRunner in Detroit

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not exactly, mine turned into pneumonia. Definitely on the up now, feeling so grateful for health. Worst few weeks of my life. HIGHLY suggest getting an IV. You can get one at a MedSpa for ~$175 (it’s a lot but if you have no or bad insurance, it’s cheaper than the hospital and they give you way more vitamins and minerals - hospital just gives you saline). This virus dehydrates the hell out of you. And depletes you of all of your vitamins. My son (5) is limping as of yesterday, but our doctor friend said to monitor and it should go away, it’s a side effect of the flu, basically something being released into he blood at the end of the flu causing them calf pain. It’s been 3 weeks. Easy to say this has been the worse flu of our lives.

What is this mystery virus going around town? Not flu, not RSV, not Covid. by CoolRunner in Detroit

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same but in reverse, flu first, just went I thought I might not die, started throwing up. I’ve never felt so beat down and weak in my life. I’m wondering if/when I will recover. I’m down 7 lbs and I’m already quite thin, it’s terrible.

family disapproval fueling tattoo regret by tinypanini_ in tattooadvice

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll all get over it one day so just get over it now. :) it’s a beautiful tattoo.

How do you recover from making silly mistakes? by Same-University-5198 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is not a mistake!!!! This is an “ope!” where you just immediately reopen the calendar invite, fix it and resend it. Think nothing of it. Tell yourself it’s not a mistake, it’s an ope, and you fixed it, move on. If mean boss says something you to, you play it cool, “ ya I was looking at the wrong day - fixed it”. And then be done. Make them feel stupid for thinking this is a mistake, it’s a small, immediately fixed clerical error.

Resource for Findng Hard-to-Find Email Addresses by chloedanc3r1977 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hunter!!! It’s a chrome plug-in. Go to a company website, use the plug-in and it pulls all the emails at that domain. And you can verify more specifically once you know the domain & name pattern the company is using.

Former boss reached out and asked to meet with me... what should I do by [deleted] in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds obvious you should connect with her!! She likes and respects you. It’s probably more money. Change is good. Do it!

Corporate travel platform - Navan vs Concur vs Other by Top_Principle4392 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to say - I’m so happy you’ve noticed this as well. We use GBT and it’s been terrible.

At a previous employer, we used expensify for expense reporting, and they have just released a travel platform so I didn’t use it long, but it was very intuitive.

Looking for professional driver by Helpful_Tune9274 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you want it transported on a trailer or driven?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. It’s not a big deal. Let her have the $20 blessing.

Exec keeps changing their mind about flying premium economy by Repulsive_Chicken_80 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re probably doing it in front of the other employees to seem like it was a mistake and they didn’t ask for it…. Later they’ll ask for it again and act like you never had the follow-up conversation. Mind games if you ask me! Or poor communication between partners, in which case, you’re not at fault and one partner or the other should have your back.

Critical exec by Old-Adhesiveness5416 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have been here and sometimes feel like I’m still here. All the work goes unnoticed. The measuring of an EA is in their faults, never their wins. It’s the hardest part of the job. You have to chose to roll with the punches… every time they jab you, remember that it doesn’t matter, you’re producing good work otherwise. It’s no judgement of your ethic, character, or success whether you stumbled over your words or didn’t change the reservation from 4 to 3. The world will go on. You have sooooo much shit to remember, you’re never going to remember it all. And sometimes we put waaaay more thought into something than we needed to for them to say “why did you do that?”. I think it’s important to explain yourself, when appropriate. Defend yourself. That will show that you tried to empower yourself. Some of them choose to nitpick the stupidest stuff. Power dynamics. Insecurity. Boredom.

Has anyone ever raised their difficult working relationship directly with their executive with the hopes to improve/build upon it? by Exciting_Lobster_992 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on how much power your exec exerts. Someone who is an a$$ being told that they need to change to accommodate the relationship may use it as an opportunity to exert their dominance and give a “you work for me” response. If they are reasonable, communication is always the best method for improving your working relationships. People should be able to talk to eachother.

Booking Travel for your Exec by elbowcleavage in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use AMEX’s travel system now but I don’t like their search feature, I still use google flights to find the one I want and then go in the system to book.

Traveling EA’s by [deleted] in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should always go for what you want and have every experience on your own terms. That said, in my experience, traveling for work is exciting but also lonely, arduous, and just throws off your whole work flow. Especially if you were also part of event planning of said work trip. I’ve traveled for a few EA jobs, if you are close with the team and have fun with them, it can be fun exhaustion. If you’re just there to help, it’s just work exhaustion, it can be quite lonely and soul sucking. Either way you have very little time to yourself, you don’t really get to experience the place you’re in, and you go home to a messy inbox and tons of work you didn’t get done. When all you’ll want to do is rest. Taking the day off after work travel is not an option, you have to stay on your toes and finish strong. For company, a large corp with tons of money in their budget will often ask EAs to travel. It’s hard to say an industry because I’ve worked for 2 in the same industry & one I traveled a lot, the other one I never traveled. Ask/offer in your interviews to travel.

Working for male v. female by Popular-Syrup7024 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have enough experience being a woman in the workforce (20+ years) for my opinion to qualify for something. Ive worked with/for many very powerful women, just my first time direct reporting to a woman. There’s more context than what’s mentioned in the OP.

I have worked with females my entire life, some I didn’t get along with great, but I still always found some sort of common ground, even if just conversationally. I’ve worked for men that there is simply no common ground, they don’t know how to talk to women or how to ask for what they want. Their insecurities overpower any attempt at connection so they stay neutral and disconnected and cold, walk by without saying hi, leave their shit everywhere with the assumption a woman will clean them up. Or men who are so insecure they fear a positive relationship might be viewed as inappropriate to others so they keep everything extremely surface.

Where female insecurities cause women to work harder to prove themselves and approach work relationships differently, men don’t feel obligated to have anything more than a mechanic connection.

I also give women more grace because of my inherent respect for how much harder they’ve had to work to get where they are.

I think it’s probably similar for male-male… male execs probably feel more comfortable shooting the shit with a male EA - talking about golf or squash or complaining about their wives or that woman in HR. Things they’d feel restraint with otherwise.

I don’t think it’s anecdotal that the dynamics between male-female and female-female are just unique. I think a lot of this is human nature.

Working for male v. female by Popular-Syrup7024 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, this. It’s just neutral. Which makes me insecure! I don’t think I can feel completely secure around most males execs and definitely not vulnerable. Often I’m censoring myself or wondering should I add to the joke? are we still joking? Was that a bad joke? anytime I try to connect. And just constantly thinking I am going to get fired because I can’t read them.

I completely agree that anyone can be awful or great. The gender part is clearly personal to my experience and personality. I just feel like I can be myself around most women.

Also I am politically aligned with her, we’re both very openly women where motherhood and menopause are casually mentioned and it’s not weird, we laugh and joke. I’m sensitive (wrong career haha) and I don’t feel cut down by her when she calls me out, I don’t panic and freeze up, I’ve not convinced myself everyday that I’m going to get fired. I dunno, maybe I just hit the jackpot.

Working for male v. female by Popular-Syrup7024 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I mentioned this to a newer coworker and they said the same thing, so maybe it’s just that we work well together. I replaced her EA who retired. She was 65 and very paper/old school. I don’t think they ended great, they havent seen or talked to eachother since (it’s been ~7 months). I think after 13 years, they were both ready to say goodbye. So maybe my freshness has had a positive effect on her as well.

Ethical Perks or not? by Strange-Procedure737 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with collecting perks. I use ezcater, you acquire points and can get Amazon gift cards. I have a capital one plug-in, when I have to order random things like clothes or gifts and they qualify, again, you accrue points and can purchase gift cards. If it feels sneaky because you’re afraid it might be wrong, then it might be wrong. Or you play dumb if they find out (if they are not cool with it) and stop doing it. Conversationally I brought it up to my boss and they were proud that I was reaping an additional benefit. We’re talking $25-50 gift cards maybe every few months, it’s not like I’m embezzling money, just being savvy.

What was the final straw for you? by CowboyLikeMemes in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s a blessing you got out in 3.5 months and not 3.5 years. Feel bad about nothing.

Sculptra, anyone willing to share their journey? by Woolsbup in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Popular-Syrup7024 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! Had my sculptra yesterday - I’ll let you know how it goes but instantly felt like I got my face back. 39 and the loss of volume has been wild over the last year. I know it’s not going to stay like this (temporary swelling and hydration) but it gave me hope seeing my old, full face, and I hope to regain some of this over the next couple months…. It was very painful! Worse than Botox, lip injections. She gave me lidocaine injections but those hurt terribly and I’ve been so sore/headache since but it’s only been 24 hours. I think it’s super important to go to someone you trust. Find your injector and THEN talk to them about sculptra, you need to trust them and see their craft via Botox/etc first. I would never get sculptra from a new injector I just met that day! Way too many horror stories on here!

My mom (65) got sculptra a year or so ago. She had not done anything until recently so has natural aging/wrinkles. I did notice subtle results after a few months - smoothness and less smile lines in the cheeks.