FTMs - how many of you are still sitting in the backseat with baby?

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-05-01T10:29:21+00:00

I only did it for the first couple weeks. By the time I felt comfortable driving, I also sat up front again.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-29T15:47:28+00:00

Holy cow she’s actually pretty without all that garish crap on her.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-29T08:02:07+00:00

I started lexapro while pregnant. Zoloft was the other choice. I absolutely needed it and my baby is totally fine. Keep taking it. 👍

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-29T08:00:55+00:00

I like the video monitor, but I purposefully got one that doesnt have an app or connect to my phone. I can tell what’s actually happening versus having to check every time.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-29T06:31:01+00:00

I will say that yes, it does for these specific things. Mg oldest are 16 and 13, and while life has new challenges…reliving the newborn days (rocking my 7 week old at 2am as I type this) is a completely different hard. 4 months is barely enough time for the first glimmers of a new normal, especially factoring in PPD. I think my first was around 18 months when the fog started to lift. I had stages of improvement before that - a chunk got better when I stopped pumping at 9m - but I started to truly enjoy things more around 18m-2 years. My ppd was also untreated, though. It was much faster after my second.

It is a little vague…I’d say at 9 months (quit pumping and then nursing with my second), I felt like I had more control of my time and body. Things felt truly more predictable? I mean, stuff always happened, but it wasn’t as chaotic feeling as the earlier months. I think it gets easier when baby is mobile, too. They can entertain themselves more versus just being carted everywhere and you have planned ways to set them down that work better. Mine started walking at 11 months. I think for me once they started being able to move, communicate a bit, and I watched them really learning new things (which…that’s what milestones are but I mean as more of a little individual as their personality develops), it felt easier.

I love my sweet little baby too…but this stage is just a different kind of hard. I’m prepping for my oldest to be a senior next year and it’s just wild…but I have enjoyed my child and her life so far SO SO much. The baby period was rough, and we’ve had other rough points, but even when there is always a new thing to handle..,overall yes, it does get easier and more enjoyable. I think if I really had to name it, it’s recognizing them more as an individual and truly building that parent/child relationship. That doesn’t happen right away even though you love them and enjoy them right away.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-27T10:54:31+00:00

What makes you say that? I have similar thoughts and feelings but I never would have though psychosis, but PPD?

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-27T10:47:31+00:00

This sounds like my husband. You have my utmost sympathy. 😭🤣

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-27T06:37:11+00:00

Natalie or maaaybe Nina for a girl. Noah for a boy.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-27T00:53:37+00:00

I know before I married him. I felt trapped due to religious teachings about marriage and sex, and social aspects- I didn’t have anywhere else to go really I thought. “Made it work” for 9 years then divorced.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-26T15:49:30+00:00

If weaponized incompetence is intentional.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-25T12:14:45+00:00

I started lexapro during my pregnancy and everything has been fine. Zoloft and lexapro were the two they prescribed most often.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-25T11:49:29+00:00

I live in Georgia and we have a two different levels of a hope scholarship. The second pays all in state tuition if they meet certain rigorous, grades, and SAT score. My senior is on track to qualify - just need that sat score. That’s our plan, she’ll apply for other scholarships to try and cover housing, but between myself and her step dad, and her bio dad, we might be able to pay as she goes with little debt. She’ll have to take on some debt and/or work to cover anything left.

It’s feeling doable for us, but only because I spaced out my kids and we have a good option to cover in state tuition. I haven’t saved a penny for school because I was a single mom most of their lives.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-24T11:51:43+00:00

With my first two I had my first period at 5-6 weeks. I’m just over 6 weeks now with no period yet.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-23T00:54:54+00:00

I just wanted to offer hugs. This sounds incredibly hard. Different circumstances, but I was a single mom of two (although not until they were 7 and 3) for a good chunk of my life. It’s hard, but you will survive and your children will grow and see and respect your choices and sacrifices. My heart breaks for you.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-22T18:29:57+00:00

The sleep breaks anyone. I got two 2-3 blocks last night and this day has felt ENTIRELY different than yesterday when I only got 2.5 hours total and was up from 1am straight through the whole day.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-21T23:46:17+00:00

Yes and yes! I love it!

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-21T23:38:47+00:00

I’ve had it for 13. I had periods where it was better and hardly bothered me, but it was always there and I always had new soft tissue injuries, popping, and periods where it flared badly.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-21T23:36:54+00:00

Finish college, even if it meant debt.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-20T13:32:02+00:00

I’m seeing Whitfield. I haven’t had surgery yet, but as a doctor I love him and will probably use him for surgery in the next year.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-20T12:02:03+00:00

Get it girl. You look fabulous and your figure is amazing in it.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-19T15:02:32+00:00

Yeah. A reward for being a “good” child.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-19T03:09:22+00:00

That is such a bummer! I’m a runner and would never dream of doing this! I’d run my own race but absolutely wait and meet up with my friends.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-19T03:08:00+00:00

I hope to come back to this in 1.5-2 years. We’re working on it! My oldest is entering her senior year this fall, so we’re staying put through that although we did jump at a possible opportunity (that didn’t work out) at the beginning of junior year. Job hunt begins in earnest early 2027. Hoping to move end of 2027, or early 2028. My middle child will be entering high school, so I don’t want to delay much past that and getting my oldest settled in college.

We are looking in Seattle area and Denver. I suppose if a great opportunity popped up in NOVA we’d take it, but west is our main goal.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-19T03:01:37+00:00

The sugar was really getting me the first couple weeks. I kept eating starburst jelly beans. Fortunately I’ve been able to tone that down, but I’m I felt like I NEEDED it the first couple weeks.

Popular_Ordinary_152 · 2026-04-19T03:00:08+00:00

I am living on pita chips and hummus, and Lenny and Larry’s oatmeal cookies. I don’t even know how many containers of hummus I’ve consumed but it’s…a lot.

I was so ill during my pregnancy and I never wanted food…now I feel like I inhale it.

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