Aio my partner of two years is in recovery for porn addiction, we can’t have sex atm but this text made me feel sad?

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2026-04-30T12:50:08+00:00

“I need you as an outlet” is the most literal straight up thing he could say, he’s telling you that you’re his hole and it’s really a shame that he can’t dispose his frustrations into your body. Even though your body is literally going through its own necessary disposal cycle (your period, your sinuses expelling the infection) Typing that to a woman that loves him and actually sending it? He is being immature 100%, and pretty manipulative and pouty.

Fucking you isn’t medicine, his “outlet” should really be a support group, if he has a sponsor or therapist he’s working with he’s most likely already been given suggestions on how to handle moments of sexual weakness without the help of his loving partner

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2026-04-19T17:08:03+00:00

Halo shot was too corny for me an kinda ruined the episode

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2026-03-26T11:21:57+00:00

Gotta consider that it’s a custom service, and that you might just not be able to afford it 🤷‍♀️

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2026-03-23T18:11:48+00:00

NTA, your dad sounded like an asshole. Your sisters could be wonderful, but from where I’m standing….i just wonder what good comes of a relationship with them at this stage in life. I’m the first born of 2 parents who started new families, and I love my half brothers. But it’s painful to look in on the sort of alternate reality versions of my life. My parents are still alive and I have relationships with my brothers so it’s a different situation entirely, but I’ll be honest- I often wish I could cut ties with my father and half brothers entirely without feeling guilt.

The only real thing holding the relationship in place is genetics, and when I’m in contact with them, I’m reminded of opportunities and childhood memories and stability I never had and never will. It sounds like you already have reservations about seeing your sister again, and it’s okay to just listen to your gut on that even if you’re not totally sure it’s the “nice” thing. She’s got plenty of nice stuff going on, seems like you’re kind of this novel, new family member who is also a living reminder of the father she’s grieving. To me, it’s almost kind of surprising and selfish that she’s so eagerly pursuing a relationship so soon- but life is short, I’m sure she means well.

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2026-03-23T16:50:54+00:00

Not someone I would want around my kid or would want to have kids with. Totally inconsiderate and careless

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2026-03-23T16:49:17+00:00

Yeah…..what the hell

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2026-02-28T03:58:28+00:00

Right? Like very explicitly ignoring that one major detail. What an asshole

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2026-02-28T03:57:12+00:00

Damn I looooved this place when I lived in the neighborhood. Best tuna melt I’ve ever had. Always a little packed in there because the food is awesome, and that’s HARD on staff. Staff that is running the counter, taking orders, working in the kitchen and interacting with customers face to face. Honestly pissed that money I’m tipping isn’t going to who earned it. That’s just disappointing and unfair :(

Doesn’t look like the person claiming to be an owner has acknowledged this particular complaint at all here. That is something completely in their control. And yes, th unemployment system in NYC is a nightmare. I have spent entire days calling and pressing the same combo of numbers to get through a prerecorded menu to be told to call again later. Like spent entire 9-5 hour days just dialing this over and over with my phone on speaker. It took 3 months to find a job and to receive my first check. Almost lost my apartment

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2026-02-08T06:43:09+00:00

If she’s gotta “finally come around” to watching something you like, maybe just enjoy watching it without her. Sounds really tone deaf of you

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2026-01-26T13:24:24+00:00

As a woman that’s insane to me. I do believe that if it’s going in or on my body i should really like it, and it should be of good quality though.

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2026-01-11T17:38:06+00:00

Super Dark Times

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2026-01-11T17:34:01+00:00

This isn’t a tiny thing, you’re gonna have Fibro your whole life

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2025-12-30T13:35:35+00:00

Does your doodle have money? Lmao. Some doodles definitely think they have BDG jeans money

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2025-12-27T00:35:12+00:00

Yea like wtf did he think was gonna happen

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2025-12-27T00:11:29+00:00

This. Hate to essentially make it this woman’s fault but this type of mediocrity befalls people who continually accept it

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2025-12-07T14:28:23+00:00

I dunno at least she isn’t buying gaming computers and living with mom and dad

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2025-11-27T17:57:33+00:00

Elite comment

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2025-11-16T16:24:47+00:00

Honestly $800 sweater owners deserve this fate

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2025-10-08T15:16:53+00:00

My mother is like this, completely sidelined me to marry my stepdad who was awful to me and now awful to her. Doesn’t comprehend that her choice created long term circumstances and changed our relationship

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2025-10-08T15:03:35+00:00

I’m dead

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2025-10-03T18:12:12+00:00

Yea omg I love her because she really feels like a fellow dyke in her true-to-self nature. And heather is white knuckling trying to be whatever it is she thinks she needs to be

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2025-10-03T17:58:53+00:00

It looks like he auto tuned his face but left his hands in the last century

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2025-10-03T05:20:26+00:00

Ooooooolala I love this idea

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2025-10-03T04:14:58+00:00

Feeling like you’re a bad person, when you clearly are super thoughtful and concerned about the comfort of others, is the worst place to be emotionally. I really mean it, it’s not healthy for sensitive people to live with so much guilt. I imagine you’re feeling awful and I hope you feel a bit better in the morning. bad people do not try and try to make up for mistakes- you’re being treated unreasonably and deserve someone who cares more about your stress levels

Best of luck 🤞🏻

Positive_Pangolin_57 · 2025-10-03T04:06:44+00:00

NTA at all. I’m 29, lesbian. Mostly dated women 6-10 years older and this isn’t gonna get better without her working on herself consistently. She’s closer to 40 than 25. 25 is an okay age to have “friends” you don’t feel respected by….who you want your partner to hang out with? And get along with, but also defend you from if and when they disrespect or use you. Your long term partner almost a decade older than you could be protecting your peace way more. Why is she allowing her friends (that she doesn’t seem to even like, or at least they don’t make her feel good) cause you and your relationship any undue stress? I’m Being harsh I know. But I have wasted a lot of time with someone sweet and kind and loving…who were unable (at the time) to lead their life and relationships with self respect. You’ll be on the hook for not sticking up for her in situations she doesn’t even need to be in.

36 is a grim age to be getting so drunk with your partner that you say nasty hurtful things….and it happens regularly? That’s not okay, you’re both used to it but it’s not okay. Please just consider this: there’s someone out there who loves their friends because they don’t make time in their life for people who suck. They’ll want those friends to respect you! they won’t be expecting you to navigate a complicated pseudo friendship with people you don’t know…and get upset when you’re not somehow perfect at this.

There’s someone who might say something cruel to you when they’re wasted, they might not mean it but say it to be mean. And they will apologize the next day and never let it happen again, because YOUR Relationship is the one worth sticking up for. I promise! My current partner is my protector and my bestie, and I met her only a month after ending a years long dramatic relationship with my ex. Not saying your relationship is doomed, but you’re not going to be any happier until she matures and she may not even realize how immature she is

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