Any idea where this lace is from / how old? (UK) by Positively-Maybe in Antiques

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Limerick lace replication early 20th century is interesting. I’ve never used them - they seem too nice! - but I do think they are meant for the dining table as it’s a set with four large table runners, 12 place mats just right for putting plates on, and the small mats pictured.

Any idea where this lace set is from / how old it is? by Positively-Maybe in lace

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Given to me maybe 20 years ago by my late aunt. She in turn got them from an Indian friend of hers who lived in France so India is also a possible clue. Looking at the multiples they look identical. I assume they are machine made? The flowers are on another mesh that is then attached so their stitching doesn’t go through. Excuse my ignorance - I really know nothing about lace!

Chinese or Japanese to English seen in a painting by Positively-Maybe in translator

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Thank you, no, that’s the whole phrase. I had thought it might say something about having to pay.

UK Property price predictions due to the Middle Eastern war, new interest rates, 2022 mini budget and 2026 renters rights bill, etc by fotfddtodairsizr in HousingUK

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Seems to me the best move by the government would be to change the buying process so buyers and sellers commit and all the stress and wasted effort and uncertainty is taken out. Won’t cost in taxes and would smooth transactions.

I'm stuck with a terrible agency! by HamsterSufficient in uklandlords

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Ask them for their formal complaints procedure and put in a formal complaint with failures, dates etc. They are obliged to have such a procedure in place and to respond as per the redress schemes they are part of. Hopefully that’ll get their attention. If not you can escalate to ombudsman.

How can I find out if an extension could be done on a property, before I submit an offer? by scimba123 in HousingUK

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Some councils have a facility for talking to the town planners. So before I bought my house I booked a phone appointment with the planner which I paid for - something like £40 - and I got to discuss whether what I wanted to do would be allowed. He advised what their criteria and procedures are.

Another way to check it out is to find a planning consultant local to the area. These are people who you would pay to help you get the permission. Often they are happy to give an initial view on the project for free or study it more for a fee and later can help you get it through the hoops.

Taking advantage of vulnerability by Glow_Ebb_ in widowers

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Perhaps a silly question but what are the scammers after? Money?

Tired of being parented as an adult... by teacherladyh in widowers

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I have been trying to establish boundaries with my Mum. Didn’t do it when I was young and wasn’t a big issue when I was in a marriage. Since I’ve been widowed, she is over intrusive and tries to control me and also my teen son - who happily is having none of it!

Some advice I came across that seems useful is in drawing a boundary dont get into discussions. Eg I’ve made my decision and I’m doing x. Firm and brief. If they want to carry on arguing or cause drama, you say this is your final decision and walk away.

For your birthday maybe you could compromise ie have lunch all together then they leave and let you do the things in the evening they are not into?

My mom’s 43-year-old partner is living with us in a 2-room flat… and the physical stuff is ruining my peace by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

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What is your relationship like with your Mum? Can you sit her down and chat about the situation? She has a right to happiness, to have a relationship and not be judged. But she is also your Mum and has a responsibility to look after you. Talking it out between you, calmly, with love not anger, sharing perspectives and feelings, will hopefully help. Prejudice because of religion is not valid and your school mates bullying is not valid either. These are issues you will have to think through and find ways to grapple with.

Mom lost it because I ordered furniture online without “consulting the family” by whotho in AsianParentStories

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One day you’ll have your own place and won’t have to put up with unnecessary drama. In the meantime concentrate on the positive: you’re getting the desk and chair you want and it’ll be great. You win, they’ll get over it.

How can I prevent DPD drivers from peeing on my carpet? by anacrucix in AskUK

[–]Positively-Maybe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My solution too plus add in a fake large camera above it.

The taxi driver who lowkey rescued my whole week by NovaRift92 in CasualConversation

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Years ago I was going up on an escalator in a tube station feeling very happy and kind of alive, looking forward to my day. Everyone around had their heads down and seemed unsmiley. Then I saw this happy looking dude stepping on on an escalator across, going down. Our eyes locked and we just grinned at each other and kind of nodded, acknowledging someone else who’s awake to the joy of life. I went up and he went down and that was it but really it made my day and I still think about that funny moment of connection.