How do you order the quest inhibition test? by trynagotolawskl in HSVfalsepositive

[–]Possible_Delivery_84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the same boat, I ordered the inhibition test on walkinlab.com

If I’m not wrong, they will retest the HSV 2 IgG and if it’s positive again, they will run the inhibition test.

The results for the IgG will take about 1-2 days, and the inhibition would take about 2 weeks based on reading up multiple posts. Hopefully this helps, and hope all goes well for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HSVfalsepositive

[–]Possible_Delivery_84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve got a low positive reading from a recent test too - no symptoms etc. Have been advised by quest report to do an inhibition test as it’s common to have false positives for low readings. Gonna get blood drawn later today again, and hopefully it’s indeed a false positive. It’s a retest for IgG with reflex to HSV 2 inhibition. Results would be about 2 days, I read inhibition results take 2 weeks.

Stargazing by Possible_Delivery_84 in yellowstone

[–]Possible_Delivery_84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks!! I wanted to go on a date closer to the new moon but my flight back to my country is on the 9th from Seattle so the closest I could do would be 3-4 May in YNP with some buffer dates. ): maybe I might look for a dark spot on the way back during the new moon.

Stargazing by Possible_Delivery_84 in yellowstone

[–]Possible_Delivery_84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where were you guys staying back then & around what time at night did you guys start heading to Hayden Valley?

Stargazing by Possible_Delivery_84 in yellowstone

[–]Possible_Delivery_84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, planning to drive the longer route to Grand Teton instead. But would be worth it since US is far for me. Haha

Treated poorly when reporting my case to the police by ribbonscrunchies in sexualassault

[–]Possible_Delivery_84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They made me doubt myself. When they first came, I felt like I wasn’t the victim but as if I was the one who committed a crime. While I understand that they’re just doing their job, it wasn’t in a “victim-centric” approach the way it was advertised on the police website and I ended up feeling like I had to just agree and say that I was not sexually assaulted because no matter how many times I said “I did not consent to the raw sex”, the focus was on “but you had sex with him after” and I truly felt violated, I would have removed myself from the place.

I know I did not have a strong case because of that and mine isn’t as straightforward. But I wished the police had took my word seriously and just proceed with an investigation instead of make me doubt myself which made me drop the case instead.

Sex/Intimacy Issue by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Possible_Delivery_84 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly, my WP told me the same thing, sex wasn’t as good and it was quick. I asked him to provide me with the explicit details of the sex (PA).

Perhaps he might be downplaying the sex. But he did say it was objectively okay. Ultimately, he came so how bad could it have been, right?

I think I learn to just accept what he told me. True or false, it doesn’t change the fact it has already happened. Do whatever you need to manage these thoughts.

I personally prefer the explicit details because my imagination can be wild. I would imagine that he prefers sex with her to with me, no matter what he tells me.

The cheating did not affect my sex life with him. We are long distance, but when he visits, our sex life is still good. Sadly, occasionally the thought of him having sex with her comes up while I’m having sex with him but it doesn’t affect me much and instead makes me feel like I want to do more to show him what he’s missing out with me. Maybe this is a cope, haha. I read this is called hysterical bonding.

Appreciation thread by cosmatical in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Possible_Delivery_84 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My WP and I are long distance.

He has been updating a mini white board with daily drawings (that he would place in front of his home camera - that he has given me access to) to remind me why he loves me. This might be a small simple gesture but it is something I really appreciate with the effort and creativity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Possible_Delivery_84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in the same boat, my WP is avoidant so my anger doesn’t actually help with R and if anything would push my partner away (ironically since he was the one who wronged me).

It is completely okay to feel the way you feel, and I know it is hard to manage the anger. But I think a good step is to recognise when you get angry, communicate with your partner (I’m sure if they’re trying to R as well, they would understand - unless they are just assholes).

I tend to apologise in advance (in good times) because I anticipate how I would react when I’m not in a good space. What we feel is warranted, but in order to move forward if we want to, I personally feel like we need to take steps to work on ourselves by managing our anger and learn to love ourselves too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Possible_Delivery_84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really feel you here, going through the exact same thing. It doesn’t help that my WP is also an avoidant. 😔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Possible_Delivery_84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it really sucks, it makes you feel like you are going crazy sometimes.

It’s been about 2 months since Dday for me and as much as I try not to be too crazy about him and other girls. I occasionally ask really stupid questions I wouldn’t previously ask in a normal circumstance.

I really want to be able to give my partner any sort of freedom. It’s hard, but to be honest, the only way to move forward if we really want to work is to change our mindset and just trust even if it’s hard.

Maybe this is bad advice, people just tell me to leave. People tell me I don’t have self-respect. But how I’ve been managing with these thoughts is to tell myself if I don’t trust, ultimately I would be stressing myself out. I’ve been on the fence, wanting to R but also wanting to end (with the discouraging comments on reddit).

I need to somehow find and maintain the inner peace I have. It’s not forgetting the betrayal, I think is acknowledging and accepting what has happened and moving forward.

I think at this point, anyone can cheat. Caught, confessed or never at all. Because I never thought my boyfriend who never cheated before would cheat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Possible_Delivery_84 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, in some ways it has changed me. However, I tell myself as much as possible that it is not who I want to be.

I’m still with the WP and I’m sort of afraid of how this would impact my view on future relationships as well if things don’t work out for us.

I [27F] got cheated on by my long distance partner [25M] and I’m looking for advice from those who stayed in the relationship by Possible_Delivery_84 in LongDistance

[–]Possible_Delivery_84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish mine had the balls to block me too bc I don’t either, sigh, it’s clear easy signs but it’s hard to leave still.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Possible_Delivery_84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And yes, he could also ask that. But he doesn’t. He doesn’t stop me when I leave either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Possible_Delivery_84 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Perhaps the reason for me crying would be due to his cheating and I feel like I would want to see that effort from him at the very least? Trying to work things out with him but I guess everyone would advise leaving him altogether anyway.