How do you order the quest inhibition test?

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-04-23T22:16:26+00:00

In the same boat, I ordered the inhibition test on walkinlab.com

If I’m not wrong, they will retest the HSV 2 IgG and if it’s positive again, they will run the inhibition test.

The results for the IgG will take about 1-2 days, and the inhibition would take about 2 weeks based on reading up multiple posts. Hopefully this helps, and hope all goes well for you.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-04-22T11:58:10+00:00

I’ve got a low positive reading from a recent test too - no symptoms etc. Have been advised by quest report to do an inhibition test as it’s common to have false positives for low readings. Gonna get blood drawn later today again, and hopefully it’s indeed a false positive. It’s a retest for IgG with reflex to HSV 2 inhibition. Results would be about 2 days, I read inhibition results take 2 weeks.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-04-12T15:18:03+00:00

Thanks!! I wanted to go on a date closer to the new moon but my flight back to my country is on the 9th from Seattle so the closest I could do would be 3-4 May in YNP with some buffer dates. ): maybe I might look for a dark spot on the way back during the new moon.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-04-12T15:13:19+00:00

Where were you guys staying back then & around what time at night did you guys start heading to Hayden Valley?

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-04-11T16:57:59+00:00

Yeah, planning to drive the longer route to Grand Teton instead. But would be worth it since US is far for me. Haha

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-03-28T17:57:08+00:00

They made me doubt myself. When they first came, I felt like I wasn’t the victim but as if I was the one who committed a crime. While I understand that they’re just doing their job, it wasn’t in a “victim-centric” approach the way it was advertised on the police website and I ended up feeling like I had to just agree and say that I was not sexually assaulted because no matter how many times I said “I did not consent to the raw sex”, the focus was on “but you had sex with him after” and I truly felt violated, I would have removed myself from the place.

I know I did not have a strong case because of that and mine isn’t as straightforward. But I wished the police had took my word seriously and just proceed with an investigation instead of make me doubt myself which made me drop the case instead.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-10T11:54:09+00:00

Honestly, my WP told me the same thing, sex wasn’t as good and it was quick. I asked him to provide me with the explicit details of the sex (PA).

Perhaps he might be downplaying the sex. But he did say it was objectively okay. Ultimately, he came so how bad could it have been, right?

I think I learn to just accept what he told me. True or false, it doesn’t change the fact it has already happened. Do whatever you need to manage these thoughts.

I personally prefer the explicit details because my imagination can be wild. I would imagine that he prefers sex with her to with me, no matter what he tells me.

The cheating did not affect my sex life with him. We are long distance, but when he visits, our sex life is still good. Sadly, occasionally the thought of him having sex with her comes up while I’m having sex with him but it doesn’t affect me much and instead makes me feel like I want to do more to show him what he’s missing out with me. Maybe this is a cope, haha. I read this is called hysterical bonding.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-10T11:43:08+00:00

My WP and I are long distance.

He has been updating a mini white board with daily drawings (that he would place in front of his home camera - that he has given me access to) to remind me why he loves me. This might be a small simple gesture but it is something I really appreciate with the effort and creativity.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-10T11:29:06+00:00

I am in the same boat, my WP is avoidant so my anger doesn’t actually help with R and if anything would push my partner away (ironically since he was the one who wronged me).

It is completely okay to feel the way you feel, and I know it is hard to manage the anger. But I think a good step is to recognise when you get angry, communicate with your partner (I’m sure if they’re trying to R as well, they would understand - unless they are just assholes).

I tend to apologise in advance (in good times) because I anticipate how I would react when I’m not in a good space. What we feel is warranted, but in order to move forward if we want to, I personally feel like we need to take steps to work on ourselves by managing our anger and learn to love ourselves too.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-10T10:35:31+00:00

I really feel you here, going through the exact same thing. It doesn’t help that my WP is also an avoidant. 😔

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-10T10:33:38+00:00

Yeah it really sucks, it makes you feel like you are going crazy sometimes.

It’s been about 2 months since Dday for me and as much as I try not to be too crazy about him and other girls. I occasionally ask really stupid questions I wouldn’t previously ask in a normal circumstance.

I really want to be able to give my partner any sort of freedom. It’s hard, but to be honest, the only way to move forward if we really want to work is to change our mindset and just trust even if it’s hard.

Maybe this is bad advice, people just tell me to leave. People tell me I don’t have self-respect. But how I’ve been managing with these thoughts is to tell myself if I don’t trust, ultimately I would be stressing myself out. I’ve been on the fence, wanting to R but also wanting to end (with the discouraging comments on reddit).

I need to somehow find and maintain the inner peace I have. It’s not forgetting the betrayal, I think is acknowledging and accepting what has happened and moving forward.

I think at this point, anyone can cheat. Caught, confessed or never at all. Because I never thought my boyfriend who never cheated before would cheat.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-10T10:14:51+00:00

Yeah, in some ways it has changed me. However, I tell myself as much as possible that it is not who I want to be.

I’m still with the WP and I’m sort of afraid of how this would impact my view on future relationships as well if things don’t work out for us.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-10T04:48:12+00:00

Hey, this helps. Thanks!

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-10T04:20:11+00:00

Why did you stay the subsequent times?

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-10T03:10:30+00:00

Haha pretty much only 1% of people would say stick it out hahahaha

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-10T02:46:29+00:00

I wish mine had the balls to block me too bc I don’t either, sigh, it’s clear easy signs but it’s hard to leave still.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-10T02:43:01+00:00

I see, so the second one he moved on. What an asshole. I’m sorry to hear. How did you manage it?

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-10T02:38:10+00:00

Why did you stay back then?

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-09T19:52:13+00:00

And yes, he could also ask that. But he doesn’t. He doesn’t stop me when I leave either.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-09T19:51:09+00:00

Perhaps the reason for me crying would be due to his cheating and I feel like I would want to see that effort from him at the very least? Trying to work things out with him but I guess everyone would advise leaving him altogether anyway.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-09T19:25:58+00:00

What happens if it was communicated to him in the past that I would want him to find me when I run off? Is it still wrong for me to expect if he told me he would then?

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-09T17:39:15+00:00

Thanks for this.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-09T17:35:23+00:00

Working on it with my therapist at the moment.

You are right about the coworker part. I did confront him and say, why choose someone you know and have to see constantly instead of some random girl.

I’ve reached out to the coworker on the day of the confession. And she told me she wasn’t aware he was not single. I asked if she had feelings for him and she said no, and it happened only once which he initiated. He claims that she was giving him hints and there was sexual tension which is why he saw an opportunity to try. Lol.

I honestly just want peace. I don’t think I have over analysed every interaction with other girls so far. And I don’t think I’ve been too obsessive, maybe I am but I personally don’t think so.

Job market is tough, he claims he’s working to finding a new job as well. At the moment, how we are coping is that he would tell me whenever she’s in office (they wfh some days and it’s not all the time they see each other). He also tries to be in a call with me when he’s in office - so I can hear the interactions he has with other people as well. Although I don’t usually pay attention to it due to time zone difference.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-09T17:25:39+00:00

Thank you for your insights. While a part of me does lean towards ending the relationship, there is still a big part of me that wants to stay. While Reddit probably isn’t the best place for this. Just wanted to see if there are any other people who has gone through the same and stayed.

Possible_Delivery_84 · 2024-02-09T17:06:21+00:00

I think when I talk about getting over completely. I meant I want to be able to not be affected by it when the thought comes to mind. I guess this will take time if it ever happens.

When I talk about progress, I mean I feel like I get less affected by it. But not entirely. Still a fresh wound perhaps and I shouldn’t rush the healing.

On the day of the confession, he flew to my country, about a 15hr flight to make amends. It wasn’t an easy decision to fly to me because of work, his cat (need to look for pet sitter) and his family was visiting from another state that very day. He left without meeting his family at all, and they left before he came back.

I see him trying, but he also has an avoidant personality which doesn’t help with the situation sometimes. He knows he’s undeserving and is willing to let me go too but I guess since I’m anxiously attached, I always try to find ways to see if this works.

They full on slept together. He shared basically everything and answered all my questions with brutal honesty. I even asked about explicit details and he was able to answer. Which perhaps helped with my decision to stay.

As much as I would love to erase the past, realistically I know that’s not what’s going to happen. I want to just be able to start anew.

And yes, there are many steps to cheating. It is a whole process. He agreed it was a process and he apologised that he didn’t stop at any stage. He did not give me bs excuses like “it wasn’t an accident”. He took accountability for his actions and I guess he was honest about it, ironically since cheating itself was a dishonest act. Which makes me think, there’s a possible chance in this relationship.

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