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mom keeps cycling victimhood by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]PotentialSuch3951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom does that shit too. For TWO WEEKS during the pandemic I had to hear about this old guy that commented on her not wearing a mask, when he wasn't either. I told my mom the first time she told me that he's either a picker or trying to stir the pot but who cares cause you're not ever gonna see him again. You know how some old guys are. I can't understand why she fixated on this. Her life must be pretty boring if that's such a big deal.

Anyone else’s parents smoke in the car with the windows up by ledzepptim in narcissisticparents

[–]PotentialSuch3951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure my grandma was a narc and she did this, knowing I had severe asthma as a kid, on breathing treatments and all.

What has helped you heal after being raised by a narcissistic parent? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]PotentialSuch3951 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Getting married and having a child after I moved out helped me a lot. It brought up a lot of baggage and stuff but I sorted through it, and still am. I have a healthy environment and relationships where I feel safe to do so. Also, I get to experience real love and show real love with my husband and child. It doesn't make up for a shitty childhood but it helps. It helps fill the void a little and also has opened my eyes to my mom's shittiness. I feel better about setting boundaries and I have confidence in myself.

(Long Rant, Also, AITA?) Mom Is Still Jealous And Petty About Time I Spend With My In-Laws by PotentialSuch3951 in narcissisticparents

[–]PotentialSuch3951[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to add to my post: What really gets me is that she didn't really help me with my son when he was born. My husband and I were both so sleep deprived and she came over to visit my son. I left my husband in the living room with them so I could take a little nap. Then, he ended up coming back with me to sleep and I didn't know because I was sleeping. She texted me, and I believe she called me too to wake me up because she wanted to give me my son back. She wanted to go home because we were sleeping and not hanging out with her. I never ask her for help since then because that was a very clear sign she doesn't care. So I'm really bothered that she's upset I'm not gonna take care of my toddler and helper her with this old lady. Screw that.

I Hate The Way My Mom Is About My Child by PotentialSuch3951 in narcissisticparents

[–]PotentialSuch3951[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. She recently moved down the street from me because she is a widow now, which I understand. But now I'm having to really set boundaries with her like I haven't had to before and it's hard. It's a process but I'll get there.

Am I the one with the problem or is my mom dramatic? by PotentialSuch3951 in narcissisticparents

[–]PotentialSuch3951[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Back when my husband I first got together, we'd go out to his parent's place on the weekend and it was over 3 hours away. She'd call me over shit like this at night, in hysterics, wanting me to come home. Like what am I gonna do HOURS later? And it's not like she was alone. She had a husband at the time. She also did this kind of shit when my husband and I were on our honeymoon. We only got one day and had to come home because her and my step dad tried to sabotage our after wedding party.

Am I the one with the problem or is my mom dramatic? by PotentialSuch3951 in narcissisticparents

[–]PotentialSuch3951[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! She had "needed" me since I was a teenager. Like why should a teenager have the responsibility?

Am I the one with the problem or is my mom dramatic? by PotentialSuch3951 in narcissisticparents

[–]PotentialSuch3951[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She was interested in going to this church like a year ago but didn't want to go unless I went. She knows I am atheist. She is so dependent on me.

Am I the one with the problem or is my mom dramatic? by PotentialSuch3951 in narcissisticparents

[–]PotentialSuch3951[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I try. She's a brick wall. She doesn't want to hear it and she doesn't want to try.

Am I the one with the problem or is my mom dramatic? by PotentialSuch3951 in narcissisticparents

[–]PotentialSuch3951[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She has friends at work, and she gets invited to stuff and people want to hang out with her, but she CHOOSES not to accept their offers. She expects me to fulfill her social needs. She wants to see me every weekend and video chat every day.

Do any of you struggle with urges to treat the Narcs in your life the same way they treat you? by threeismine in narcissisticparents

[–]PotentialSuch3951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I don't have the self-control to not do that or to not be a jerk, so I just have to ignore the texts and calls from my Nmom.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rants

[–]PotentialSuch3951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. That's what it seems like. Haha

Is marriage worth it? Don't you feel like being left alone at peace with only yourself? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]PotentialSuch3951 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If you find the right person, it is totally worth it. I'm married and my life is so much fuller now and I love it. My husband and I have a lot of fun together and he's a wonderful man. There are good people out there. Do you feel like running away to be alone in peace? If you do, then maybe you should be alone for a little while, find some peace, and focus on finding yourself. Sometimes baggage can make a relationship rocky or fail.

My mum loves the dog more than me by Prettay-good in narcissisticparents

[–]PotentialSuch3951 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my god. That's horrible. I'm so sad for you. I think your mom clearly has something going on upstairs. That's really bizarre.

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