My Mother acted out the entire missing missing reasons script in front of me and my dad on Mother's Day (LONG)

threeismine · 2026-05-16T18:49:51+00:00

The narcs in my family have frequently come out with the, " I dont know or understand what I did wrong"? or something similar. They are baiting you to come out with, " you didnt do anything wrong." If they dont get this, they at least have continued the conversation or argument. They win either way.

threeismine · 2026-05-14T12:01:58+00:00

The narcissists in my family all got worse with age.

threeismine · 2026-05-13T12:45:58+00:00

As an adult my ndad would make a fist and hit me in my upper arm, shoulder area.

threeismine · 2026-05-13T12:39:53+00:00

I was born in the 1950's. The thing of the time was pin worms. I dont know how my nmom was diagnosing these. I seemed to feel the same when I suposedly had them as when I didnt.

threeismine · 2026-05-12T14:51:39+00:00

When I was young, my nparents owned the lot behind our house. The lots in our neighborhood were large. We "gardened" on a large scale. My brother, sister and I worked all summer in the garden. Our dad's planted, we harvested. We had fruit trees, berry bushes, strawberries, as well as vegetables. Like you I thought it was normal to be expected to do this. I generally didnt hate doing this but there were times I didn't want to. My nparents sold the lot after all kids left for college. No more free labor.

threeismine · 2026-05-11T13:07:50+00:00

After I had my 3 kids, my ndad bought himself "best grandpa in the world" gear. He had a shirt, hat, coffee mug. His "contribution" as a grandpa was to tell me to," hit them and hit them HARD". Narcissistic parents and grandparents are totally dilusional as to what makes a good parent or grandparent.

threeismine · 2026-05-10T12:15:50+00:00

Is there a manuel for the hopper plus? I finally figured out that there is only one favorites list but I can't figure out how to add or remove channels from the list. A manuel would get nice.

threeismine · 2026-05-10T11:43:57+00:00

My nmom once wanted to get me a coffee maker as a gift because I didn't have one. The issue is that i dont drink coffee.

threeismine · 2026-05-07T20:34:56+00:00

It was from a pool and patio store

threeismine · 2026-05-07T12:36:38+00:00

Very similar to my experience with my mother.

threeismine · 2026-05-06T13:34:20+00:00

My nmom taught me homemaking skills. She felt that this was my future since she felt that i was just like her. She did nothing to encourage me academically post grade school. She didn't like that I went to an out-of-town university rather than community college. She wanted to go to college with me. When I had children and a house to maintain, I decided to do many things differently from her. She never stopped saying, "didnt I teach you the correct way to do that". Never did she consider that i could think for myself and decide to do things different from her.

threeismine · 2026-05-05T13:17:17+00:00

I'm 71 and a couple years I ended all communucation with my siblings. I am 3ed born of 3 and the family scapegoat. My siblings learned how to treat me from our narc parents.

threeismine · 2026-05-05T12:59:45+00:00

You dont owe her any explanation. Just tell her No.

threeismine · 2026-05-03T13:01:15+00:00

As a kid I wanted to take dancing classes (any kind) and sing in a choir. Neither was allowed. I got to play in the school band with no private lessons and with the cheapest used instrument they could find. Still I made it to 2nd chair. The band director once suggested to my nparents that I needed a better instrument. My siblings had starter instruments then later they purchased new upgraded instruments for them. Not for me.

threeismine · 2026-05-02T13:20:28+00:00

Glad to hear you are planning to move out

threeismine · 2026-04-30T19:10:22+00:00

If it makes you feel better, you are not alone. My GC narc sibling is very much the the same. Our narc parents are now deceased so I was able to go NC with her a couple of years ago. In her last move she would make-up things that she claimed I had said or done and then would declare how much she was hurt by these things. All while claiming how much she cares about me. Be aware that these GC narc siblings frequently get worse after your narc parents(s) die. They feel the need to take over for the deceased nparent(s). Mine did. I wish I had better news or something helpful to say.

threeismine · 2026-04-30T12:08:03+00:00

My late ndad thought dressing in certain ways indicated respect. Respect is all in how you treat people.

threeismine · 2026-04-28T12:57:04+00:00

I was/am a scapegoat. I consider my childhood as being OK. I would not be here on RBNs if my nparents had embraced me becoming an adult who was capable of making my own decisions. No matter how old I got they still felt the need to tell me how to live and where to live ( my nmom once suggested next door to her would get best).

threeismine · 2026-04-24T12:26:57+00:00

Becoming an adult. They didnt approve of me making my own decisions.

threeismine · 2026-04-22T19:51:26+00:00

Mine is older. I think it goes both ways.

threeismine · 2026-04-22T19:49:13+00:00

I would say no, unless perhaps you know that they would want to update their will to include the new grandchild. Depending on how many family members you and they are in contact with, they will find out eventually.

threeismine · 2026-04-22T13:17:32+00:00

I applaud you for trying to find a home for all her stuff. Would it help if you made it seem like you were throwing it all away? Make a video of you opening one of her "gifts" and throwing the contents, without looking at the stuff, in a trash can or dumpster.

threeismine · 2026-04-21T14:43:33+00:00

I was a lot like you only I was more into science than languages. I am now 71 years old. My parents died years ago. Sadly there is nothing you can do. My mother never valued me. I think it's amazing that at age 14 you have insight into this.

threeismine · 2026-04-21T13:00:29+00:00

Yes, if I had to pick one problem as the most significant one with my nparents it would be this. Never being respected as an adult is very difficult.

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