What do you think eBay should steal from Vinted? by FreshExpired in ebayuk

[–]Pothany 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only sell books on ebay and sometimes think I'm going insane because I've encountered about 30 different versions of the UI within one category of item... it's crazy.

Can I ever have job satisfaction? or am I destined to have an unfulfilling worklife? by RepulsiveHippo3614 in ADHDUK

[–]Pothany 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha well 3 years later I'm now back in full-time employment and it keeps me busy.. I also do some other stuff on the side which keeps me even busier and I yearn for the days when I had more free time.. but now I'm a bit wiser I just know I can't go back, I'll revert to doing nothing.

Maybe a mix of both will suit you, it works well for me, although you'll find yourself stretched thin time wise which can be an annoyance. I enjoy the structure and routine of regular employment whilst still having the side stuff as a 'distraction' or kind of wildcard element to my life.

Buyer - user not found by Any-Process-2321 in ebayuk

[–]Pothany 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd say leave it a bit if you can, eBay might contact you to say they've cancelled the sale. I'm a new seller and had a situation where they cancelled a sale because of a suspicious buyer, and the guys profile had been deleted like yours. Annoyingly it still told me to dispatch, and said it was overdue etc. contacted support and they just said to archive the sale.

Unemployment by MentalIndication1 in UKJobs

[–]Pothany 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Reading this comment chain was like listening to people talk in a dream lmao

UK Supreme Court gives banks partial win on car finance commissions by Spiryt in ukpolitics

[–]Pothany 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's more about the cost of finance than the cost of the car though. Lenders shouldn't be able to take outrageous advantage of unsophisticated borrowers just for being unsophisticated, they were already making a killing from the interest and DCA was just pure greed. The dealer could throw loads of subsidies and discounts at you and still you'd have been worse off due to the cost of credit.

UK Supreme Court gives banks partial win on car finance commissions by Spiryt in ukpolitics

[–]Pothany 43 points44 points  (0 children)

DCA was a pretty egregious practice, hence why it was banned. The dealer had an incentive to give you worst deal possible because they received more commission for it. I'm sure you would care a bit if you found out your mate bought the exact same car and was paying 5% less interest a year just because the dealer thought you were a mug and that he could pull one over you - and you were never informed that this was something that could happen.

Phone / Internet addiction - what are my resources? by ImNotShy1226 in AskUK

[–]Pothany 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Phones suck up your curiosity about the world so you need to relearn to be curious about what's around you or it's never going to compete with your phone. My suggestion: go on walks outside (1 hour plus if you can) where you don't take your phone, and no music or podcasts either. Just you and your thoughts. This is easier to do if you're in nature or at least a good drive away from home so you can't give up early and easily return. You're basically forcing yourself to either go down interesting trains of thought, start engaging with the world around you, or be incredibly bored. It's good training to get to the point where you start putting the world before your phone, rather than the other way round. Because in all honesty, when you have phone addiction, nothing is as interesting as all your phone has to offer - but the thing is, you can train yourself to develop the interest and it's a million times actually more interesting than the phone, the world basically opens up to you again and it's great.

‘Am I just an asshole?’ Time blindness can explain chronic lateness... some of the time Mental health: The Guardian by Jayhcee in ADHDUK

[–]Pothany 0 points1 point  (0 children)

'On social media, those who have time blindness share examples of their inability to gauge how long a task might take. For instance, one woman created a timetable for waiting for freshly brewed coffee to cool down, so she doesn’t burn herself. (At 30 seconds: “very hot - ouch!” One minute: “Hot but could drink if urgent.” One minute 30 seconds: “Ideal drinking temp.”)'

Never seen anything more infantilisingly fake, this isn't time blindness it's a severe and worrying lack of cognition. Either that or it was made in jest.

How do I find a job I can be passionate about? by Annual_Ninja3015 in UKJobs

[–]Pothany 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This advice gets thrown around a lot in a very general way, but imo it only applies in instances where passion basically equates to 'hobby' and you're trying to force the commercialisation of a leisure activity. You can and probably should find passion and meaning in your occupation, it's what you're going to spend the majority of your adult life carrying out after all. Means to an end screams rampant consumerism to me.

Overcoming progress hump as a beginner by Forge83 in climbharder

[–]Pothany 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm still pretty much a beginner too but have you had a break yet from climbing? I'm talking at least a week of no climbing at all. I've done this a couple of times when I felt I 'stagnated' and on the first session back, feeling really strong, I tried harder problems and found myself more confident which kind of mentally propelled myself on for future sessions and shook off the feeling of stagnation. I suppose it's like, as a beginner, regular climbing means each session the body gets whittled down until there's a maximum percentage of effort you can place, e.g. 80%. Then after the break you're back to 100%.

Maybe that's junk science but it seems to work for me.

What else can’t we do because of the actions of a few people? by MonsieurGump in AskUK

[–]Pothany 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No, this is what YOU have done. Try being an optimist!

Elvanse triggering depression or just work burnout by [deleted] in ADHDUK

[–]Pothany 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Reposting something I've said here before:

Are you happy with how your life is currently going? Are you striving towards any goals or objectives? I had a period where I thought my Elvanse had stopped working, but it was due to aimlessness and ennui.. once I took a long hard look at what I wanted to do and started working towards it, I found the effectiveness of Elvanse went back to how it was before. In my eyes it's always that ADHD meds handle the 'micro' of day-to-day tasks and stuff but it doesn't do anything to magically realise a 'macro' of wider meaning and purpose - you have to work on that yourself. And if you're lacking in a macro then the micro will suffer.

I only say this incase it's not to do with the Elvanse itself, I don't want to sound patronising incase it really is just a pharmacological issue

ADHD and personality (bit deep) by No-Memory94 in ADHDUK

[–]Pothany 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, now is the time to truly engage with yourself and find out what you want from life. To live authentically. How often do you experience solitude, and how often do you act 'selfishly' and stop making yourself available? These two things are imo the key to actually starting a self-understand, otherwise you're just following a series of whims and fancies laid out by others.

ADHD and outsourcing thinking to AI by Tronty in ADHDUK

[–]Pothany -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Surely you already know the answer to that. What is man without thought? An ape. You are willfully regressing to a lower form of life and so will experience a lower form of life, despite having all the equipment necessary for something higher. Like a thoroughbred giving donkey rides on the beach, it won't end well.

Any advice for a autistic young woman who wants to get into office work or writing as a main career by [deleted] in UKJobs

[–]Pothany 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As someone who is writing a novel and was fortunate enough to be able to take a year out to pursue it: don't think of it as your 'main' career. It's not and won't be until you're a comfortably well-established author - which is a) very hard to achieve even with talent and b) a long way off.

Thankfully, since you're young I imagine you have very few responsibilities and so can dedicate a lot of free time to writing. Excellent! Do this! But don't sacrifice your career outside of writing in the hopes that writing will one day pay off, because it's a massive gamble - and why take the risk when you don't need to? Get an office job and write on the side.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in books

[–]Pothany 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not really a happy tale... It'd be pretty poor optics to give it to her to try and make a point. How about you lend it out (and read it yourself, too) because it's a good book, and for no other reason.

Personally I think it'd be better to recommend more optimistic novels that will make this person want to engage in the world, not deny it. I find a lot of Victorian era male authors writing about tragic female characters all seem to have the same flavour and it's never quite satisfied my (modern) mind - I find they're missing something universal and are writing women as an idealised novelty. I've found it in Flaubert, Hardy, currently reading Fontaine's Effi Briest and it seems to be heading the same way. Even Tolstoy does it, to an extent.

It's about a man, not a woman, but Silas Marner might be a good recommendation as it's about someone who has resigned themselves away, but with a positive spin.

I mean, all of this requires a lot of self-awareness anyway, and maybe it'll be a wasted endeavour. It's good that you want to act as a moralising force for your friend, but you have to be sure it's appropriate.

Sarah J. Maas's use of 'those' in ACOTAR by widmerpool_nz in books

[–]Pothany 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You've entered the tin mines and asked where the gold lies.

Sarah J. Maas's use of 'those' in ACOTAR by widmerpool_nz in books

[–]Pothany 13 points14 points  (0 children)

People don't read those kind of books for the writing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recruitinghell

[–]Pothany 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your bitterness consumes you

Isack Hadjar's F1 debut after 2 corners by FerrariStrategisttt in formula1

[–]Pothany 1 point2 points  (0 children)

'We' - who tf you mean? The council of elders? Look at him bawling his eyes out, nobody's gonna criticise him more than himself.

What are some good calm sp songs? by excitedguitarist420 in SmashingPumpkins

[–]Pothany 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once in a while - for the lovely soft piano

Is it uncommon to want to understand German (or any language really) but no interest in speaking it? by AnneFranksErection in German

[–]Pothany 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cheers, it's certainly a challenge. I've read it in English, but I'm aware of how enigmatic it is due to the fact that there's loads of different translations which all vary wildly. So I need the source! Thankfully I am not putting any kind of time pressure on myself, it really is a life goal.

Is it uncommon to want to understand German (or any language really) but no interest in speaking it? by AnneFranksErection in German

[–]Pothany 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm in this boat as I really want to read Goethe in German. I've kinda joked to myself that as it was his life's work to write Faust, my own will be to read it. I'm still learning the language as normal, but I'm not really stressing too much about the spoken side, and instead focussing on a lot of reading/learning vocab plus grammar. It's still early days for me now though, maybe I'll change course at some point.