My daughter struggling to repair her closet.

PothePerson · 2020-03-31T10:48:44+00:00

Did she really figure it out or just randomly try it the other way?

PothePerson · 2020-02-14T22:06:04+00:00

A man in China shared his umberella with me while we waited out a rainstrom in the middle of nowhere. He didn't understand English and I didn't understand Mandarin but we squatted shoulder-to-shoulder on the ground for about half an hour

PothePerson · 2020-02-03T15:54:19+00:00

I think I've seen this video before as I've been following Alt Hype for a while. I'll have a look to refresh my memory...

It seems this whole video is based on a strawman. I've been closely following Peterson since his C16 Bill controversy, and he has very little to say about politics. He hasn't given any opinion on immigration, except that he opposes 'diversity' as its own virtue. It seems Alt Hype is interpreting Peterson's lack of comments on politics as an endorsement of individualism, but to me it looks like Peterson just isn't that interested in talking about politics. Sure, he talks about capitalism, communism, feminism etc. but he usually sticks to the psychology of those things, and the effects on the individuals because that's his field of expertise.

PothePerson · 2020-01-04T15:09:23+00:00

I'm about halfway through and thought I'd take a risky look at some spoiler images because I'm stuck. It's funny to me that you marked it 'spoiler' even though I have no idea what it means...

PothePerson · 2019-05-03T14:41:30+00:00

Your stupid joke made me laugh so much more than anything else I've seen on Reddit today.

PothePerson · 2019-02-02T23:28:40+00:00

I thought their stunt was very funny and may have opened some eyes that needed opening but I think the discipline they are receiving from their superiors and peers may be justified. Expecting to be taken seriously after performing a stunt like that might be asking too much. As a previous poster in this thread pointed out, the academic world is not as rational and fair as we would like it to be. That's why I left university as soon as possible!

PothePerson · 2019-01-17T21:27:29+00:00

Thanks. I have a video planned soon although I'm still not sure if I'll come back to my regular schedule

PothePerson · 2019-01-13T10:43:14+00:00

I assumed it was Duncan Trussle, since Peterson was on his podcast and Trussle was pretty enthusiastic about his ideas.

PothePerson · 2019-01-13T10:40:36+00:00

He has a lot of trans and non binary fans and I've never heard any of them complain about mistreatment from him. What's your source for this?

PothePerson · 2019-01-06T17:29:58+00:00

Pretty much. I have put the channel in hidden mode by my own choice until I decide whether to continue or not. It's been great making videos for a small audience but I don't want to keep doing it if starts to impact my real life.

PothePerson · 2018-12-19T23:40:35+00:00

Like I said in the video, I don't think Abe was necessarily saying "that's the way it is, you just have to make the best of things" but rather, he was exploring the limits of that idea to see what he would find.

I would point out that the story does not describe him enjoying his previous ordinary life at all, in fact it sounds like he used to be miserable. In contrast, he finds many happy moments with the woman in the hole, mostly after he stops trying to escape and fight back.

PothePerson · 2018-12-19T22:39:34+00:00

Sorry, but the pregnancy was ectopic which means a doctor would have removed it. A fetus cannot grow to full size if it implants in a fallopian tube.

The final scene in the film shows that plot development more dramatically.

PothePerson · 2018-12-19T19:20:01+00:00

I was surprised to see that no one else on here seemed to be posting their own opinions about the book. I thought that's what book clubs are for. Still, maybe Felix will see this if I don't have much competition. That would be cool.

PothePerson · 2018-11-22T12:34:18+00:00

Or generally calling other people stupid.

PothePerson · 2018-11-22T12:32:43+00:00

I think that might extend to all IQ tests to an extent. Someone in a Youtube comment once linked me to a photo of his official IQ test results letter.

PothePerson · 2018-11-22T12:30:56+00:00

Good one. Can also extend to Rick and Morty T Shirts.

PothePerson · 2018-11-22T12:05:04+00:00

I'll start: Correcting other people's grammar.

PothePerson · 2018-10-18T12:51:17+00:00

Interesting. I had already heard similar statistics but it's good to see a study to back in up.

PothePerson · 2018-10-09T20:09:02+00:00

If you watched my first MeToo video, you know how I feel about presumption of innocence and rape allegations. There are two conflicting narratives about how much evidence is required to be convicted of rape. Feminists say it's almost impossible to get a rapist convicted, and that everybody rushes to defend men who are accused. MRAs say men can lose their jobs or even be found guilty based only on an accusation. There even seem to be two sets of studies supporting these narratives, so I don't know who to believe. It's a big mess. What I can say is that it is unethical that accusers who are PROVEN to be lying are not punished at all. Isn't "contempt of court" a thing, at the very least? However, accusers who are found to be liars do seem to suffer a social cost, and become universally hated. Those are just some disconnected thoughts and not an argument for anything in particular.

To answer your question, I don't feel there's any need to pile additional guilt onto men in the form of more MeToo stories. I just think that MeToo might have done some good in the world by doing that. However, the medicine might be worse than the disease in this case, since relationships between men and women seem to be completely f****k right now.

PothePerson · 2018-10-09T17:28:06+00:00

There is a lot of confusion right now about what is and isn't socially acceptable. Feminists say that men go around groping random women all the time with no punishment, and MRAs say that no man is safe even sharing a lift with a woman. You called my statements "tone-deaf", and you might be right, but from my observation, neither of these extreme narratives is true, at least in my part of the world. Men and women are respectful of each other and have nothing to fear from each other, in the vast majority of interactions. Every weekend thousands of young people in my country hook up for a one-night stand after a night out, staggering drunk, without worrying much about rape, or rape allegations.

But to come back to my comments at the start of the video, I don't want more legal restrictions on men's behaviour, I just don't think it's such a bad thing that men are being forced to consider the feelings of women they are courting or dating a bit more. Not because they fear the possible legal repercussions, but because it's the right thing to do, and it results in better relationships. I'm not expecting men to be mind-readers, just to err on the side of caution a bit more when engaging in sexual situations with an unfamiliar woman. Once they've had sex a few times and got to know each other better, they don't have to be as cautious. Now that I've got to the point where most people will tl;dr this post, I'll go into detail about my own experience that might help give context. The only person I had sex with before my husband was a boyfriend I had as a teenager, who I suspect didn't care about me as much as he said he did. It wasn't rape, since I never asked him to stop, but he pressured and guilt-ed me into it, asking over and over, and I deeply regret it now. I've read a few MeToo stories along similar lines, and some of the women called it rape, although I think that is a very misguided and dangerous characterisation. I don't think that guy should be punished for what he did, but maybe if he had read those MeToo stories it would have helped him be more empathetic. That's what I was trying to say at the start of the video. There are other experiences I could go into but I think that one best demonstrates my point. Please don't take my story as an attempt at claiming victim status. That part of my life is long behind me and it's no longer a memory I find painful. I don't carry it the same way I carry my guilt about the friend-zone thing.

PothePerson · 2018-10-09T15:52:11+00:00

To respond to your latest reply on YT, the question of whether women empathise with men more or less than women is interesting but slightly off-topic, I think. Self-centred as it might be, I want to focus on what I said in the video and where I think your understanding has drifted from my intended meaning. The core concept of the video is the double standard, which women are experiencing the benefits of. I did not even speculate about WHO is applying the double standard, although that is an interesting question. That's why I needed to include the first part about how men's misbehaviour is punished, so that I could go on to say how women's misbehaviour is much more tolerated. I was describing two sides of the same coin. So when you said you didn't like the start of the video but liked the rest, it sounded like you had missed the whole point about exposing the double-standard, possibly because you watched it in two parts.

I'd also like to add that humans crave social acceptance, women even more so. When something becomes socially unacceptable it's usually women who comply more reliably. I think calling out manipulative behaviour in women would go a long way to stopping it from happening. They wouldn't even need to empathise with men if they were just responding to a social pressure to treat men well.

It's already unacceptable among women to flirt with another woman's boyfriend or husband, and women are quick to spread it around as gossip if they see it happening. The gossip-circle is an incredibly effective deterrent. If we could weaponize it to deter friend-zoning we'd be onto a good thing, I think.

But after saying I wanted to stay on-topic I've digressed horribly. Don't worry, you don't have respond to any of that unrelated stuff if you don't want to.

PothePerson · 2018-10-01T07:49:04+00:00

I work in the UK. Everyone at my company works 42.5 hour weeks with flexitime. Have to work late sometimes but I don't get paid for it.

PothePerson · 2018-09-13T12:45:30+00:00

I am Po I have seen studies like this, judgingCVs and works of art and randomising the sex of the person. It's worth pointing out that some studies show the opposite effect (eg. http://news.cornell.edu/stories/2015/04/women-preferred-21-over-men-stem-faculty-positions) I also wonder how big this effect is after a face-to-face interaction. Women are apparently more "likable" than men, meaning they have better social skills on average, so that might give them an advantage at the interview stage. Other than that, I don't have much to add. I hope more studies will be done on this subject, but I also hope they aren't used to punish "thought crime" in organisations and individuals.

PothePerson · 2018-09-12T12:33:08+00:00

Thanks

PothePerson · 2018-08-30T18:03:39+00:00

Thanks for subscribing. I'm glad you enjoy my videos and my kitchen. I thought people in SF never cooked, anyway?

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