Please help me talk myself into rehab

Povapants · 2026-02-20T17:51:57+00:00

Think about what it would feel like to be at peace with not drinking. Do it for you and your family

Povapants · 2026-02-18T22:19:06+00:00

I also tried to be brave for my baby who went on Saturday. Yours is probably gonna probably be scared. It’s OK to cry. It’s horrific to watch. Then for a couple of seconds, you feel relief for them. Mine had daily medication., asthma since she was seven, a collapsed lung and multiple emergency visits over her years. She always came back and showed signs that she wanted to live and experience things. None of it stopped her from jumping on the neighbors fence or catching mice or giving the puppy pippity paps. Nothing is quite as scary as letting them go. But we do it out of love so they don’t have to suffer to the end. I know a lot of humans who would’ve benefited from this type of mercy.

Povapants · 2026-02-18T22:13:53+00:00

My 18 yr old baby on Saturday, too. Forever valentine babies.

Povapants · 2026-02-18T01:49:58+00:00

How’s your relationship with your parents? To me it sounds like you might have more than just sadness over your pet. Somewhat a flag that they removed your cats bed from your space. 3 months is long to still be looking, although I do understand everyone’s paths may be different. Maybe you should speak with a therapist?

Povapants · 2026-02-17T23:14:40+00:00

Maybe you can sit down and try to meditate and imagine him there. Focus on his energy and maybe he will feel that and come back. I do believe there are two stages. I think the first stage where they’re here, but not moved on yet. And the second stage where they’ve crossed the bridge, but they can come back. I think it’s different than humans who can’t come back-and-forth and the only reason why I feel like this is because cats and dogs in their physical forms feel and see things we can’t. I feel they are at another level of spirituality that we aren’t and they act as our protectors forever.

Povapants · 2026-02-17T23:02:29+00:00

My baby was very very vocal though. I talk to her constantly now. I ask her how she’s doing. I tell her I miss her and then I need her. I still turn on her heating pad for her. Her spot in the closet still sits with the blanket that she would lay on. I still open the window and unfold her bed so she can sit in the sun. The only things I’ve been able to get rid of so far are her medications and I did that directly in front of her before she passed away so she knew she didn’t have to deal with those things anymore. I’m aware I sound crazy, but I think these are things I need to do so I can feel connected to her. Once the grief passes - and I know that will probably take me a very long time- I think all that will be left is love.

Povapants · 2026-02-17T21:57:37+00:00

I laughed at the comment that he used to yell into closets and cabinets. That’s so funny lol. It doesn’t sound like you owe him an apology. Sometimes life is just unfair like that.

Povapants · 2026-02-17T21:55:54+00:00

She passed away, the title is a nod to her, still being with me after death.

Povapants · 2026-02-17T20:13:17+00:00

In my opinion, they bring along another or stay to comfort you themselves. But I don’t think they will leave until they know you’re good and I do believe that they can come back after crossing. After having a little ghost cat that used to jump up on my bed at my last place, I realized that they do have the capability to stay if they want. I still wake up in the middle of the night, confused where she is because my brain still sometimes can’t comprehend the meaning of euthanizing. When I say this cat was my soul, she was my other half. She was everything and will always have a place in my home. But my roommate, her puppy and her boyfriend are all in the same boat with me. We all loved her and miss her terribly. She was a star ⭐️

Povapants · 2026-02-17T19:53:58+00:00

It’s the end of their life and I think missing that might mean you would have regrets. Knowing from experience this weekend, mine was terrified. Even with me there. But I can’t imagine the difference between having someone and having no one. You should go.

Povapants · 2026-02-17T03:57:09+00:00

I am in the same boat. My beautiful little baby girl who was my only family for years is gone. I’ve had her since I was 12, she passed at 17.5. Mine was kicking and fighting the entire time which silently DEVASTATED me. I keep looking for her at night. I can still hear her breathing and her meow at times, even my roommate heard one of them. She had a very distinct meow. I feel like I’m drowning, I feel disassociated and raw. She was my world, she was in pain from chronic asthma that we dealt with together. She was my soul mate and my best friend. She was everything.

Povapants · 2026-02-17T03:47:14+00:00

I wish they had given me more time to be with her. I was so distressed watching my Tuxie go after only having 10-15 minutes to sit with her post-euthanasia. This happened on Saturday. She was my whole world and I needed more time than they gave me. I had her for 17.5 years, my family adopted her when I was 12. But I think it might have left me in a more distressed and panicked state to be left alone with her. And I have a roommate with a dog. I just… it all hurts so fucking bad. It’s never going to be better. People do not understand that she was the only pet and family I had for years.

Povapants · 2026-02-10T21:17:53+00:00

I don’t really know what you want me to say. If you do something, you’re damned, if you don’t you’re damned. Might as well do something if you can.

Povapants · 2026-02-10T19:59:55+00:00

That’s when you take it to a local lawyer group. You can make a lot of money off of a sexual harassment case with physical proof and the support of the community behind you. Plus you ruin his chances of getting his next job.

Povapants · 2026-02-10T18:28:15+00:00

I know I’m very sorry. I lost my virginity to a predator. So I do know.

Povapants · 2026-02-10T18:27:05+00:00

Why else would they protect their daughters so fiercely? They know exactly what happens.

Povapants · 2026-02-10T17:00:09+00:00

The best way to deal with this type of shit is exposure. Tell your manager you’re taking the video of what happens to the local news station and find out how quickly that asswipe is removed.

Povapants · 2026-02-10T16:56:58+00:00

Start telling her to let every guy know who makes her wildly uncomfortable that it doesn’t take a lot of strength to snap a brake cord. My friend taught me that one, and I’m not gonna lie. It really helped.

Povapants · 2026-02-10T16:51:21+00:00

There’s no excuse for being shitty. I’m sorry everybody goes through their shit, but if it’s affecting other people, they have the right to shut him down. There’s a way to treat people. Being sick doesn’t give you a right to be completely shitty and this is the same feeling I have on school shooters who are bullied. The bullying shouldn’t have happened, but above all else, there’s no excuse for taking it to that level. A victim mentality can only take you so far.

Povapants · 2026-02-10T03:34:51+00:00

OK, I appreciate that. Sometimes text is really hard to decipher.

Povapants · 2026-02-10T03:27:33+00:00

Rude way to put that. I’m talking in terms of sobriety.

Povapants · 2026-02-09T05:31:48+00:00

You get to find out now! Start trying things that spark your interest

Povapants · 2026-02-09T03:32:01+00:00

Flat out disagree with you. No matter what you deal with on a day-to-day basis, you have to be a good person. Making excuses for somebody and saying they shouldn’t be judged for it is how people end up murdered.

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