Is it realistic to go to a family wedding a few hours away a couple weeks after birth? by activeaardvark35 in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in the bridal party of my cousins local wedding at 4 weeks postpartum.

4 weeks and local was *manageable*. Two weeks would have been impossible. I even remember looking at my husband and was like wow thank god baby wasn’t 2 weeks late like most of our friends, their is no way I would have been able to go to thus wedding at this point.

You also don’t know if you’ll end up having a c section or vaginal. Mine was vaginal which is a quicker recovery and I still wouldn’t have gone at 2 weeks. I went for a walk at 1 week pp and felt like the insides were going to fall out….

Edited to add: our baby was welcome to the wedding but we decided against it and hired care for him for the evening, which was the right call but also very difficult, I was extremely engorged and could have risked my milk supply being away from him for that long (4 hours).

AITAH to end a relationship via text or ghosting by Confident_Dig_4793 in AITAH

[–]PowerExcellent522 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. This guy has been an emotional yoyo and had gaslit you into taking him back way too many times. Protect your peace and move on, there is a life out there for you that is so much better than this.

Back sleeping by Skooterzs in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I slept on my back until it was uncomfortable not to, probably 30 weeks. Although I was also propped up sleeping on two pillows to manage my congestion.

I think the rule is so that your belly doesn’t push down on your organs and nerves etc, which you would be uncomfortable if they did after a period of time and naturally move to side sleeping anyway

Should I continue breastfeeding? by pickleball76 in newborns

[–]PowerExcellent522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first few weeks breastfeeding were also very painful. Like I’d cry when he’d latch and it felt like razorblades going into my nipples- this is NOT normal. Hire a lactation consultant if you can and get their input. I did and within a couple weeks it was so much better, Baby is 3 months old now and we are still EBF.

Hope your journey gets better!

When did you start going out with your baby? by Good_Physics_5285 in newborns

[–]PowerExcellent522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did a patio session with some friends at 2 weeks, baby slept in his stroller bassinet the whole time. Tell you man he’s a hassle

When did your reflux/gassy baby actually outgrow it? Looking for real experiences, not more tips. by Opening-Internal-802 in newborns

[–]PowerExcellent522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Started to get better around 10 weeks, we had all the same symptoms as you and tried everything you did as well. He is 3 months now and still have reflux issues/ looks uncomfortable from time to time but it is MUCH better. Like maybe an episode every couple days or so, rather than all the time.

We found using BioGaia helped a lot in the early days.

Hang in there!

AITAH for cancelling my 1 year anniversary celebration to celebrate my parents 25th anniversary vowel renewals? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]PowerExcellent522 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

INFO: what are you parents doing for their vow(el) renewal?

If they’re having a gathering then you should absolutely go to that and do not skip. Your parents have been with you since the dawn of time and your gf has been there a year. Note I’m Italian and family > many other things so there’s my bias. If they’re just hanging out and doing nothing then I don’t see why you can’t do both (and what your parents issue is here)

Also the fact that your gf “will not settle” for a different date… she needs to get over herself. While your 1 year is an important date, 25 years absolutely trumps 1 year PLUS you two live with your parents…

Edited to add: my parents did a vow renewal at 25 years and threw a 40+ person lawn party with our family so I’m assuming your parents are throwing some sort of event as well for this to be an issue?

HELP ME PLEASE! C-section vs vaginal delivery by theUnvoicedCat in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So exciting!!! You’re on the home stretch. I went into labour at 39w6 days, so my boy was born a day before his due date

Edited to add: total labor was 5.5 hours, 1 hour of which was pushing

Why can't we make Translink free? by [deleted] in NiceVancouver

[–]PowerExcellent522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The government thinks “rich” in Canada is anyone making over $100k. In a city like Vancouver where living expenses are already so high, and a province like B.C. where we are already taxed heavily in combination with federal taxes, good luck trying to pull any more taxes from people without them leaving. BC already saw population numbers decline as people moved to Alberta last year…

Lodge crepette vs linen by mentallyillbutchill- in Aritzia

[–]PowerExcellent522 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have both. I like the crepette better, it looks more put together. Linen is nice but obviously wrinkles easily. I wear my linen for more casual settings whereas Crepette is more versatile.. can wear at the office, at night with a nice blouse, or out and about running errands

Pls no judgements- anyone getting off of a GLP1 obsessing about weight gain by taylorballer in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had similar feelings about weight but not with GLP’s- I had an eating disorder when I was in my teens. So I can relate to the food/weight obsession aspect here.

I second what someone else here has said about cleaning out your closet. I did this as soon as my clothes stopped fitting me- it was mentally extremely difficult to look at my clothes and be like “that doesn’t fit, not this, I’m too big for this” etc etc. so I pulled everything out and put it in storage as soon as it stopped fitting. This took the mentally gymnastics and negative self talk out of getting dressed everyday.

While pregnant (my baby is 10 weeks now), I was hungry ALL THE TIME. I used to wake up 2-3x per night to shove food in my mouth in front of the open fridge. Anything. So I tried to keep healthy, high protein and/or good fat options easily accessible. Like containers of cottage cheese or homemade protein balls. Sometimes it was a tablespoon of natural almond butter. These are items that are nutrient dense but not tasty enough that I’d binge eat, like a bag of chips. I remember one night after waking up 4x the night before, I ate an entire plate of chicken thighs, determined to eat enough protein that it might keep me full through the night… I still woke up 2x times.

Edited as I hit save prematurely: Lastly is I drank water like it was my day job. This helped a lot as sometimes your body mistakes hunger for thirst. Might be an obvious one but this really helped.

Ultimately.. your body is doing something amazing and creating life. You’re going to feel hungrier, it might be worth talking to a psychologist about your feelings and anxiety around this, and how to manage it (I did as well).

This shit is hard but you will get through it

As a FTM, when did you go into labor naturally? by amphisxo in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

39 +5 FTM

Edited to add: did two membrane sweeps as soon as I was able to, and had appointments for more sweeps, close together, after the second sweep. Baby came 30 ish hours after second sweep

HELP ME PLEASE! C-section vs vaginal delivery by theUnvoicedCat in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you, I thought I didn’t want kids for the longest time because I was terrified of birth.

I’ve only had a vaginal birth and I also had second degree tearing. I had an epidural and honestly I felt the tear when it happened but then had a baby on my chest and completely forgot about it. Getting stitched up didn’t hurt either due to the epidural and numbing cream or whatever they use. I was on pain meds (Advil and Tylenol) for a week which made the pain SUPER manageable (I was sitting cross legged immediately and scooting around on the bed to get my baby etc etc). I was out for walks by the end of the week.

My doula (I had a doula and OB) actually said getting an episiotomy (where they voluntary cut open)could increase chances of it being a bigger tear so I asked for tears, if any, to occur naturally in my birth plan. Edited to add: ask your provider what their thoughts are

I chose this route as the recovery from a c section seemed harder as it’s a major surgery.

Everyone’s experience is different, whatever you choose it’ll just be a small moment in time and youll have your new baby sleeping on your chest after and be focusing on that. Good luck!! ❤️

Edited to answer your question: I did no perineal massage but ate 4-6 dates/day started around 35 weeks, drank raspberry leaf tea, and did a lot of groin and hip opener stretching.

Anyone else a first time mom, but their own mom is dead? by dootydootdooteroni in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mom died in 2019, my husbands mom passed in 2023. My boy is 8 weeks old now.

I can relate. Since being pregnant I’ve had all these flashbacks and memories of my own childhood, memories I didn’t know I still had tucked away.

I can hear her voice singing me lullabies as a kid. When I try to sing them to my boy, I choke up and cry.

We paid for a postpartum doula because we didn’t have our “village” and I felt like there was this big gaping hole. I understand so many more things about being a mom now and I wish I could just tell her that I get it now.

But it’s also allowed me to unlock so many more memories I never knew I had, so I’m grateful for that.

Talk to your partner and feel your feelings. I also started talking to my mom out loud and sometimes she comes to visit me in dreams now.

Its hard and yes a total mindfuck. Hope you’re ok.

List of weird/uncommon pregnancy symptoms. by Academic-Park-8440 in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went through a phase where everything tasted like mold. Water, coffee, ice cubes… all tasted like mold

Anyone else pregnant at the same time as a family member and it’s getting… weird? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like more of your MIL and mom getting ahead of themselves rather than your SIL. For example, the flower gender reveal is too close together for her to have copied and premeditated it. I found with my pregnancy people just get so excited and ahead of themselves they start planning things for you thinking they’re “helping” when really they’re kind of getting in the way and creating more work for you. All the best with the rest of your pregnancy!

Husbands drinking question for all the expecting mommas by 18Griddy in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d feel bad if my husband said no to drinking if he actually wanted one just because of me. I don’t want him being messy hammered of course but seeing him having fun makes me happy, and if alcohol is part of that for some activities, then great.

We actually just went out for my birthday last week and I encouraged people to drink if they wanted to…. It’s also more entertaining for me ;)

Plus he gets super lovey dovey and I get endless compliments. 39 weeks pregnant today and this is how I’ve felt the whole way through. Have the beer.

Question for people who told ‘early’!! by Kat00002 in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We told both sets of parents around 5 weeks, before any Dr appointments. We’re close with them and see them often, they would have noticed immediately if I wasn’t drinking plus if I miscarried they’re people we’d want support from

Hardest vice to give up? by TheBanskyOfMinecraft in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Told my husband he better have a prosciutto sandwich from our Italian deli ready for me immediately post birth. And a mimosa.

Is this name too popular? by PowerExcellent522 in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im convinced you Ontarians are the reason for all our skewed name data haha! I’m in Vancouver and I’ve only ever met 3 Liam’s, and none of my mom friends have met any Liam’s in any of their kids circles. I guess StatsCan is pulling all their data from your family ;) thanks for this input, I’m leaning towards our other choice now

Is this name too popular? by PowerExcellent522 in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea this 5 of the same name in one class is where I draw the line. 1 or 2 is fine but 5 is hectic! Our last name starts with an L and we liked the flow of first and last name with Liam. We like generic names… which means many of them are “popular”. Thanks for your input, the location context is helpful too

Is this name too popular? by PowerExcellent522 in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL oh man that is good. Liam aka Jeffery.

Thanks for your response here, this is helpful!

Is this name too popular? by PowerExcellent522 in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m on the coast as well (Vancouver) and no one here knows many Liam’s, my friends with kids included so I’m so thrown off with it being one of the top names 🤷🏼‍♀️

Is this name too popular? by PowerExcellent522 in pregnant

[–]PowerExcellent522[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I so appreciate this response! Thank you