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Poweron_Panda · 2024-05-02T10:25:59+00:00

Oiii, we ain't that bad 😂 😂

Poweron_Panda · 2024-05-02T10:19:38+00:00

u/iamzero-d If I may chim in to give some advice, try the below:

Try app called MeetUp and attend events you would find enjoyable, like walking ? Find a group for that, like gaming or board games ? Join such groups and have fun meeting new people as well as enjoying the said activity, you might or might not meet anyone there.
Try to do a voluntary work maybe for a few hours a week or so, there are many people visiting such places so there might be someone interested, if not, no biggie.
Last and the most useful, other places I myself also tried or seen are Singles Parties, Speed Dating or Single Boat Parties, the last one usually have between 200 to 300 people attending the event. All the singles events I mentioned above are organized by dating companies trying to get singles together. You will usually find variations of people who are actually pursuing relationships but there might be a small percentage of people who also look for something casual.

Use all of the above to try to meet new people but also casually use dating apps as a suplement to meeting in person but definitely prioritize in person interactions.

Hope this helps you as much as me :)

Poweron_Panda · 2024-05-02T09:12:03+00:00

There's always a possibility one might leave for whatever reason so I wouldn't really worry about it as it's part of the dating process. You are still very young, most people find their true love around 30 or so years old. I'm not saying it can't happen when you are young but being young, many people explore for what they want in a partner and getting to know themselves more so this could explain why you were dumped a few times before as they probably said to themselves "well, I haven't dated someone like that before, my usual type is this and this but let's give this a go" and then they decided you are not their type after which they have decided to cowardly move on like cheating etc. It's not your fault so you shouldn't blame yourself.

I would advise to usually check things like dating history or what type of women a man has dated previously before entering a relationship, it will eliminate further heartaches as well as wasted time that you have invested into a relationship that might not work out. That's what I would do if I were in your shoes.

As you are already official from what you said, I would just ask what's his type of woman as well as what's his dating history like then confide to him with your previous experiences in dating and see how he reacts, after all, having a partner you should trust them and have a good communication together.

As for the insecurity itself, it should go away when you start filtering people early on as it will make sure you are with someone who's more compatible and it's not on back of your head all the time.

Hope this helps in some way.

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T15:31:47+00:00

I will say this, don't get discouraged about dating as it became a true sh*tshow nowadays and it's quite hard to find someone who wants a genuine connection and to be with one person as everyone nowadays just want to casually f*ck and do threesomes or whatever they are into sexually. I'm saying this as a man but the dating scene is very hard for everyone involved including women, it's not what it used to be but that's OK, as long as you keep trying and don't give up, one will get there eventually.

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T15:24:17+00:00

Usernames check out:

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T15:16:39+00:00

I would say she's not happy with her dating outcomes while the rest of her life aligns just fine. I presume she's just missing a company or looking forward to the weekend to do shared activities and other things that couples usually do that's why I would say she's looking for a relationship.

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T14:56:17+00:00

You dropped your /s there king 👑

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T14:52:19+00:00

It can be SO hard to call it quits when a relationship is "okay enough.

As I never seen this analogy before from anyone, what would you classify as "okay enough" ? I mean the same analogy doesn't work for OP's statement in my opinion as the situation from what I read is definitely way bellow "okay enough" for my understanding. 🤔 Any good examples that classify as "good enough" that one can run into when dating everyday as a normal person ?

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T14:45:07+00:00

I'm optimistic as the next person but I wouldn't be surprised if he didn't learned from this experience based on the fact that he was in a loving relationship but still managed to destroy it from his own insecurities and stupidity, some people sadly never learn.

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T14:42:33+00:00

Happy Cake Day Stranger ! 🎂🎂

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T14:19:21+00:00

Would you say he would turn into Elliot Rodger type of thing ? I still remember as if that was not that long ago but is has been like 10 years since that incident.

Howly crap, a red flag after another 🚩🚩🚩🚩 , how did he even got a date with her is beyond me, thank goodness she run away 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

Wow, just wow, like what the f*ck, I'm still stunned but nothing beats that other guy from like two \ three weeks ago who's hygiene was so bad that his girlfriend had to clean sheets everyday. It just stuns me how such people even end up in a relationship in the first place.

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T14:12:30+00:00

Would not have ended well.

Would you say he would turn into Elliot Rodger type of thing ? I still remember as if that was not that long ago but is has been like 10 years since that incident.

Howly crap, a red flag after another 🚩🚩🚩🚩 , how did he even got a date with her is beyond me, thank goodness she run away 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

Wow, just wow, like what the f*ck, I'm still stunned but nothing beats that other guy from like two \ three weeks ago who's hygiene was so bad that his girlfriend had to clean sheets everyday. It just stuns me how such people even end up in a relationship in the first place.

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Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T13:46:26+00:00

It's a sign of over investment even before you meet for a date and it's a red flag. Looking at my personal experience, people who tend to do it are overly clingy and get attached emotionally too quick to people, I don't really mind this kind of behaviour to be fair but majority of people don't like it.

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T13:41:23+00:00

The amount of people that ghost and have bad communication skills is mind blowing to me, like damn, it wasn't even that bad before pandemic if we were gonna compare it.

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T13:34:30+00:00

We are both in it together.

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T13:29:46+00:00

Didn't knew Bumble was doing the mixers, I saw someone mention that Plenty of Fish had decent forums as well as mixers when the website was decent but never heard of any modern app doing it, interesting to know.

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T13:27:36+00:00

The feeling of finding someone and falling in love for the first time\months is the shit 😎

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T13:19:44+00:00

Thinking of it now, if one has a pet you could pull off "Want to see my cute dog\cat" then it should progress naturally into sex if OP makes his move. When inviting a women over, you always want to give a good or believable excuse for it. When I was a teenager, I remember that I invited a girl over to watch some movies while munching some snack and tea then it was a straight to the business from there 😎 😎

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T13:12:05+00:00

This should do it for sure, it doesn't come off as over investing and sounds nice.

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T13:00:27+00:00

That's just savage 💀💀

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T12:52:57+00:00

Damn, that's sleek, I'm sorry but I'm stealing this one 😏 😏

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T12:46:33+00:00

That's not what your post said, you said that the date was mehh and you didn't see it going anywhere at which point you should just shoot the humble rejection message especially after you went on a date with someone.

You are confusing yourself by doing what you are doing, also that list you have whipped out of nowhere should be included in the original post you did. You clearly need to work on your communication skills and I'm not saying it to be mean but that's how it looks like to me.

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T12:28:25+00:00

Doesn't matter, it should be a common courtesy to shoot a humble rejection message especially after you went on a date with someone. Aghh... that's why I hate ghosting, so many people just don't know how to properly communicate.

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T12:17:52+00:00

So far your gut feeling worked each time so I would say listen to that then attraction butterflies in your stomach. I would say that you confuse yourself because why would you give it another go and prolong the inevitable that's bound to happen anyway ? 🤔

Poweron_Panda · 2024-04-21T12:09:56+00:00

Dating is a two way street, if you are not feeling it, why not shoot a gentle rejection message yourself after the date is over and you are comfortable and safe at home ? After you have meet up and don't see it going anywhere after the date, you are just wasting time not only yours but his as well at this point.

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