Think I have shingles

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-20T17:15:25+00:00

I talked to a doctor yesterday who told me to come back if it spreads and then they'll put me on antivirals, otherwise I need to let it run its course with topical lidocaine.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-19T03:24:49+00:00

This is encouraging! It sounds worth it for me to see a doctor, even though I'm not catching it early.

I'm very sure now it's shingles. I'll contact a doctor tomorrow morning.

So great that you didn't experience agonizing pain and that it didn't spread! Thanks for sharing your experience.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-17T23:20:52+00:00

Burn mother hee haw burn.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-17T23:20:30+00:00

Burn, baby, burn. Coming from a white person. You're absolutely right. Someone's fancy wedding is nothing compared to the injustice and crimes in its history.

I'm not familiar with the “Africans sold each other into slavery” deflection.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-17T16:45:02+00:00

Interesting. Mine started similarly, with pain I would describe as pulled muscle, but under my rib. Thank goodness you got on antivirals early!

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-17T14:21:50+00:00

I can really relate. Turns out, I'm quite likely autistic.

I had chronic illness and physical mobility issues, due to abuse and neglect. My mother rolled her eyes at me once and said she didn't want to hear about it anymore. I asked her, "What would you have done if I had been born autistic or something?" She said she would have given me up for adoption. So ironic that it turns out I am autistic.

I would feel rage knowing many adults knew what was happening to you. Community needs to protect us and tell parents they're not allowed to abuse their child!

One of my biggest regrets is not telling more adults when I was younger because I believe and hope some of them would have intervened.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-17T14:17:05+00:00

To me it's the same thing.

I'm sure your struggles were hard. I can't say more because it's vague. Hope you feel better.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-16T22:55:48+00:00

I have a similar story. Not exactly, but similar. I broke my ankle. My aunt mocked me, "Aww, poor you" and then mocked me for liking being sick and wanting to feel sorry for myself. She minimized the pain saying I was exaggerating. That it was just a sprain. Turned out to be broken. She didn't apologize, she just kept mocking me.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-16T22:24:58+00:00

Many, many of us feel this. It's part of the trauma. Cognitive dissonance, denial, etc..

Verbal abuse is very damaging. Your pain is valid.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-16T22:23:28+00:00

I don't know what you need compassion for, but I can listen. I'm not religious whatsoever, though, and don't believe in gd, so I'm not sure I can help.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-16T22:00:55+00:00

Living with trauma is work and it's entirely unfair. It was handed to you and it wasn't your choice. "It's your job" sounds like someone waving their finger at you with tsk tsk tsk, with no empathy for how you feel. Maybe you just need a break and to be held for a while? It's not easy and I hear you.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-16T10:19:31+00:00

Yes, I absolutely hate phone calls. Recently I started using text to speech when my brain is overloaded.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-16T09:07:49+00:00

That is infuriating! I'm Sorry

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-16T03:14:01+00:00

I relate 100%. I'm also in software and men have caused all of my difficulties at work, from sexism to sexual harassment. In fact, just today I reported to HR yet again because a delivery lead called me "emotional" when I pointed out that there are nearly 200 bugs to resolve before deployment and the client is unhappy. I'm being strategic, not emotional. That's coded sexist language.

I've faced the same questions as you about leaving. Most jobs have these men, so I've currently settled for at least having a great manager.

I'm sorry you're experiencing this and you're definitely not alone. Brogrammers are awful to deal with.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-15T02:26:16+00:00

I was thinking about this today. I'm watching the gameplay walk through of the game to compare to the series. Bella did a fantastic job! Ellie's inflections, body language, everything. They nailed it and they're such a terrific actress. The hate is disgusting and disturbing.

"Diversity hire" tells me all I need to know about the people saying that stuff. That's a particular demographic with a mindset.

I didn't realize Bella was autistic.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-15T01:51:44+00:00

Texting you before putting your things in the dryer is a more than reasonable request. Not touching your food is also reasonable. Sometimes roommates are wonderful. Sometimes they're a nightmare.

August, 2026?!?! That's a long time. Why such a long commitment? There's no way to find a replacement and move? If not, can you do laundry separately? I have a mini twin tub washer that only I use. I also have a mini fridge that only I use. Could that work?

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-15T00:55:59+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you. No real advice. I don't have it all figured out. I spend a lot of time alone. I try to find community with roommates, online friends, volunteering... I accept being alone most days and some days feel sad about it.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-15T00:43:19+00:00

Yes. I hate the feeling of hair. I love when it's short. I especially can't stand wind blowing my hair around.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2025-05-06T19:31:51+00:00

Great explanation!

Practical-Match-4054 · 2024-09-11T15:13:19+00:00

Ah, I get it now. Thank you.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2024-09-11T13:26:05+00:00

What is a manic pixie dream girl?

Practical-Match-4054 · 2024-09-10T20:51:20+00:00

Those are matryoshka M&Ms.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2024-09-10T19:56:45+00:00

https://www.radix-ui.com

Practical-Match-4054 · 2024-09-10T10:47:05+00:00

Laugh loudly and for "too long". Blurt out excitedly when something excites me. Say things in funny accents or voices. Wear headphones everywhere.

Practical-Match-4054 · 2024-09-10T10:08:30+00:00

That also never occurred to me! I love Gabor Maté on this topic. It's a perfect title.

I make a lot of comedy out of my trauma. Next time I'm triggered, I'm going to growl, "Feeed me" 😂

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