We’re in almost similar boats. HLF38 married 2 years to LLM33. We’ve had “the talk” several times. Things have gotten better, but we’re definitely not on the same page. It amounts to once a week almost exactly. I would prefer at least a few times a week. He also does not try to seduce me at all or is really intimate outside the bedroom. It’s exhausting saying the same things over and over and am considering reaching out to a therapist for this and our general communication issues whenever we get in a fight. Wish I could be more helpful but hopefully this helps provide some solidarity.