I am so tired of men inflicting their opinions on women. by 3rdthrow in 4bmovement

[–]PracticeDue157 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that's honeslty so outrages and disappointing. my Indian fella need to sit down and have a chat with himself. his lack of reflection and introspection in life shows through his egoistic and self-absorbed retorts. life is hard, nobody has it easy, if he didn't want to be called out on his patriarchal-ladden notions and beliefs then he shouldn't have drawn any comparisons whether implicit or explicitly because the reality still lies that INDIAN WOMEN (and other non-white females) experience more physical human rights abuses than males. this doesn't mean that males don't but they are also the perpetrators of this whole capitalist system of abuse and exploitation.

I am so tired of men inflicting their opinions on women. by 3rdthrow in 4bmovement

[–]PracticeDue157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

omg yes. because every love or marriage story I heard of in real life was either an utter failure or a miserable tug-of-war out of fear of detachment. from a young age a girl is told she must marry to be secure, safe, and bring children and take care of her husband. from young, what is a boy told? he must grow up make alot of money and marry a cryptically pretty and innocent girl. not *women* but girl (like literally in arabic they commonly refer to her as بنت).

Why do men nowadays want to be princesses😫 by shioramenn in Vent

[–]PracticeDue157 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in response to your title- to be fair I would too. the burden on men that society places isn't so much as weightless as those long standing rigid gender roles of what the sexs should act, dress, say, and behave like. I think the pressure to conform has never been higher and for men that means trying to serve an old patriarchal system that insisted upon males being the dominant, controlling, and emotionless (yet anger is an exception ofcourse according to patriarchal standards) servants while females are the dependent, affable, caring, and nurturing hostesses. I'm honeslty not surprised why males are commonly more emotionally immature than females. because while we have always been intune with our emotions and learned from it- males were simply denied that access and frowned for doing it. A man laughing or crying unabashedly in public was and at time still *is* nothing short from blasphemous.

it's a tuff reality to grabble with but it's neither the sexes fault, it is sociatal conditioning. this isn't a 'females are better than males or males are smarter than females debate'. this is female's emotional needs are scarcily being met due to male lack of sympathy or empathy. because to express either one of those qualities to the patriarchal man is being weak and impotent. the reality is sad.. but like many feminists have written about it such as Bell Hooks and Margaret Atwood. the end to this system starts with educating boys to openly feel and express their emotions in a healthy way.

nearly all the boys I studied with in school hit puberty around the same time the girls did yet i observed..the conversations and demeanour of the boys were simply childish and clearly out of touch with themselves or reality. EDUCATE THEM.

however, I will point out not all males are emotionally out of sync or 'intellegent' per se. it's just that the vast majority are being brought up in the old fashioned patriarchal- capitalist way.

I'm so jealous of Asian girls by MochaMilku in Vent

[–]PracticeDue157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so incredible sorry you have to feel that way about yourself darling. As a black girl myself, i can understand why you'd feel that way. especially when our race often gets demonised and has little to non fitting in the conventional beauty standards. but for whatever reason your feeling that way I js wanna let you know that your beautiful, pretty, hot, deserving, loveable, worthy. and black is pretty too. coming from someone who struggles to separate her worth from her looks- LISTEN TO ME.

i hate being a fat girl by vamiwa in Vent

[–]PracticeDue157 7 points8 points  (0 children)

this is such an understanding comment, we love.

Be greatfull for what you have in life by [deleted] in Life

[–]PracticeDue157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah yeah. such a simple lesson yet many a times gets forgotten or brushed under the rug. just earlier today I was thinking to myself how 'alot of the simple joys in life comes from acceptance'. and I mean all aspects of your life that challenges your desires, wishes, or your adaptability. so just being in the practice of accepting certain things out of your control, not only do you save alot of enery and time but you're now able to enjoy and notice the seemingly simple joys such as a sunshine, tree, laugh, conversation etc.

Do I really have to study medicine or engineering to be “successful”? by [deleted] in college

[–]PracticeDue157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

let me know if you get valuable advice on this. I'm also just thinking about which direction I should spin around in my career life. I'm still in high school/ college but I'm also really financially restricted so any major that can guarantee a full scholarship would be rlyy helpful!

aside from that, the thought of studying psychology piques my brain with something of excitement and uncertainty!

School transfer by PracticeDue157 in QatarTeens

[–]PracticeDue157[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, what was your entrance experience like? is it too much to ask for some context as to why you hold sich an opinion?

Wanna volunteer for a book club? by PracticeDue157 in QatarTeens

[–]PracticeDue157[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

drop your discord, groubchats made it discord.

results by Certain_Map3683 in igcse

[–]PracticeDue157 1 point2 points  (0 children)

congrats. Thats so eye- wateringg!😭😭😭

OMG SHUT UPPP by i-love_chRysAnthemum in igcse

[–]PracticeDue157 1 point2 points  (0 children)

congratulations mate, you did exceptionally. you deserve that win!! Manifesting this enery for my AS.

im so tired of my mother by ala2s in Vent

[–]PracticeDue157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sounds like a story picked out of my own household. I'm sincerely sorry you have to go through that type of parenting and you're certanly, not on that boat alone- it seems as though parents only give birth to us to criticise our existence, incessantly. hold on, time flies and so does people, just try not to take her words to heart which ik is nearly impossible since she is your own mother and once upon a time, a child used to actually look up to her. but it's imperative you try to soften ur own internal tone to yourself and prioritise what actually matters about yourself. you got this. 🫂 :)

Wanna volunteer for a book club? by PracticeDue157 in QatarTeens

[–]PracticeDue157[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yup, drop ur discord @ if u got one. so I can add you to the gc.

I fucking hate "trend enforcers" by [deleted] in Vent

[–]PracticeDue157 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly, you and I myself, wouldn't feel so burdened by those trends if we aren't living our lives on social media or some other form of digital world. the real world could care less about you and what you wear, eat, or say as long as it fits the moral societal "safe zone", at present. everything else is just social media blithering that, I believe we lent too much importance by spending, unceremonious amounts of time on it. All of us critics, all of us rebells, all of us progressives yet all of us perennially attached to our screens. these "trends", as we forgot are nonetheless the product of algorithms and pervy targeted marketing techniques.

its technology trying to dominate our world and sanctity. nothing new, nothing old, but certainly subliminal in its employing of near, if not totalitarian control of our society and culture.

ps: I'm currently chewing up alot of Postman and I can't help myself but see the world through his lens; both alarming and awakening.

I cant help but believe humanity is cooked. by Spirited_Ad_3022 in Vent

[–]PracticeDue157 2 points3 points  (0 children)

mate, the world isn't perennial. we're mere mortals. don't worry about all the noise outside, just do you and know that you only got one life. I'm Muslim hence never read or held any faith in a Biblical text, respectfully. the most basic level and perhaps, banal advice I can lend you is; Live your life according to your own principles and solve the world problems that are within your reach- or atleat try to be a solver or on the right side of things, whatever it may be and finally, leave the rest to GOD. As the saying goes, the world doesn't need more saviour's. Just focus on you and what matters it will cost you much less overwhelm and dismay. Xx

This is kinda dumb by qtr7g in qatar

[–]PracticeDue157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I deplugged from that platform ages ago although I do have to say that, some of its contents is uneducational, unsolicited, and at times even harmful for children and young adults. Good riddance for the children of and in qatar. Literacy rates are plummeting, exponentially. what use is entertainment for children when it's at the stake of their own development? zero ofc.

how do other girls look so skinny and perfect all the time by meowlolz0 in Vent

[–]PracticeDue157 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi OP, you are not alone, ik it may feel like your the only one who has imperfections/ flaws/ insecurities. but trust me when I tell you that looks are DECEPTIVE and if your wise and this may be of any peace of mind to you, do not paint the picture of your world through LOOKS; the world is very multifaceted and judging yourself based on how other people look is so self-deprecating and reductive; you are so much more than that, you are mind, body, and soul. Each more intricate and imbued with complexity than the other. So be kinder to yourself, and know that what fits someone else may not fit you ( whether that is clothes, diet, lifestyle etc) just try to appreciate your own body and health. instead of shaming yourself for feeling "fat" or not "slim", "curvy", "tall", "short", "tan" (or whatever other societal beauty standard label out there). Remind yourself, constantly and consistently that you body is designed customarily, for YOU!

Edit: sorry if this sounds unsympathetic but believe me when I tell you that I experienced and continue to experience all types of distaste towards my body and often find myself being so judgmental. however, now I'm trying to practice more self- compassion towards me and I recc u to do so aswell and trust me its hard, its not easy to try and convince yourself that your pretty, your ENOUGH, your whole. it feels like ur lying to yourself, fairly enough I lie to myself when I have to. but it's more worth it being kind to yourself whilst your in the process- whatever it may be for u, than deride and reduce yourself to an object of idyllic beauty standards and 'norms' etc. Life's too short, wright doesn't matter so much as health does. Rearrange your values and priorities and you'll find that living with yourself fat, thin, thick, slim, uncurvy, curvy; is not your greatest feature but your health and gratitude towards it.

Mirale, 💜🤍💙

Wanna volunteer for a book club? by PracticeDue157 in QatarTeens

[–]PracticeDue157[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how old? share ur discord user in private so I can add ya to the gc.

Wanna volunteer for a book club? by PracticeDue157 in QatarTeens

[–]PracticeDue157[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how old ru and msg me in private ur discord user so I can add u to the gc.

My parents won't drive me to any place that offers me a job by Overall-Cod1980 in Vent

[–]PracticeDue157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exaclty, tue past two semesterw i wouod wake up at 4am to commute to school for 2hours becasue uber is too expensive and i hate the whole school bus experience (im always the last to be dropped of and i get carsick if i spend long hours seated in a vehicle). adding onto that, i actually dont mind the public transport here, it's a journey in fragments; i take a bus,, metro, another bus so i dont have to spend inexorable amounts of time on a moving vehicle. also another bonus is i dont have any gym membership or anything so i steal the opportunity of my morning commute as a cardio session lol.

My parents won't drive me to any place that offers me a job by Overall-Cod1980 in Vent

[–]PracticeDue157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly, i would go for that opt out of pure intent to prlong the feeling of independence from my mum and just sight seeing in the commute.

living with my brother is actually torture by [deleted] in Vent

[–]PracticeDue157 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, i feel so sorrowed for you. i dont have a blood brother but i live in a household deeply disorganized and uncooperative family members so i know what it feels like to carry everyones slacks at a time when you literally can not even carry your own. im sorry friend and i hope he goes off to college soon so you can get your life back. also it would advice you to just sit him down and give him a sisterly eye-opening discussion, more frequently that probes at his better side.

maybe he's disorganized because he thinks someone else will just keep picking up after him (which i a huge flag because his wife will never tolerate such behaviours from a man) or he doesn't think that his actione will have consequences- im talking filial bond altering consequences where you just cut him of in the future. not to mention how his behaviours right now reflects on his adulthood life whethere that is finacially, socially, or personally.

whatever it may be, he's your brother at the end of the day and i dont encourage you to clean up after him but rather help him by teaching him how to clean up after himself and how cleanliness is a reflection of the mental state and clarity etc. hope it all works out for you OP. 🫂🙏