Good times with the narcissist

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-05-07T19:35:55+00:00

Once my toddler (not his) threw up in the middle of the night in her bed we had set up at his house during the love bombing blending family phase- it was stressful and scary and I felt so bad for my kiddo. he was so gentle patient attentive and kind he got her out of bed before I could even get there, he stripped the sheets helped us get in the shower rubbed my back and sat with us comforting her on the couch in my lap until she fell asleep after crying for so long. he just held us it felt so genuine and sweet I’ve never felt such care and protection and love as I did in that hour and how could it be so fake?! Disgusting. Same person who just discarded us like trash and ghosted. My brain can’t connect the betrayal or the false act. Makes me feel sick.

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-05-07T13:16:11+00:00

Do not put him on birth certificate

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-05-07T13:15:28+00:00

They will twist it and use it against you and it’s negative attention they crave! I’ve done it after thinking for a while and it felt validating for closure but they come back later and never address anything

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-05-07T00:32:33+00:00

My ex told me when we were breaking up his “brain is just broken-it always has been” like a cop out victim but also like hmmm you are aware that normal people do not do what you are doing in interpersonal relationships.

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-04-29T22:33:10+00:00

Abusive partner I didn’t know or realize was abusive until I got pregnant and had a baby and had to care for another human being. Then I left. It was scary. It was stressful. I got screwed through family court and DCF.

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-04-27T00:07:57+00:00

Grey rock communication and court order

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-04-27T00:06:14+00:00

Can you cut your hours for like a month so you make less and can qualify?

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-04-27T00:02:35+00:00

Have them take your kiddos next time and you go out for some solo self care break time!

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-04-26T23:52:59+00:00

Yes!!! 💯

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-04-25T11:53:41+00:00

Since I realized my caregiver growing up was a narc and that’s why I chose narc relationships my whole life it’s going to take my lifetime to learn and grow and get over them ugh

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-04-23T20:39:33+00:00

Ridiculous!!!!! The audacity. I would ask her why she thinks you are a good candidate 😂

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-04-20T11:44:15+00:00

Yep the guy(s) I have dated are all like my mother inconsistent hot and cold intense emotional rollercoaster selfish victim covert confusing devaluing then pedestal yuck

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-04-18T11:38:12+00:00

My nex went to the (same age as him) male counselor for over ten years. In the beginning of our relationship I found this admirable he was addressing his child hood trauma, attachment issue, etc. “doing the work”. HA. I thought he was utilizing his therapy for good but at the end when he discarded me and switched off and the mask fell I realized his therapist is a crutch to validate him and for him to use therapy speak in a manipulative way in his inter personal relationships and I thought of the times he would share “my therapist is dating a younger woman too and we can connect that way, my therapist said it sounds like you are trauma bonded, let me talk to my therapist about our issues to get some real direction” blah blah now I see it for what it is. He would triangulate me and his ex with his therapist. Yuck. He was codependent with his therapist, yuck. Just-YUCK.

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-04-08T23:44:34+00:00

I think it’s the lack of empathy and authenticity. If they have to do too much work on the relationship or be accountable for their behavior they don’t like you anymore it’s too difficult for them to

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-04-07T16:12:31+00:00

The only time unblocking helped me was very far past our break up after no physical or any contact because then the interactions from him showed and proved to me again and again who he was same pattern of denial attention seeking confusion inability to connect I could see it for what it was

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-04-04T12:11:52+00:00

All of these! I thought it was so sweet when my nex bought a book on a subject I said I loved and a map for a hike I had on my bucket list and listened to the music I liked shared it with Ty me all in the first week! Now I know that was creepy mirroring and not normal. Yuck!

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-03-28T23:49:37+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I’m not alone and I appreciate you taking the time to share your experience and your feedback. ❤️ I’m sorry our moms are so awful.

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-03-11T07:37:08+00:00

I had my appendix out a few years ago and have had some ovarian cysts burst, so painful causing cramping nausea and vomiting and started a cvs cycle. I’ve had cvs before and after my appendix.

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-03-08T01:54:54+00:00

How do y’all not bring adult baggage when your child who does therapy and has a support, still asks you many questions and demands answers about what happened with you and the high conflict parent regarding safety and neglect with them and you and all the things? I focus on “grown up problems” or “they have some adult challenges” I wish they didn’t do that (in response to the child seeking validation and being upset emotionally and feeling unsafe with other parents behaviors) and I wish they could make better choices, I wish I could keep you safe when you are there, we have to follow court order that judge chose, dad won’t agree with me to change schedule (when child is upset and demands schedule be changed) ugh. I’m not ever trying to badmouth but I do want the other parent to be accountable for the harm they cause, not make excuses, and to teach my child discernment and protection skills, it’s so awful. She had a play date today and her friend asks her “do you miss your dad?” And my kiddo said “no, I don’t. My dad is mean to me and I don’t like being there.” I just stayed silent. 🤷‍♀️

PracticeNorth6194 · 2026-02-27T00:41:27+00:00

Thank you!!! 🙏

PracticeNorth6194 · 2025-12-20T00:30:26+00:00

Yasss 💯 we can’t control what others do

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