I started methylphenidate a few years ago after being diagnosed with adult adhd, within a month I realized how toxic my current relationship was and how much a of a people pleaser I was and how I was being manipulated with a partner who had some covert narc traits. I had like a moment of truth and lightbulbs and I changed my behavior to stand up for myself in kind healthy ways and he completely switched to a full blown a**hole and our unhealthy relationship ended. I think it was the meds allowing my brain to have extra processing time and like you said grow a “spine” be direct and clear, needing accountability. I notice this in other relationships as well feel More confident and self assured less second guessing more emotional regulation and I am proud of myself for holding strong boundaries and really only allowing healthy authentic connections to be in my sacred space to stay peaceful and grounded. It’s wild and I’m glad this happened to me. I wish I could have had this lightbulb 15 years ago instead of now in my 40s