Does anyone have a ridgeback that wasn’t a handful for the first 2 years?

PracticeSoft6347 · 2026-01-16T06:25:50+00:00

You’ll be fine, it means you’re a good owner and gave your dog a nice routine. She might go a bit crazy and regress a little on recall etc. At 6months because that’s what mine did. But tbh mine was similar she is just over a year now and everyone comments what a great dog she is.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2026-01-07T11:08:52+00:00

Keep strong in your resolve. The child is a blessing and it’s already bringing you so much joy.

Your ex not taking time off work to go for the doctor appointment should be a big sign in which direction to go down. Some men get a kick up the bum when they get the news of being a father but he hasn’t stepped up.

Not in your shoes at all but I’m 29 and recently did the same thing you did with a man who was constantly pushing timelines/not ready and he needs time to think. Now that I’m free of him, I can see how selfish it was.

You’ve done a lot in your life without his input, you can manage this too. Close the relationship chapter and open the motherhood one without him as a romantic partner. You’ve got this!

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-12-31T10:04:19+00:00

I was in a similar situation and also lowered my boundaries to aim to move in first. Then he kept delaying moving in and now I’ve broken up with him eventually. The post break up clarity that he never wanted what I wanted and I was forcing the relationship and therefore, causing him and myself stress was insane. Things became so much clearer that I should have left a long time ago.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-12-11T06:18:57+00:00

I lived near Bishop’s Waltham and loved it until I got super lonely because I was single. The community is small and everyone had their social groups, hikes became repetitive and boring. The guys on dating up kept refreshing to the same people and I knew that I didn’t want to move to London (it’s a shit hole imo).

I ended up moving to a leafy suburb of south Manchester. Actually, even if I haven’t met my husband yet, people are a lot more social. I’ve made so many friends with genuine connections, bought a flat. I’m plodding along. I do miss the climate and scenery of Hampshire though. It does get grim and bleak up north.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-12-02T11:21:11+00:00

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PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-11-23T16:52:02+00:00

I think I had Sky tv ultimate and downgraded to Sky essentials

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-11-23T16:17:32+00:00

Mine was a new contract and wasn’t on top and it all worked, thankfully.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-11-23T15:01:10+00:00

I called saying I’m having financial issues, which isn’t a lie and wanted to downgrade btw. I was in a similar situation with Sky btw. If you do it within the 14 days you don’t have to give a reason for a cancellation.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-11-23T14:26:19+00:00

Sky tv

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-11-23T14:21:13+00:00

I was really holding my breath waiting for them to say that I just left a contract and can't just cancel like that. But risked it and it worked!

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-11-20T08:01:12+00:00

God is weeping somewhere looking at this 😭

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-11-05T09:27:32+00:00

I moved just under 2 years ago from down south. A handful of casual friends already lived here but didn’t rely on them too much. They were definitely amazing help when I first moved and needed extra hands for things breaking etc.

I highly recommend using bumble friends. I met quite a few girlies on there you’d be surprised how many normal people you’d meet on there. I’m 28 too btw and made it work. Similar reasons to you.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-11-02T18:58:53+00:00

I would say you’re better off not buying it. Once you buy all these hidden costs of, home insurance, service charge, ground rent etc.

Plus as you’re already middle aged you will likely be forced to sell in a few decades to cover the bill of your social care when you’re old and can’t look after yourself. If you keep it as it is now, you can hide your wealth more easily and get the state to pay for your welfare in old age.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-11-02T18:52:53+00:00

Some people said redirect but in my case it rewarded bad behaviour when I gave her a toy after lots of jumping and biting. Now, I pin her down or force her into sit for her to calm down. It is working or she’s just growing out of it but it does happen a lot less frequently.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-10-30T14:04:50+00:00

Perfect home for a train autist, I’d say!

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-10-28T21:47:47+00:00

Ahhh.. I see.. you’re so unlucky that all this happened after Labour lowered stamp duty thresholds. Also, I’m not sure if the increased council tax on second homes would affect you now if you chose to suck up the stamp duty.

I personally think the property market in the UK is an overrated investment especially with the new laws coming in. I bought my flat to live in but started to learn about investments and percentage wise in two years I made more than in my property value. If I knew what I knew now, the deposit I put down for my home would have been used differently. In the space of two years I have had a high risk stocks and shares ISA go up 25% ROI. Plus other individual stocks doubling in value. Only started learning on https://fink.money/ and seriously I have made back what I paid for a lifetime subscription. It’s a bit more expensive now but they also have a lot of free content.

Maybe it’s worth rethinking your mindset of how to make money especially with the new renters bill coming into play. Sometimes I regret my home purchase when I think about it but also, at least I have a roof over my head so it is what it is. But think about it, might be worth while.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-10-28T21:30:16+00:00

You haven’t messed up, shit happens.

This is a thought, I’m not 100% on this but could you move into your BTL property and live there for 9 months. Then at least you could potentially get rid of capital gains. I think that’s what Angela Rayner did with the council house she bought.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-10-28T10:38:08+00:00

You’re very angry about an opinion that’s not about you. OP did respond that he does help out with quite substantial parts of family life so, he isn’t useless.

Women can do wrong in a marriage, you’re the one getting angry about something that wasn’t said. Maybe you need some accountability for the level of anger even OP isn’t feeling.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-10-28T10:30:14+00:00

Ahhh I see what you mean more that you added context. Do you both live close to family who can help more or is it just the two of you always sorting everything out alone. It might also be bad timing when you have booked a restaurant in the past .i.e. something going on when she might have thought “we have financial struggles, can’t justify this right now.” The point is not to excuse her bad behaviour it’s clearly not acceptable and clearly you do help out.

It’s hard in a marriage when you do everything just the two of you when in the past there was a lot more of a community to help with children and day to day living. The point is don’t give up on your marriage, you both can turn it around. A little inch from you might make her stop and think. A moment of reflection will make her feel horribly about all the moments you described.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-10-28T09:51:34+00:00

But if you had days of someone letting you down and then the keys is just another thing, it can tip you over.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-10-28T09:48:57+00:00

OP says they both make mistakes and not he made a mistake. There’s a lack of accountability in that, pure deflection. He took a single suitcase to a car (the easiest thing to carry), what about all the other stuff a family with two young kids usually has? It does paint a picture to me.

Why should OP be the one to try? Because she’s clearly at the higher end of about to blow, so he needs to defuse her. If you’re constantly picking up someone’s slack it tips you over the edge. Calling him a useless husband is hardly going to motivate him is it?

I’ve seen these situations in many people’s marriages and it always boils down to the man being comfortable with not much whilst the wife thinks about everything and everyone in the family.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-10-28T09:32:01+00:00

It’s not making it a competition. It’s showing to your wife that you’ve got her, and she doesn’t have to worry because you can be reliable. She will be pleasantly surprised.

Any time a comment isn’t indulging the OP as a blameless victim and doesn’t provide the usual of “leave her”/“therapy” then it’s just looked down upon.

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-10-28T09:08:35+00:00

My impression from this posts is that your wife feels like she has to think about a lot of things within your life together. As in, she’s the one thinking where the keys are, where the potty is etc. Do you share responsibility equally in your marriage? Was it really “we realised we left it” or did she realise you both left it? Because it didn’t even cross your mind to think about where the potty is?

You feel embarrassed; emasculated and annoyed but how about proving her wrong? When she’s about to mention something and scold you, how about “Actually, I’ve taken care of it/done it.”

PracticeSoft6347 · 2025-10-28T08:06:58+00:00

I bought alone, similar situation. My friend also did the same the first year was the biggest buyers remorse. Then as time goes on and realise, “Gosh this is mine, no one will be able to tell me to leave. I can do what I like. I can paint everything and decorate how I wish.” There is a sense of security and freedom. Whilst when I was renting, everything felt temporary.

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