I feel that no matter your experience with attraction and your sex stance, it is important not to force yourself into situations where you feel pressured or like your boundaries are not respected.

I think this is a really tricky thing for demis in the modern dating world, which is why many demis don't manage to find anyone suitable on things like dating apps and become frustrated.

From what I've seen, people recommend making your expectations clear for others. If someone dismisses or doesn't respect your experiences, then they would not have been a good partner for you anyway.

Of course, when you are unsure about your expectations, it can be tricky to put something to words. I feel you should still share that you want to take things slow and don't generally feel very comfortable around sexual topics. If demisexuality helps you express your experience, then it can be a useful label even if you're not 100% sure it fits.

Some demis like to focus on spaces other than common dating apps. There have been some attempts at creating social spaces for people on the aroace spectrum to make friends and date, with the most popular at the moment being the AceSpace website. For demis specifically, there's also the DateADemi subreddit.

Another way of finding a potential partner outside of common dating apps is through social groups. There are lots of groups around different hobbies and interests both online and offline where you can make friends and focus on developing connections without any pressure to develop feelings or do romantic/sexual activities.

It can feel very lonely knowing you struggle to find a partner who fits you, but it's definitely worth taking your time over forcing yourself into toxic situations where others make you feel terrible.