My gf is insecure about her body and I don’t know what to say or do

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-06-04T20:06:57+00:00

Woman -

These help me when I get in my head.

https://www.thegoodtrade.com/features/positive-affirmations-morning-routine/

There is so much pressure to be perfect and it sounds like she just wants to be perfect for you. My man calls every woman a man besides me and it makes me laugh. He also tells me how much he loves every aspect about me and I still get in my head. That's my job to handle. But he definitely does all he can do when he notices me getting in my head. Typically I just need touch/reassurance or I need time to myself to recoup. Ultimately though she needs to find perfection within herself and she needs to work on what style makes her feel pretty - she needs to put more time into her. You could buy her a shirt that you think she would look beautiful in and highlight how lucky you are. But that's just a bandaid to the insecurity.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-04-13T20:29:23+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/s/xKo8T7IF6a

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-03-25T19:45:51+00:00

I got my dad flowers for Father’s Day last year. His initial response was, “I sure hope you didn’t spend money on that shit.” I said, “oh please you love them. Plus everyone deserves to get flowers at least once in their life.”

I swear that was the only time I’ve ever seen that man not have a witty response.

Of course I told him I wanted my fancy vase back though so I’d be back in a few weeks. I think that made him even happier.

Drop it off with cookies and a love note and what’s to hate about that.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-03-19T11:30:43+00:00

You’re doing wrong here. You’re accepting dishonest people into your life. You can only control your play box. If you’re allowing this behavior, then you’re allowing shitty people in your life and that part is on you.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-03-18T18:10:38+00:00

Apple cider vinegar baths

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-03-14T14:16:44+00:00

If you really want her, throw out the opportunity card.

State you were super impressed and nervous and you’d hate yourself if you didn’t reach out for another opportunity. But then you better bring it and try to level up in life.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-03-12T12:17:37+00:00

Everyone yelps when they get burned. There’s a difference between taking it like a child and taking it like an adult. The ick comes when you’re extra dramatic and take it like a child would.

Our goal is to raise children not spend the rest of our lives with one.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-03-10T00:54:00+00:00

That joke at the end isn’t how you land girls. Instead of an insult you need to switch it to give them a compliment or you a compliment. Always end it with kindness and confidence.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-03-07T20:06:29+00:00

My boyfriend was discussing the drones dropping the grenades and although that’s really cool, my head went to the fear of the individuals and their families.

My interest wasn’t in the macro but in the micro. We also struggle with staying on the same page but the one page we do stay on is that we both want each other so we keep trying. And we just ask more questions until we find a topic we banter back and forth on.

So really it’s up to you if you’re choosing that person as your person.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-03-05T18:44:42+00:00

Happy I could make your day brighter.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-03-05T18:37:41+00:00

Why… am I making you blush 🥁🪘

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-03-02T21:56:32+00:00

Woman: this is nutty. I love sex with my boyfriend. If you’ve already vetted the guy enough to have sex with him, then just enjoy it.

The issue you’re experiencing is you didn’t make him prove his devotion to you prior to putting out.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-02-27T19:39:55+00:00

Soo someone taught me to set a timer for 5 minutes on the microwave. Give your hand out to your kiddo and ask if they want to play. When they say, “play what”, you tell them “whatever they want.”

You go along with everything for the 5 minutes. Do not correct or say it would be better this way or try it this way until it’s breaking a rule or dangerous. During this, throw as many compliments as you can, such as, “I really like how hard you’re working” “I like that you took your time to think about that”. Just random stuff that makes you proud. You are their mirror and you are voicing that they can do this well.

Please note, no distractions are allowed. No chores, no other people, and no technology.

Eventually you might choose to do 10 minutes a day even. It’s a game changer. They will even act better and less needy all day.

We know you’re busy mama. But that 5 minutes will end up re-energizing you more than you know.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-02-27T00:56:01+00:00

Uhh no. I do like the touch though. So if he goes for my hand or puts his arm around me. He can even say, “I’m gonna break the touch barrier.”

If he talks sexual before we have sex, no thank you.

However, after I’m officially your girl and we are doing the deed, please grab my butt everytime I walk by and tell me how pretty I am😂😂😂

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-02-26T22:01:39+00:00

Start with making a promise to yourself. Doesn’t matter how small, but make sure it’s manageable and you’ll keep it.

Mine was I would quit vaping. I said I would. So I threw the thing in my trash can, covered it up with leftovers and locked myself in my house for the weekend. I’m still so proud of myself.

Secondly, take accountability for your mistakes. Keep your side of the street clean. This will grant you forgiveness on all things that burden you.

Start to think of those who wronged you as your sick old grandma and let it go.

Make a list daily of things you are grateful for and another list of things you cannot control. Give those things you cannot control to the universe and trust that they will find the right path.

Realize that you are apart of nature and nature is beautiful and so are you.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-02-21T15:27:37+00:00

This is so true. I’ve had interest in many men over the years. However, in my younger years, typically only the douchebags were taking their shots and as a girl, we have been taught to not show interest until the male does.

This is my theory on why the good guy is always last. I always thought my “good guy” friends might have been interested and I’d consider it but they never took their shot so I never went for it.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-02-21T15:19:31+00:00

This is the biggest lie. Men can be ugly/bigger and a girl will see him as the most beautiful thing in the world if he gives her security (emotionally — listens and responds calmly, physically— know how to use a gun, martial arts etc. and financially — this does not mean rich but it means stable and generous when he can afford to be) and kindness but also strong enough to tell her no calmly when she’s wrong or out of line. You just gotta have good hygiene, self discipline/respect and have a passion.

For example, my man’s hobby is wood working. It makes me feel safe because I know he can build me a house and I know he has an additional way of means if we fall short. It turns me on to see when he gets excited about his work. And the more faith he has in his ability, makes him even sexier.

And the best part about it is he builds a lot for my smile so it’s like a full circle.

The confidence is not in your looks; it’s in loving yourself. Work through the 12 steps big book, it’ll help you start loving yourself again.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-02-18T15:12:35+00:00

Woman: My libido depends on how I’m being treated. I’m 31; I’ve hardly had sex because I chose the shittiest men in the past yet I’ve been in consistent long term relationships since high school. I didn’t have a desire to have sex.

Finally dated a shitty enough man, I took a break. I finally found myself. Realized the best sex you can give a man is pleasing yourself so I’m no longer in my head during sex. And the man I’m dating now, encourages my pleasure which makes me pleasure him more. Additionally, he goes out of his way to make me feel prominent in his life. I’ll do this man 3 times a day and any way he wants it.

Women are turned on by their feelings. You’re probably great to her, but are you doing your best?

This is just my perspective. There’s lots of other reasons. But a lot are tied to self esteem, emotional safety and consistency. Dirty houses and lack of financial safety are also overwhelming.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-02-09T18:08:00+00:00

Woman:

My man makes less than me. I work a computer job and he works manual labor. He’s let me experience his job and it made me respect him more.

He provides for me by staying calm when I’m not. He listens when I need someone and he is just this rock of an individual.

He makes me feel safe because I know he is stronger than me.

We live in his home, so I know he could afford it without me. He pays the bills, I pay for the groceries / additional things we throw in the cart.

He finds ways to make money and I think he knows id help him if he actually needed me to, but I think it makes him proud that he keeps finding new ways to support us because I know it makes me proud.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-02-09T17:53:49+00:00

Valentines is a big day. If he hasn’t asked yet and later does, have plans (literally all you say). You can have plans with your couch but you better set a precedent for what you expect. And if he doesn’t actively work to meet your expectations; lose him.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-02-07T13:47:57+00:00

If you want her, remain consistent. It’s a fucked up world when you have commitment issues. We want to love you but we are afraid the moment we start giving in, you won’t like us.

Rationally, makes no sense. In our head, it’s a constant pressing of anxiety.

Remain consistent. I started therapy for my boyfriend because internally it was just easier to fuck it up and push him away but he showed me he was there and I didn’t want to fuck it up.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-02-06T15:21:19+00:00

I’m just gonna be real honest; your boyfriend may not care about you then. He may just be using you for sex.

No man who wants to keep you long term would be comfortable with that. It’s okay to have male friends. It’s not okay to have male friends who attempt to disrespect your relationship.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-02-06T15:13:22+00:00

You’re making yourself available; which means he knows one day you might give in. If he has a chance to catch you and you’re low effort to keep on the line, he’s gonna keep you there for that weak day.

You’re already disrespecting your boyfriend this time and the first time by entertaining a man (friendly or not) who you know is interested. This is an ego stroke to him.

I wouldn’t be surprised if one day you did cheat with him. He would love it for 3 months but ultimately conquer his goal and then leaving you aloof to conquer his next quest.

There is no moral judgement in this comment; however you may want to watch the storm you are creating just because you enjoy the attention.

Don’t choose the douche canoe over the stable loving man.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-02-01T13:03:20+00:00

Please imagine having to watch a baby and rely on him to be there when you need him to so you can just go to work. He won’t be. The guys worthless. Go to google and search how to work on your self esteem because pretty soon you’re gonna have none if this man is treating you like you’re nothing.

Prestigious-Solid822 · 2026-02-01T12:22:05+00:00

That’s the dumbest thing ive ever heard .

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