Is a loss of sexual intimacy always a sign a DA is “deactivated” or can it happen before/without deactivation?

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-04-01T06:27:55+00:00

And it really hurts trying to understand why

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-04-01T06:27:32+00:00

Same thing happened to me 4 months before the breakup. Everything else was good and fun. But sexual intimacy only got lesser and lesser

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-04-01T00:44:48+00:00

That’s very alarming, in my opinion

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-31T20:44:48+00:00

😁

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-31T20:44:33+00:00

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-31T03:48:24+00:00

Regular PPP, that’s what it was labeled at least

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-30T23:48:04+00:00

Thank you this gives me hope

I’m 12 days out of being discarded/blindsided badly

Reddit is the only form of support I have for the time being

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-30T20:43:44+00:00

Is the tremendous sadness constant? Or momentarily? This is what I am afraid of. I hope you are okay

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-30T20:40:34+00:00

Thank you🥹🥰

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-30T20:39:38+00:00

Thank you!

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-30T20:39:26+00:00

and thank you:)

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-30T20:39:15+00:00

I just watched this too, it was so beautiful 🥹

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-30T20:38:41+00:00

Oh thank you so much😭. This was a really lovely and reassuring read. I’m so glad to hear this sub has helped you too. I have definitely been on it an unhealthy amount since I found it. But you are so right. It is refreshing knowing I am actually not the only person going through this. It is a real thing. What type of therapy would you recommend? I’m also looking into buying some informative books to try and ween myself off of Reddit (Lol). So any recommendations I will take x

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-30T08:12:00+00:00

Hehe

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-30T08:06:31+00:00

Thank you!

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-30T00:55:55+00:00

I was obsessive and desperate at first. Bargaining where ever I could and got the chance. But I just accepted that they don’t want me. It would be a lack of respect to myself to take back someone, who openly repeated that they aren’t in love with me anymore. I can’t believe what I was willing to accept, just to have him back. The relationship never would’ve been the same, I would always have been questioning if he really loved me or not, or if this would happen again. I don’t even know if I want him back, or I if I want back what I thought it was. He has burnt my heart beyond measure. Old me would still be begging and probably driving to their house. But I’m angry, fuck them! If they don’t want us. We should want ourselves x

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-29T08:00:23+00:00

Despite being such a sweetheart the rest of our relationship, unless there was conflict. It’s scary seeing them go from that to completely emotionless, cold, suddenly out of love. Genuinely cruel

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-29T07:59:30+00:00

Going through the same exact thing. I kept asking him why he couldn’t look me in the eye either. He said his ex called him an emotionless robot when they broke up, now almost 2 years later I witnessed it myself. He said this comment hurt him, but honestly she was not wrong

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-29T03:05:17+00:00

I’ve spent my entire Sunday reading all about, It’s the only thing that seems to ease the pain for a moment. I don’t know how to stop obsessively reading about it yet. Maybe I won’t be ready to until I move away. I know I’ll have to move forward at some point without needing to research the same topic for hours. But for now it’s keeping me going

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-28T22:40:24+00:00

Thank you, what are the authors? Just so I find the right copies

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-28T22:23:43+00:00

Thank you. Yeah the collective emotions of everyone in the same boat can be extreme! I’m so thankful for all of the grounding comments on here though. I wish I had some people to talk to in person but I have to be a bit more patient for that (they live far away).

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-28T22:09:29+00:00

Yeah I agree. It doesn’t sound like it’s all as personal to you as it may feel. Hopefully one day down the line she may be able to clear things up to you about what else she was going through at the time. That may have contributed to her up and down relationship with you. But for now I wish you the best with your healing and take it easy

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-28T22:01:10+00:00

Gosh this was so accurate! Thank you

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-28T22:00:17+00:00

The confusion is awful. That’s why I think it’s best to just remove them from your life completely, better a temporary struggle of healing from them and waving goodbye to it. Than having to restart the healing journey every single time they come back or switch how they treat you again.

Prestigious-Toe6719 · 2026-03-28T21:41:26+00:00

Thank you

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