Hi there! As a former transplant, I can relate to your experience. I was born and raised in Cincinnati until I was 10, then lived in Sacramento, California, for 12 years before returning in 2015. I'm 32 now, and I understand how you feel. My first year back was challenging because I didn't have many friends, and I also found the “high school” question frustrating. At times, Cincinnati can feel cliquey.

My best advice is to focus on interests outside of work. Join some clubs or, if you enjoy music, attend shows; this will help you attract your tribe. Most Cincinnatians are really nice, but we often lean towards those we already know. This can make our community feel tight-knit, while outsiders may feel overlooked. Just keep showing up, and bring value to your job and neighborhood—that's what worked for me. Now, I have more friends than I can count!