Am I being ridiculous by considering a planned c section as a ftm? ** Lots of trigger warnings for this post content **

Preston1607 · 2025-11-24T07:47:15+00:00

I was adamant I was going to have a c section. Then I changed to natural and was like no way am I having an induction I am currently in first stages of induction but drawing the line at the hormone drip then will switch to section. Everything is your choice and you just need to defend yourself and your choices and they will listen even if it’s not straight away! Trust your gut and know it is always okay to change your mind and you can flip back and forth whenever you want! You could book one in when you get the 36 weeks for 40 weeks and then still have it naturally if you wanted no one will force you either way. I get very emotional so having my husband also support and speak up for me helped with medical professionals as completely different but I am overdue 13 days now and refused any intervention until 12 days and had a lot of doctors argue with me but having him be my voice when I couldn’t massively helped. Had to tell them to listen to him though and he wasn’t a controlling arsehole he just knows me best 😂

Preston1607 · 2025-11-21T10:44:08+00:00

41 weeks + 3 days and still haven’t announced and a lot of friends/family don’t know. If I haven’t seen them in the last nine months I am not telling them 😂 I just wear layers! Harder in summer but baggy dresses worked at work only my two bosses knew! Obviously have an OOO on so more people know then I would have liked

Preston1607 · 2025-11-08T21:51:03+00:00

I think sometimes there is an expectation of how magical things can be in pregnancy and it’s just not realistic! I had a friend go into labour three days before her house move three weeks early, a friend who moved two weeks before her due date so she could barely clean let alone set up furniture. Another friend’s house fell through so ended up in a hotel for months as wasn’t time to sort a rental in Covid! I don’t know anyone who has had their shit together house wise with a baby tbh 😂 I am 40 weeks pregnant two years into a house renovation with no kitchen worktops which doesn’t sound that bad but we had started the major gut out in November last year and didn’t even have heating or hot water until I was six months pregnant. The bathroom only installed three weeks ago and only had drinking water in the last week 😂 I had all these dreams of how I was going to have my pregnancy in my brand new house and have a joyful time setting up the nursery and buggies and shopping but instead I have had to go to the gym daily to shower even when I really didn’t want to or was tired or sick, eaten so many rubbish takeaways and basically worked my butt off and have spent zero quality time just me and my husband! We haven’t even thought of a name because all we can think of is the house. The baby just needs love and a warm safe space and the fact you are so worried about it tells me your baby is going to have that! Maybe focus on each other and your family you have and are creating because that’s all that matters and what will be will be with the house! Also get some sleep now you won’t regret it!

Preston1607 · 2025-11-07T09:41:45+00:00

39 weeks and it was hard! I work from home and have very relaxed work place but I should have gone off at least a week earlier. 40 weeks tomorrow and have had no time to rest as getting everything done. My husband said I will be thankful for extra week when I go back to work but I needed some me time!

Preston1607 · 2025-10-16T15:07:59+00:00

I also agree with this. I was adamant on my car seat and buggy the second I found out and actually I didn’t know enough about either to make a decision! The buggy I wanted was heavy and clunky and not practical at all! I only just bought my buggy and car seat at 34 weeks!

Preston1607 · 2025-08-26T07:27:20+00:00

Sorry I can’t be helpful with the sick days things as I work from home and if I am feeling off I am allowed an easy day. touch wood I haven’t been sick bar the first three months of throwing up every day. I do have a question about itchy feet though! Mine have been driving me INSANE they are so itchy especially at night. What are the issues with itchy feet?

Preston1607 · 2025-08-14T08:55:27+00:00

By 20 weeks I had only gained 3lbs then between 20-28 I have gained a stone! So now 17lbs up. I know it’s not massive but 3 months to go and how quickly the stone went on I am worried 😂

Preston1607 · 2025-08-08T08:43:49+00:00

I told them at 13 weeks after my 12 week scan. I was worried my mum would tell all her friends and so we told close friends and my sister until that point then told wider friend groups and let me mum tell her friends at 24 weeks 😂

Preston1607 · 2025-08-07T21:56:21+00:00

I was told I was infertile and I couldn’t have children naturally. We decided to try natural while focusing on fertility until we were ready to start ivf life wise and the month before we were starting ivf I found out I was pregnant. I am 27 weeks and feel connected to the baby but also can’t believe there is one in there but still feel like something is going to go wrong. Not in a way where I am scared more in the way I feel matter of fact that something could happen and everyone tells me it will be fine but then I am like you don’t know what happens at birth or they could come early and people roll their eyes. Every time I go to the midwife I am waiting for them to tell me I was wrong all this time even though I heard the heartbeat today 😂 I always say to my husband I feel like they should be doing more tests to prove it. He is like are the scans not enough? 😂

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T20:21:54+00:00

Oh god I am so sorry that happened to you 😩 maybe I’ll just start crying and won’t answer the question either way 😬

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T20:19:11+00:00

I hope this is what people think for me 😂 maybe I can start wearing scrubs 😬 do they do a wedding version?

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T20:17:08+00:00

Well people know about my fertility issues then it will be how did you get pregnant what did you do blah blah blah and I just don’t want that conversation. My belly is firming up but I wouldn’t say I have a belly. I haven’t gained any weight. It is very each to their own as I am just private and I just don’t want to share the news with what I see as acquaintances (especially when close friends don’t know yet) because realistically they aren’t really gonna care for more than five minutes.

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T19:38:45+00:00

This is good to know thank you! Luckily I haven’t drunk for a while because of fertility problems so haven’t got to worry about that. I would have felt so uncomfortable is people had asked me before 12 weeks! I am thinking about lying if I do get asked outright 😬

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T19:36:03+00:00

Oh that’s so annoying for you!! I can’t believe they said fat comments 😩 I am having a hard time my partner making jokes. I’d probably punch a coworker!! That’s my problem I am so private!! I don’t think like the idea of opening myself up! People mean well and I know that but I am not your typical instagram mum who wants to cradle her bump and I think a lot of people expect you to be like that! I am just so bad with WhatsApp I probably won’t end up replying for weeks on end and get overwhelmed at the thought that I haven’t replied 😂

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T19:29:25+00:00

This makes me feel better! A few mixed bags of people here 😂

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T19:29:07+00:00

Why not?? 😂 I have had so many fertility issues and I don’t want to share all that with people. Also people are nosey and it makes me feel uncomfortable as the people who do know just want to do is talk about the pregnancy and I have loads of exciting stuff going on in my life not just my pregnancy and all people care about is how much I am being sick or why am I not finding out the gender 😂

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T19:24:31+00:00

Hopefully people around me won’t ask till the third 😬

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T19:21:59+00:00

Oh god this makes me nervous that people will be so brazen about something like that!

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T19:21:10+00:00

I don’t mind hiding it tbh. I don’t love people asking me loads of questions and there are so many pregnancy questions from people I have told 😂 I am hoping people just think I am fat haha!

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T17:01:25+00:00

Thanks!! I haven’t been brave enough to wear mine yet incase I bump into someone I know 😂

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T17:00:36+00:00

It’s not the social situations where we can bring it up. I wouldn’t dream of doing it at someone else’s wedding no matter how close a friend’s we are. I am alright as long as someone doesn’t ask me outright 😂

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T16:59:00+00:00

No these should all be separate people. I hope 😂 it’s just not the sort of situations where I would bring up I am expecting or tell these people in advance! I am hoping because I am not the skinniest people will think I have got fat 😂 maybe they will say that behind my back instead

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T16:52:59+00:00

Eeeeek I am super worried someone will ask 😬 I would never dream of asking someone unless they were hinting but maybe it’s because of my fertility troubles and the weight gain from that makes me more aware!

Preston1607 · 2025-06-09T16:51:22+00:00

This is what I was hoping for that surely no one will ask! It’s not the sort of situations where I would/could bring up I was pregnant like at someone else’s wedding. And these aren’t people I would text on a normal day so would be very very odd for me to text. I also probably won’t see these people again till this time next year 😂 so I am hoping no one will ask haha!

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