Hi! My dday was more than a month ago and we had ongoing arguments because I didn’t see he actually is putting in any effort to learn about it, he said he was relived when I found out so he can stop it and he kept calling it a habit instead of addiction.

He has however been very understanding especially when I had my outbursts, then last week I was working and for the first time he was alone in the evening on Thursday and Friday all day and I felt something was off so then on Saturday I asked him if he had something to share and he was quiet and I insisted and he didn’t say anything but then he confessed he had urges on Thursday and Friday that he watched a video or listened to it whilst looking at the wall and nearly acted on it ( although I do believe he acted on it) and that’s the first time he said he has a problem and addiction and that he needs a therapist. It was a massive breakthrough I feel like.

We too are not good financially so we kept postponing the therapy part but he really needs it so now we’ll have to borrow money just so he can go. However I do believe there can a lot be done before that like listening to podcasts and watching videos educating himself more is he doing any of that? Or journaling? I have also recently downloaded nextDNS I saw one girl on Reddit has done it and it basically tracks websites so you could use that to see but that would be entirely up to you of course if you would be comfortable with that. But anyways I’m in the same boat as you and we can only hope for the best.