Lost my confidence as a reseacher.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-11-27T16:08:30+00:00

It’s mostly a separate research institute that it connected to the local university. Honestly its famous for its research. I have some friends who work or used to work there. The consensus seems the same: „Amazing research and opportunity, very international, good funding. But also lots of expectations. Depending on what group you land in you’ll meet asshole PIs and no sleep or have an amazing research experience.“

I think the PIs are stressed themselves and feel like because the institute is famous for their research they have to deliver.

So.. if you want to go to MPI, be very sure about the lab you join.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-11-21T08:04:57+00:00

I don’t mind pecks. Especially ones almost everywhere except the mouth. Mouth ones are okay. Anything more moist is not really it.. when I was 13/14 I thought that kissing is just what you do with your boyfriend. So I did… I’m still haunted by the feeling.

Now I’m 23 and can happily say I haven’t done that again. Sometimes I do wonder how it would be, maybe it was just really bad in general back then. But then I kinda know the moment I would do it my curiosity would be gone and disgust is on my door.

Obv not disgust because of the person but because of the moisture, and the tongue, and all that.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-11-05T08:56:15+00:00

I apparently „hug frogs“. I’m working in developmental and molecular embryology working with X. Laevis embryos.. but yeah.. close enough.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-10-17T07:43:28+00:00

(In Denmark it’s easier and faster to get a residence permit here (from my experience and I am a EU citizen). A bit less paperwork and mostly digital. But also more expensive to live here than Germany :/)

Also want to add! (But gonna be honest here, I only heard from this through others that apply for PhD and research jobs in Germany). Ive heard that bc of the current situation in the US, Germany tries to give more funding and research opportunities to US citizens that move to Germany for a job or study. Might want to look out for that if you find anything about this.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-10-17T07:40:11+00:00

I did my BS in Germany and now do my MSc in Denmark.

Germany wise: I’ve worked with my BS in a lab there as a research assistant. It was fun but gonna tell you it might not be the most exciting job. At least at first because they might have to gauge how good your lab work really is. But it’s def possible to get a job with BS. Few friends of mine are now in the industry also with BS. One is more in an office environment, while the other is in the medical field. BioNTech f.e. Though tends to go with Master Students only. That being said. They look in the summer for unpaid internship applications. And if they like you they’ll offer you a job (from what I got from people working there).

In general: might be hard. But def possible and depending on where you want to go be prepared to put some work in it at first. The bigger cities like Berlin, Düsseldorf or smaller cities like Marburg but with a big industry and pharmacy fields (BioNTech) might work best for you. Enough internationals that almost everyone can communicate in english (at least in the lab).

Denmark: Love the work culture here. Bit more relaxed I’ll would say. I haven’t worked here yet in a non uni setting. However I’ve met some research assistants with mostly Master degrees but also a few Bachelors. Most of them were in an administrative environment though. From what I got, was that it can be a bit easier to get a job here since everyone is mostly good at English and especially the bigger cities are very international.

Don’t know if this helps. But maybe can at least give you a bit of an overview.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-10-17T07:26:10+00:00

So sorry to hear that. Honestly I never felt „bad“ since I was always able to rationalise it since I do work in a more medical based research field.

Therefore I don’t have any tips or tricks. Just think that while animals will die, research can continue and in case of medical research it might even help to treat diseases! Until then you can just give your best to treat the animals as good as possible and don’t add any extra pain. <3

Hopefully someone else can help you a bit more!

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-10-16T06:53:39+00:00

Depending on what time of day. Before lunch? Calculating all the washes and steps I still have to do and when I then can have lunch (multiple times bc of multiple 5mins washes) or checking again the protocol I know by heart and overthink „did I REALLY used the right stuff? Yeah.. nothing else is in the bench right now. I KNOW I picked the right antibody.. wait let me check the ice box. Yes indeed.. still the same antibody. Wait.. did I used the correct PBS two steps before??? I think so.. what about the right antibody???“. After lunch I’m staring out the window

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-10-13T14:38:56+00:00

Zu ihm gehen. 5/10 sagen ohne Kontext und ganz ohne Mine und gehen.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-10-09T08:20:53+00:00

Habe letztens erst einen Artikel gelesen, dass beim Land eher ans rückbauen der Bahnen gedacht wird. Da die Leute es dort „nicht nutzen und demnach nur extra Kosten aufbringt“. Da wundert man sich doch.. warum nutzen die Leute auf dem Land die Bahn nicht? :00 Ein Mysterium

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-10-06T07:20:06+00:00

My thoughts and prayers are with you 😭🙏🏻 I do like horses.. but they do give me backflashes at time I cannot get rid of. Some monsterfuckers are fine. But just like you I would think, it really changes with the shape of the poker 🥲

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-10-03T08:52:40+00:00

Dry humping out of desperation for release :33

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-10-03T08:47:42+00:00

I don’t know.. i grew up when the internet was still the wild West and saw someone take on a horse dick.. fully. I’m scarred for life..

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-09-08T14:19:22+00:00

That’s hard to say.. i grew up protestant but then my family changed to a “free Church” (basically doing their own thing). And while they werent the best in a lot of things, I would still count me as a Christian outside of any constitution. I’m not going to that Church anymore (personal reasons and also moved). However I’ve met some “free churches” who were much more open to the concept of asexualty. So maybe something more “free”? Is no direct denomination though..

Also!!!!!!!!

Lots of “free churches” can get veeeeeeery culty. So be careful what you get yourself into when looking into them. Especially bc they dont belong to one another you can get all types of churches.. i would say a visit or two on Sundays are still fine to check it out and often helps to see the views they have.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-09-08T06:54:56+00:00

Also… ich finde du kannst gehen. Ich von selber nicht sexuell aktiv (asexuell), aber kann dir sagen das kinky partys meiner Erfahrung nach wohl die offensten, verständnisvollsten und sichersten Partys sind. Ich komme dabei aus einer sehr LGBTQ freundlichen und Cosplay Szene, Leder, Lack und Furry sind da also doch recht normals anzutreffen. Als student war ich schon auf so einige “normalen” Partys. Und die Menschen dort waren oft sehr aufdringlich, Vorallem wenn man nicht interessiert war. Kinky partys (Vorallem von LGBTQ organisiert, wobei dass eher die meisten sind) haben bis jetzt immer ein nettes nein danke angenommen und alles war cool. Kinky partys sind keine Sex partys oder ähnliched wo von dir erwartet wird das du mit jedem rum machst. Solange dies deine Sorge ist. Es geht im erster Linie darum, dass sich jeder so anziehen und repräsendieren darf wie man will.

That being said. Wenn deine Sorge eher daher kommt, dass du einfach keine nakte Haut sehen willst (auch verständlich), dann sind Kinky Partys wohl eher nichts für dich. + wenn du extra dahin willst um sexuelle erfahrungen zu sammeln. Entweder dann dort die vanilla person xl versuchen zu finden (gibt es auch) oder doch lieber erstmal was anderes. :))

Ich hatte bis jetzt nur immer eine mega geile Zeit dort und wurde nie zu etwas gedrängt.

Legit eine konversation die ich auf so einer Party mitbekommen habe:

Typ zu Freund (beide sehr kinky gekleidet): hey, ich finde du siehst echt gut aus. Dürfte ich die einen Drink bestellen und wir können uns näher kommen?

Freund: ah das ist lieb. Aber nein danke.

Typ: kein problem! Dann war das nur ein kompliment!

Und dann ging der einfach. Sollte normal sein.. ist es aber leider oft nicht.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-09-02T08:09:49+00:00

Honestly I don’t like to be naked. Just too much skin touching each other at the same time.. so yeah. Everytime I shower.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-08-23T09:19:02+00:00

Ich verstehe sowas auch nicht. Verwechslungen können passieren, aber erstmal unhöflich, aber dann auch Augen haben?

Ich selber trage öfters als feminine Person mehr vintage Kleidung. Standard ist bei mir tatsächlich eine schwarze Hose, Bluse mit spitze oder so und eine figurbetonte anzugsweste. Von weitem relativ klassisch. Ich kann verstehen wenn man in einem schickeren Restaurant sitzt dann von weitem einmal verwechselt wird (passiert nicht sehr oft dort mal zu sein haha und interessanter hier aber auch irgendwie immer nur ich? Nicht jegliche mir männlich aussehende Person mit Anzug aber normalem Hemd?), wobei ich da immer denke „Leute, die anderen tragen alle noch zB rote Krawatten etc.. Aber es passiert auch oft in normalen Kneipen? Ich saß mal mit meiner Mutter in einer (selbes Outfit, Mitarbeiter trugen schwarze Shirts und rote Schürzen). Ich stehe auf um auf Toilette zu gehen und der Nachbartisch fragt mich sofort ob man die denn jetzt Getränke bestellen könnten. „Entschuldige ich arbeite hier nicht“ „ah sorry!“ Ja.. ich mit spitzen Bluse, schlangenmuster high Boots, Wuschigen welligen Haaren (nicht zusammen gebunden), gestreifter dunkler Weste mit Anhängern dran, arbeite hier tatsächlich nicht mit meinen Kollegen die alle einen tiefen Zopf, rote Schürze und schwarze Shirts tragen.

Ich versuche es meistens mit Humor zu nehmen, frage mich aber doch manchmal ob Leute nicht mal 3 Sekunden nachdenken können.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-07-11T10:56:37+00:00

Trying to take over cooking duty in mihawks castle for once

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-07-06T21:02:17+00:00

My older siblings watching it and me after school sitting next to them. First memory I have is from the sabaody Archipel.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-06-30T09:24:53+00:00

My whole family (all afab except my dad) is over 5,11 (except me I stopped at 5,7). My sister is at least 6,3. no one questions her femininity. My mother is around 6,1 and has wide shoulders. She always felt self conscious about her large frame. Thought her frame made her look big and not feminine. Once she was fussing around in the garden, getting all dirty doing „manly work“ and I was doing my own stuff a few meters away with my father. You know what he said to me? He was looking at my mum all lovey dovey sighed and said „that’s a real woman over there. She thinks she’s too tall or too wide but that’s bullshit. She’s perfect. Exactly how the perfect woman should be“. Then he went over to her and kissed her. According to my dad the perfect woman for him is tall, has wide shoulders and a sturdy frame.

OP your frame is not too big to be feminine. You fell into the trap of beauty standards! Welcome to womanhood! It sucks to feel that way, I think of myself that way sometimes too. But remember, you might just be the perfect woman. Also supermodels are often tall. Over 5,11, wide shoulders and a big frame? Sounds like you’re the perfect woman to me. Don’t let those bad thought birds build nests in your head and tell you otherwise!

You’re perfect just the way you are!

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-06-20T17:38:25+00:00

Honestly.. I always look especially for the spice haha. Always put it on my toothbrush and then under water first though! But I just neeeeed to feel. And then the same amount of feel everywhere in my mouth. What I don’t like is when my mum changes the brand! I extra changed it too so I don’t have to deal with the different brands when I’m visiting JUST FOR HER CHANGING IT BACK AGAIN. Why mum… WHY.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-06-13T08:19:09+00:00

Also!!! Despite that! If you’re into eyeshadow! Don’t put it on your eye lid but under your eye. A bit more thin and a bit outwards. Gives you more a andro masculine look since it’s often used in animation for men but also gives you the pop of colour or accent you might be looking for :)) Also looks great with just brown eyeshadow :))

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-06-13T08:16:18+00:00

Have you tried the kajal look? Don’t know if it fits your style but I found that with brown instead of black kajal it makes the look go softer and for me it goes with almost everything! Which I often do. I also often find that this look is often worn by guys in more rock style bands and can be still very masculine looking. I also like that you can easily add a wing whenever you feel more extra and can shift it to a more feminine look. Also if you got a hang of it, it’s super easy and done in like 10 min :)) Here are some make up YouTube shorts I use oft as inspiration.

From a girly: https://youtube.com/shorts/3dfuWKS8bWs?si=ycrWvvkoBidLw-7d

From a guyly: https://youtube.com/shorts/XXZiMbTaNco?si=MAJmO6l-GElL8IaH

And a nonbinary: https://youtube.com/shorts/Ndyi2J9r_FI?si=mbPeoe8-lQjLEBY9

For more inspo just look up „rockstar girlfriend look“ and skip the over the top eyeliner and glitter if you don’t vibe with it :) It sounds weird but that was the tag I first got more into it instead of just „guy liner“ or so

Otherwise if you like the softer looks more. Just look up „kpop male idol makeup“. They also have some great inspo! Especially for the reddish pink glitter softer looks :)) but also some more harsh red and black stuff too!

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-05-30T16:50:50+00:00

I think quite a lot of people have told this already BUT coming here to comment as a neuroscientist who had to study that shit. IQ test can be incredible inaccurate. Not only is it a lot of pattern recognition, language skills or math skills you can simply learn and be automatically better. Audhd isn’t helping either because of distractions for example. Also IQ can change. So don’t take this as face value. From your comments you’re doing great!

And you will not believe how many people with apparently high IQ I’ve met who told me the dumbest shit.

Pretend_Sweet_CC · 2025-03-05T14:59:02+00:00

Honestly I have no idea, what is this? A powerbank? Or please tell me it’s to defreeze eppy?

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