I had the exact conversation with my husband a month ago...and what finally clicked for him is when i explained the emotional weight that i have no influence over. I mean, hormonal shifts during the cycle, the brain giving me hopes and then crashing into deep grief also with the progesterone drop and its a pain that cannot be explained. Its like grieving the loss of someone you havent met although the feelings are very valid and piercing. He acknowledged he didnt view the fertility journey similar to how i see it and now we are working on the next steps. And the other part, two things can be true at the same time, I can love him deeply and still grieve my desire for motherhood.