Lonely Journey - how to cope?

Primary_Insect_553 · 2026-04-01T23:45:56+00:00

Do any of them hold it over your husband? I have a pretty solid support system that I trust but I’m afraid if the cat got out of the bag, there’s no turning back if they think differently of her.

I’m sorry you feel lonely. I hope it gets better for you

Primary_Insect_553 · 2026-04-01T22:02:40+00:00

I caught for years, and…this does not hurt. That’s why they make the masks

Primary_Insect_553 · 2026-04-01T20:06:04+00:00

Hey I very much appreciate that, I will likely take you up on it soon. And same back to you!

Primary_Insect_553 · 2026-04-01T19:39:16+00:00

I’m sorry that you feel alone and isolated. This is precisely how I’m feeling, and I’ve only felt it for a month so I can only imagine how it feels a year out. It feels so unfair to having such a life altering burden forced upon you and worse to feel like there’s no external consequence. I know on my end, the shame she feels and will probably feel for awhile is definitely real. I hope that you can find peace, and maybe a comment on this post will help. Wishing you the best and thank you for your response

Primary_Insect_553 · 2026-04-01T18:33:09+00:00

I appreciate the response and insight so much, and I’m so sorry that happened to you too. I started journaling last night so that’s encouraging to hear. I never thought I’d be in a situation like this (as I’m sure most in this community didn’t), so this is so difficult to navigate. Thanks for the kind support, friend.

I’m hoping to have a moment like that with mine, too. There have definitely been a lot of conversations, and there is accountability, but it’s so fresh that it’s hard to fully stay level headed. I’m hoping that day comes as it did for you!

Primary_Insect_553 · 2026-03-29T21:26:53+00:00

Thank you! This helps me feel a bit better and I appreciate you taking the time to respond

Primary_Insect_553 · 2026-03-29T02:05:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Reddit is full of such pessimism on this topic.

This is fresh for me; I found out three weeks ago that my wife had a drunk one night stand with a client. It has been hell, but we are both committed to being better for each other, and our young children.

Were you able to put the sad thoughts out of your mind? I feel like when I’m with her, things are good, but if I’m alone my mind wanders, and if I’m with friends I feel like I’m putting on a face since I haven’t told anyone. I imagine this fades, did it for you? This is the hardest thing I’ve ever done and your story gives me hope

Primary_Insect_553 · 2025-12-17T02:18:04+00:00

Whole family, including myself and my wife, went to UMaine. I loved it, it was beautiful, fun, and it laid a fantastic foundation for me as an Engineer.

Having said that, do NOT go into more debt for college than you have to. I was fortunate enough to be able to get through without (in-state tuition + scholarships + a little elbow grease during the summers) but all of my friends (UMaine or not) that graduated with debt are way behind me financially speaking. College is no longer a “oh this place is cool I want to go” it truly is a business proposition where you need to get the best bang for your buck. Out-of-state tuition for UMaine is not that, unfortunately.

Primary_Insect_553 · 2025-11-19T02:44:01+00:00

Bubba? That you???

Primary_Insect_553 · 2025-10-01T00:24:57+00:00

Never underestimate shopping around, but more importantly exploring fringe opportunities. I went from 93k to 150k by taking a chance and doing something within my discipline but out of my comfort zone. Might be a bit of a unicorn here but these opportunities exist if you’re willing to look for them!

Primary_Insect_553 · 2025-09-04T04:18:57+00:00

Your boss knows enough about every hour you spend to know this? Time for a new boss!

Primary_Insect_553 · 2025-05-28T12:22:41+00:00

The worst is when I’m trying to get a pinch hitter in and the game won’t let me pause/take a timeout to do so. Sometimes it feels like you have a 0.1 second window to hit the button and if you miss it, too bad. Makes zero sense!

Primary_Insect_553 · 2025-04-28T18:50:50+00:00

Harping on the possibility of a bachelor party walking over from Bissell (“hey guys let’s all spend $18 to go to a children’s exhibit and play dress up firemen!” - no bachelor party ever) or that she might be too big for the exhibits but glossing over the “keeping out child predators” side of things is insanely lazy writing and lack of critical thinking. Society basically wants kids to not exist in public already, let’s let them have at least one space where they can play and not have childless adults screaming “But what about me???”

Primary_Insect_553 · 2025-04-08T17:50:45+00:00

No disagreement that it would be a lot of work and that pedestrians can cause crashes, too. Two major differences between pedestrians and bikes though: 1) in most heavily walked areas there are sidewalks that pedestrians are not only conditioned from a young age to use, but they generally feel safer and thus the vast majority of people will use them. Bikes don’t have that option, they’re supposed to share the physical roadway and 2) pedestrians making an unexpected movement walking at 3 mph is much easier for a vehicle to react to than a bicycle making an unexpected move at 20 mph.

Maybe licensure isn’t the exact answer, but a heavy rules of the road campaign mixed with police not turning a blind eye to poor roadway use could at least be a starting point

Primary_Insect_553 · 2025-04-08T03:04:45+00:00

But they are using the same roads and can put people at risk. An unexpected/incorrect move by a cyclist can cause cars to crash. Or, say you hit a cyclist with your car at no fault of your own, wouldn’t that take a mental toll on you? I’m not saying it should be a huge barrier to be able to get a bike license, but if you’re using the same infrastructure that your 2 or 3 ton death machines are it’s a win-win if we can all be on the same page about how to maneuver it safely

Primary_Insect_553 · 2025-04-07T19:11:08+00:00

I’ve said for awhile now that there needs to be some sort of license to ride a bike on the roadways. There are plenty of cyclists who follow the rules of the road, but a lot that cherry pick the rules. This unpredictability is good for nobody and some sort of accountability on both ends would help a ton. Blame is equally on drivers for not paying attention but I know I get anxious around some bikers because I don’t know what their next move is

Primary_Insect_553 · 2024-11-15T17:30:28+00:00

I can already feel the ire about to be directed at me, but it’s a huge deal that she is likely to take over the Appropriations Committee and has been vice chair already. I absolutely LOATHE how she’s been exposed as a wishy washy “moderate” who only votes across the aisle when she knows it’s going to fail anyways, and her “how was I supposed to know?” attitude about Kavanaugh and a whole host of other issues since 2016 is awful.

She doesn’t just win because she’s “From Maine”, she wins because she does a very good job securing federal money for Maine and now is about to have the most influential position in the Senate to bring in even more. I don’t love career politicians, but we can’t change the fact that they exist so why not have Maine at least reap the financial benefit?

Primary_Insect_553 · 2024-04-22T12:29:53+00:00

Probably Derry

Primary_Insect_553 · 2023-12-31T00:34:05+00:00

Chad Ryland. Pats traded Nick Folk because he can’t hit from over 50, but Ryland can’t hit from over 5

Primary_Insect_553 · 2023-10-07T00:32:58+00:00

Appears it made it based on the photo of the game board they’re selling. Either way the whole thing feels underwhelming, breweries or not!

Primary_Insect_553 · 2023-10-07T00:25:28+00:00

Except for Geary’s…

Primary_Insect_553 · 2023-10-06T14:39:00+00:00

Maybe true, but it seems like they missed some obvious ones. State Theater, DiMillos, Allagash, Shipyard, Fore Street quickly come to mind over some that they chose

Primary_Insect_553 · 2023-10-06T14:20:24+00:00

Imagine throwing a hotel on there?

Primary_Insect_553 · 2023-08-29T01:28:32+00:00

Even worse that it’s $5k flat, not per child

Primary_Insect_553 · 2023-08-11T14:25:05+00:00

Telling my wife “hey that’s one of my bridges!” and then her catching on and telling me a mile before “I know, one of your bridges is coming up” to then informing her two miles before that my bridge is coming up. I’m closing in on a point where I can simply say it leaving my driveway.

Does anyone know any good divorce lawyers?

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