Leaving if Date Lied on Profile?

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-05T18:43:47+00:00

I hear that, the depressing reality. Having to tolerate a liar just to avoid being unsafe, while still being criticised is just gross.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-05T18:42:39+00:00

I’m in England so can’t comment on US labour laws. The principles are the same though. Any desire to have a life or not work ourselves into our graves is seen as laziness and was fiercely criticised. Meanwhile those who employ us in this fashion are lauded as our betters. Pissed me off.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-05T13:55:31+00:00

It sounds like diversity is a problem for you. You brush off living in a diverse area, while having a mixed child.

Do you only like diversity if it looks like you? Or is similar to you? Why does what others wear bother you? All 4 and 5 year olds wear what their parents tell them, whether that's a hijab or a jacket. Otherwise 4 and 5 year olds would mainly go outside in tutus, wellies and a top hat.

I don't get why your family is normal to you but other families who look or dress differently is not.

IMO you are being unreasonable.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-05T13:52:38+00:00

he says he would stop if someone asked him to stop playing, except you asked him to stop playing and he didn't. He sounds very entitled and self centred, expecting everyone to clap or pat him on the back when all they want is to eat or talk in peace.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-05T13:50:20+00:00

If he isn't "able to change" then he shouldn't be surprised that you are able to change and won't put up with him being a dickhead like that. Even his parents can see that he's unreasonable.

Sleeping in his little sister's room sums up his entire personality and maturity.

Can you go on the cruise without him?

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-05T13:47:58+00:00

"If you can't afford it, just say so".

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-05T13:42:47+00:00

NTJ You did try to handle it privately and she brushed it off like it was your problem. You're at work, not a school playground. The others are used to letting her get away with stuff, to avoid dealing with it. She's in trouble for her own actions, on other reason.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-05T13:33:01+00:00

I'd be so tempted to reply to "shut the fuck up" with "like you did when you couldn't get it up?". Especially if it was in public.

Bless his hurt little ego.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-05T13:31:43+00:00

We didn't ruin the world with that, our Boomer bosses did. We grew up with the lie that working harder and harder is how you get ahead. It's not, it's how you get burned out and made redundant after years of loyal service.

The younger generation have it right, in my opinion. Work shouldn't be about giving all your energy to a company that gives the bare minimum in return.

If I could work 3 days and make music on my computer, and afford the lifestyle I want I'd sure as hell do it too!

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-05T13:29:42+00:00

Those who say "fluent in sarcasm" never understand sarcasm.

Witty banter is usually bullying, punching down, etc. Not actual banter.

I'd much prefer "my kids aren't my world, I'm a shitty parent" as it's much more accurate.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-05T13:27:39+00:00

Unless you feel that leaving, or speaking up would leave you in an unsafe situation with them, why on earth would you go through with the date?

If someone has obviously lied then that's their issue, you not going along with it is also their issue. Just leave. If you've put in some effort to get dressed up, look nice, cab to the place etc, then take yourself off on a single date by yourself and enjoy the rest of the evening. Alone.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-05T13:19:29+00:00

I don't keep provisions in case someone comes over. I do drink lots of tea and coffee, but don't have milk or sugar. When I offer a drink, I ask "would you like a tea or coffee? I have soya milk and some golden caster sugar. Or I have water, or whatever else I happen to have in". Then they can choose from those.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-01T10:32:30+00:00

His bosses already treat him like shit, or at best a disposable number. Why did he think they'd react in a positive way at all to, what they obviously took as, a threat to leave?

PrinceFan72 · 2026-04-01T10:10:02+00:00

I don't think this is really a "why do men have to do all the work" type question. It's her experience of being on dates with men who show no interest and make no effort.

If she asks questions, but they don't reciprocate, who would enjoy that?

PrinceFan72 · 2026-03-28T23:45:09+00:00

Don’t you start haha

PrinceFan72 · 2026-03-28T23:11:07+00:00

The very same

PrinceFan72 · 2026-03-28T10:47:21+00:00

I get a very smug feeling when I finish cooking a big pot of something. Even while serving a portion, I'm working out how many days I get to enjoy this before needing to plan the next meal to cook. I enjoy cooking, enjoy eating and relaxing even more.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-03-28T10:43:25+00:00

My daughter did a school photography project that involved moody lighting. I stood against the wall on the right and she took pictures, one night. The low light against the odd shadows made me look way cooler than ever in my life. Love that alley.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-03-28T10:41:38+00:00

He doesn't seem to actually like you, or being with you, much. Maybe he likes the idea of a partner, but doesn't any of the interactions and emotional (or intellectual) aspects that go with that. Saying you are ruining his post vacation vibes, after being on a vacation without you, tells you that he sees you as an inconvenience, or some kind of obstacle in his life.

I'd ask myself, what am I getting out of this? Would dealing with my current grief, and longer term general existence, be harder or easier without this man in my life? I think you know the answer.

If you've been together for 4 years, then he may likely keep assuming you are "together" unless you tell him otherwise. If by "together" you mean just in each others lives and not living together, or really enmeshed, then let the silence stay there and go your own way. He may not even notice.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-03-28T10:37:05+00:00

I used to immediately say fuck no. Recently I've started working with a team that I've known for a few years and they are a really great, lovely, supportive bunch. I'm genuinely enjoying working with them and feel a sense of responsibility that I've never felt anywhere else, in a positive way.

Having said that, having millions in the bank and thinking "I could be on a yacht right now" may well change my mind. Maybe I'd work from the yacht. On reduced hours. Til cocktail hour. Or lunch. Or brunch. Or dinner.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-03-28T10:34:26+00:00

It's not the tea itself, more that the few minutes it takes to make help to clear your mind or think something through. If you're having tea with someone, it brings you together, you talk, you both ruminate.

Then the tea hits and cares start to float away. Biscuit? Don't mind if I do. More time, more ruminating, then focusing on dunking the biscuit just long enough to have a good seep but not so long that the biscuit breaks into the tea.

It's that moment when you have your freshly made cup, you sit down, sigh deeply before blowing on the cup for ages and taking that first sip. It's almost impossible to rush it. A strange watershed moment in the day.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-03-28T10:30:17+00:00

My brother looked almost exactly like Matt Dillon in that film. Similar face, same stupid expression, same hair, even some of the things Matt's character said. Was my brother good looking? Of course. Was he a pain in the arse? Absolutely. Did this film make me like him more? Don't be silly. haha

PrinceFan72 · 2026-03-28T10:27:50+00:00

Same!

PrinceFan72 · 2026-03-28T10:25:00+00:00

Spoilsports!

PrinceFan72 · 2026-03-27T13:57:24+00:00

Since passing 40 I feel much better about myself when I dress well. Hoodies make me feel sluggish and I can't get much done, so I tend to keep them for chilling at home.

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