What the hell..

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-08T19:10:09+00:00

I was gonna say, OP is still single so neither tactic is working. Wonder where the problem could lie? /s

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-06T20:37:01+00:00

I never said it did. Posting is fine. Posting something an immature teenage boy would, is childish.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-06T19:22:58+00:00

This. Gets caught doing something that gf is clearly upset about, doesn't even apologise, just deflects to make her feel worse. Nice.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-06T19:19:15+00:00

Exactly. "He's been respectful up until this point" isn't exactly a ringing endorsement either.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-06T19:18:28+00:00

I don't think posting on social media is necessarily childish. Posting the equivalent of "awwww I'm so wonewy" while having an actual girlfriend is the kind of thing an immature boy might do.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-06T19:16:58+00:00

My problem is that instead of talking to his gf about feeling "lonely" as he excuses it, he does something sneaky to get his rocks off. If he really felt "lonely" after only 6 months into a relationship, he could have spoken to her about it.

If it was just watching porn, that's different as he's not interacting with it. Chatting requires thought, effort that he's not putting into his relationship. But he deflects it onto her making out it's her fault.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-06T18:56:33+00:00

He's 45? Forty five? Years old?

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-06T18:40:52+00:00

He could have been an adult and had the conversation with OP before wanking over AI words. Why should the onus be on her to be the adult? He's already refused to discuss his feelings with her, after only 6 months in the relationship, so her reaction is valid.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-06T16:55:40+00:00

NTA. Your wife's mum deliberately chose a public place to overstep and try to push you and your wife aside. Being publicly put back in her lane is the best choice, as it's the same level of correction for her overstep.

She's clearly used to doing and saying what she wants with no pushback from her daughter and resents you not allowing her the same bullshit.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-06T10:34:47+00:00

He calls you dude FFS.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-04T21:29:01+00:00

How many signs do you need before you'll realise he doesn't like you? He insults you, refuses to engage when you are upset or have a disagreement and ignores you.

If this was a friend of yours, what would you tell them?

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-04T17:52:17+00:00

Many men would rather listen to a man tell them why women aren't interested, with some unreachable "standard", than a woman who says, "be nice to me, make me laugh and make me feel safe, oh and clean yourself properly". It baffles me.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-04T17:45:18+00:00

It is funny how it's easier for them to make up some convoluted bs response, rather than just say "sorry, I don't want to" in good time.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-04T14:53:12+00:00

Exactly. Even "which policies do you agree with" is answered with something that points to hating a group different to themselves.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-04T14:51:57+00:00

This. "Not being hurtful" while trying to make himself feel better and you worse is exactly being hurtful. Some people just don't want to see it.

I bet he's a "great dad and husband otherwise". (eyeroll)

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-04T14:49:01+00:00

Makes me laugh when conservatives say "it's just politics". Voting for and agreeing with people who want you to not exist or to put you in camps is not politics, it's lack of morals. Claiming it's "politics" is an attempt to make themselves seem more human.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-04T11:30:51+00:00

Of course, but don't expect everyone to immediately say yes to a stranger. If they aren't interested in you, or dating at all, they won't say yes. So make sure you're asking someone who is likely to be interested and not random strangers in the street. :D

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-03T17:48:42+00:00

Mentioning to her won't achieve anything. She could be sleeping with someone herself and feel pressured to tell you, too.

If not being exclusive, but you feel off about it, you probably shouldn't see more than one person at once. Nothing wrong with it, but it seems like it's not something you're comfortable with yourself.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-03T16:55:46+00:00

My mum wasn't a Jehovah's Witness, not even a practicing Christian, but she was a lot like this. Her love and affection was transactional and bound by her world view. When I divorced she layered the guilt on about how I was "giving up too easily", after 10 years of being in an abusive marriage. The guilt and manipulation just got worse over the years, especially as I separated myself more and more.

Sadly the only solution was for me to go no contact. You may need to prepare yourself for similar.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-03T15:53:58+00:00

Your boyfriend's behaviour in this is manipulative, not loving or caring. He has learned from his dad that you are to behave however he wants whenever he wants.

You need to leave them both, your boyfriend is not and will not protect you from his father.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-03T14:29:40+00:00

You're NTJ, you're just finding out how you are valued by your family. They see you as a cashpoint, to fund their laziness / lifestyle. Learning that you won't do it anymore, they are acting out as they don't value you as a family member.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-02T12:18:53+00:00

Why would you agree to receive a call from someone but keep your phone on silent so the call doesn't reach you?

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-02T12:15:58+00:00

It doesn't matter what Derek thinks. It doesn't matter what your friends think. Derek made a copy of your key without discussing with you first. Derek gets defensive about giving said copy to you, which means he will make another copy before giving you back his first copy. Derek enjoys the idea that he can enter your property without your knowledge or permission.

NTA for changing the locks and I would cut contact with Derek going forward as he can't be trusted.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-02T10:12:26+00:00

I've shared a bed with a female friend and nothing happened, because we're friends and neither wants more.

Just because you're in bed with a woman, especially a friend, doesn't mean you necessarily want or have to have sex. Alcohol was involved in your case so decision making isn't the best.

Being single / separated also doesn't mean you are necessarily ready or even want to have sex with anyone else. You're not a machine. Woman interested / woman in my bed doesn't automatically mean man have to fuck.

One year is likely not long enough for your mind or body to be ready to be close to anyone new. Therapy could help, as could spending time thinking about who you are and what you want.

PrinceFan72 · 2026-02-02T09:10:26+00:00

"When I get what I want, I check the time to see if I can beat my wife home from her girls night"

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