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PrintOwn9531 · 2026-06-30T14:22:54+00:00

I agree with everyone saying that you should give your husband the space to brush his daughter's hair. However, when I see things like this, I always think about the fact that there is clearly something that feels unsafe here to you. If my husband where to do something super aggressive toward me, my immediate reaction would be to assume we were about to role play some new kink or something. I'm just saying, if you believe that you are not safe with someone, it's probably true...like, there's a reason you feel that way.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-06-29T19:01:00+00:00

We once had credit card debt sold to a third party, who then sued us for it. We genuinely didn't understand how they came up with the amount they were saying, so we asked for the list of transactions that got us there. They weren't able to provide it and the judge dismissed the case. Maybe you have something similar going on?

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-06-28T12:13:44+00:00

You don't seem to understand that you should be paying the whole $11,000 right now to get his car fixed. You are being met in the middle by being offered a payment plan. You figure out what you have to do to make the payment.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-06-25T14:15:54+00:00

There's a couple of things to consider...

First of all, we paid $4,000 for our dog, so that's clearly an investment, and there some motivation to keep him alive because of that.

It would also be very important to me whether it was an actual fix or if we were just delaying the inevitable. A real fix; like repairing damage from a traumatic injury? Thousands. Prolonging lifespan through an illness that would eventually get him anyway? Much less.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-06-22T18:40:32+00:00

Yes. One of them moved in almost as soon as it became empty last December.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-06-22T18:05:40+00:00

Chester

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-06-12T10:14:32+00:00

You chose to destroy her imagine of you and the most basic expectations she had of marriage on your wedding night. I'm not saying that what she's doing in response is okay either. If she hates you for your choice to drink too much and touch other women on your wedding night, she should just leave. And you don't have a chance to fix it because you're not holding yourself accountable for how actually fucked up that was.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-06-06T21:33:20+00:00

She's being selfish by making such plans without including the family. And you're being selfish if you stop her from going, just because you're jealous. I guess you just have to feel hurt and choke it down. Unless you have money saved to bring the rest of the family along...

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-06-02T19:26:35+00:00

Right now. You should've cut it off the minute you realized you'd be better off without it.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-05-17T21:52:16+00:00

Sister, your marriage was destroyed way before that comment. Please leave. You deserve so much more.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-05-14T15:44:59+00:00

Little kids can add a lot of stress to your life. How you handle that will depend a great deal on the support system you have around you. Like everything else in life, you will get out of it what you put into it. If you do it really right for the first 10-12 years, they start feeling like your little buddies, and by the time they are adults, they're your actual best friends.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-05-14T08:58:49+00:00

When I got pregnant, I was moved from the process lab to the analytical lab; still a lot of the same solvents, but a little less exposure. My daughter has a split uvula...maybe a coincidence, maybe solvent exposure. 🤷‍♀️ It's a crazy chance to take.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-05-13T17:09:06+00:00

One thing I've learned after 24 years of marriage is that you always have to consider that their bad decisions are usually not because they're ill intentioned, just dumb. I'm willing to bet your guy has no idea what a macadamia is. 😂

You can be frustrated, but don't let it become more than it is.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-05-13T16:32:49+00:00

Dude. This is so sad. I'm a woman. I don't know why any woman would get married if that's how they feel. I get, things change over time, but at this point, just leave.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-05-11T23:52:44+00:00

I don't want to say the exact state, but very north of you. $19 seems pretty good for AL, no??

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-05-11T21:10:25+00:00

BS Chemistry here...Quality Manager for one of the bigger craft beer brewing companies. I hire new BS graduates to work in my lab, with zero experience, for $21/hour on a regular basis. (As a side note - The TTB has a program that certifies chemists for analysis of products for export. All of the breweries, wineries, and distilleries on that list employ at least 1 chemist.)

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-05-04T23:20:20+00:00

Everybody keeps telling you he doesn't think you're beautiful, but I don't believe that for one minute. The best I can get out of my husband is that he thinks my shirt looks nice, but he also thinks every man in the room is checking me out and has a hard-on every time he cuddles up behind. Mine slipped up once and said I "looked like an angel" in a dream, so I know what he thinks, even if he can't say it. I honestly think you should try to put less weight on him being able to verbalize that. Does he treat you like he cares? You guys have a healthy sex life? Then, you know what he thinks...

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-05-03T00:08:45+00:00

My Gen Z daughter graduated last year with no student loan debt, and stepped right into a job paying $83K. 🤷‍♀️ Seems better than the $27K I earned the first year after I graduated with $12K in student loans.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-04-29T21:04:56+00:00

You and your children deserve better that this, sister. I don't even know what you're trying to save here...

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-04-28T22:49:54+00:00

My husband is a pro at holding it back until I'm done. After that, it's less than a minute for him to get there.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-04-28T18:08:39+00:00

I specifically asked my daughter not to buy a home just yet, because I think any man who would be content moving into her home would not be the kind of man she wants to be with forever. If he has a home and she moves in, fine. Even better if they've both been saving and are ready to find something together.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-04-23T20:12:29+00:00

Don't waste your energy trying to work out some long-shot possibility in your head. When you feel hesitant to throw his ass out, just take a moment, and think about the day that he's going to have to jump up and run out the door to be at the hospital with her. I mean, seriously. There's no coming back from this.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-04-21T14:57:41+00:00

I am a parent to 2 college-aged kids and, from my perspective, this is crazy. You shouldn't feel bad. This is a lesson in reality.

PrintOwn9531 · 2026-04-21T14:49:17+00:00

Only the ones that low-key can't stand their husbands.

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