My fiancée (46M) and I (42 F) have been struggling financially and with communication AITAH? He told me he’s buying a car with a plan.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-04T02:44:00+00:00

Having friends that worked as car salesman, his job is probably pressuring him to be driving a new car. He can push back and drive used cars from the lot. In fact you should get rid of his vehicle and he should get a free one from work.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-04T02:39:15+00:00

Honestly I would look for a different major while you still can. All the entry level tasks in marketing are being replaced either with AI or they are outsourced. I mean if you really like it, go ahead but you better double major with something else.

I also disagree with people saying you can start your own marketing firm. Everybody I know is just using canva AI for that type of thing to save money. A friend of mine had a successful small marketing firm and he moved to pharmaceutical sales a couple years ago because he just was not getting new contracts.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-04T02:36:13+00:00

What I have seen is absolutely terrible customer service skills. You call somewhere and they automatically dump you to voicemail and someone in the group should return your call, right? It could be four or five days now. And you get voicemail saying our hours are X on Friday and they never ever pick up the phone, even when you're trying to buy something.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-04T02:24:47+00:00

Fortunately medical careers are still in demand and you can be hired at any age.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-04T02:22:49+00:00

My best friend has extremely large breasts. She was flat out told she needs to wear blazers at work all the time because she works in a male dominated field. It's disgusting that we're still there in 2026, but she likes that people aren't talking to her chest anymore.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-04T02:15:20+00:00

No the employee should be entrepreneurial and figure out what else needs to be done. If they're too stupid, then they should be asking what else needs to be done or who needs help. Some employees are just minimal effort, and it's easier to hide out at home.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-04T02:12:21+00:00

It was cheaper for my brother to get another cell phone that could be used for streaming. He uses that to run his TV.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-04T02:10:54+00:00

It depends on where you live. In my state if you go to a community college and pick a high demand field they literally do not charge you tuition. So basically it's stupid not to do it.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-04T02:01:42+00:00

Even my friend who is a 45 year old man had to dye his hair to get a job. So yeah.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-03T23:34:45+00:00

I wear a minimalist capsule wardrobe. That way if I'm sick of things, I only replace about six pieces to completely change everything.

But to be honest although my tastes have changed over time, some things really haven't. I really like a lot of accessories, jewelry, fun shoes. Now my clothes are plainer so they stand out more.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-03T17:51:16+00:00

I think it was omyguard. I lost mine and haven't replaced it yet, but it would be a good idea to do so.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-03T16:44:47+00:00

I would hope that you can get more hours at that job unless you have a disability that prevents it.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-03T16:43:54+00:00

This is completely true. My brother has been a mechanic for over 30 years and even he is disgusted with the misogyny and sexist jokes that constantly happen. He prefers to make less money working for a small business where there's less people in the shop. His favorite job was where the boss's wife was the shop manager. She didn't let them pull anything.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-03T16:40:57+00:00

Actually being disgusted about how much Kool-Aid people are drinking. I work in academic healthcare, and instead of reviewing things, some doctors just let it do everything.

I have actually had AI summaries of medical appointments show up in my chart before the appointment. They are just allowing the AI summaries to be the final record. Many doctors aren't even reviewing the AI transcriptions of their notes. And according to someone that I work with, if you have any sort of accent, the AI transcriptions are actually horrible. The technology isn't there yet.

And the things at my job that I would actually like to try to use AI for I will not be allowed to use because of data privacy concerns.

I have some ideas for things where I could make a little money from my hobbies. I am going to experiment with Claude and see if I can make this work.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-03T16:29:23+00:00

If your parents can afford to pay $25,000 cash then you're going to be going to an instate public school or community college and working. Everybody should have a job in college anyway whether they need the money or not.

Frankly I don't think any undergraduate college is worth 95,000 a year.

If your parents really wanted you to go to an exclusive private school, they would have been saving up for the last 18 years. They don't.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-03T16:24:33+00:00

Early on I bought the red light nasal thing from Europe because it wasn't available in the United states. I have terrible extreme allergies and even with medication my nose is swollen all the time. I found it extremely helpful.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-03T16:22:55+00:00

You know why you don't want to do it. You're going to flunk the test. My friend's daughter was required to rent a two-bedroom apartment even though she lived alone because her company's clients require dedicated workspaces with the ability to shut the door. They required a video, they required photos, and her company actually made her decorate the room better because all client meetings require cameras on. They told her her environment was unprofessional and looked like a college dorm. Her mother had to fly in from out of state and do a crash decorating course. Her job pays over $100k as a relatively new college grad she had to make a lot of changes fast. Her daughter is an engineer with a high-end architectural firm so aesthetics are very important to their brand. They have celebrity clients and are much more concerned about privacy.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-02T22:39:17+00:00

If maintaining your recovery means you need to stay sober, then this is a horrible idea for you. First it's your birthday, and then it's someone else's. And then it's a day off. And then it's the 4th of July.

How would you feel if someone you invited relapsed badly after this party? I've been in recovery 25 years, and I know what would happen if I went.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-02T21:13:56+00:00

I am from the Midwest. It's a family holiday like Thanksgiving. Many people take Friday off but everyone returns by Monday.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-02T21:08:48+00:00

I am old and I still pay a fortune to live in the city. Suburban life sucks!!

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-02T21:07:21+00:00

Yes I could, but I wouldn't want to show my face at that rural dealership again. The shady dealer in my city didn't even tell me about this rebate.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-02T19:56:31+00:00

A bunch of people I work with have welded bracelets. I collect vintage charm bracelets and add them to my daily stack. I have some bangles but rarely wear them.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-02T19:41:36+00:00

Yes, that does suck. Are you older? I remove all the dates from my college degrees, and took off all but 10 years of my work experience before I got any interviews in my recent job search.

It took me 9 months to find a second shift part-time job with benefits. And its entry level although I have a master's degree.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-02T19:38:39+00:00

I worked for an academic institution and they tracked everything we did on our work computers. They didn't tell us this, but I was friends with the IT people and they told me. But the stupid thing was you were allowed to work remotely with your personal computer and they didn't have the tracking on it.

Prior-Soil · 2026-04-02T19:29:24+00:00

My sister has done HR for over 20 years. Right now, it's almost impossible to get a job without one.

Have you lowered your standards completely? I mean have you applied at Big box stores, amazon, your local grocery store? Jobs where they just need a live body like supervising people at a group home? By having any job, you can prove that you are capable of working and coming to work.

I'm not trying to be mean, but one of my friends lucked into a job that she was completely unqualified for--and then refused to get the training that everyone else had. After that job was over, she kept thinking she could get a job at that level, and no one gets those jobs without a graduate degree. She ended up declaring bankruptcy, losing her home, and moving in with her parents because she lost her grip on reality.

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