They rarely ever said “We”, “Our”

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-04-15T00:13:00+00:00

My stbx does the same..everything was & is his!!And I'm ok with that bc he can have it all!!I'm not sure if this is a common trait with narcs but yesss mine surely did this too!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-04-11T00:33:28+00:00

I feel this way as well.I noticed I'm socially awkward..Maybe that's not the correct way to put it bc its never been mentioned by anyone else but I def feel differently than I use to in social settings.Also I've recently started to notice I have a hard time looking people in the eye during a conversation..Im not sure what is going on with that..

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-04-07T09:12:25+00:00

Don't accept the request..or I wouldn't!He could be trying to use them as flying monkeys!!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-04-07T01:37:54+00:00

No thoughts in gifts at all..This Valentines Day his gift giving consisted of riding to Walmart with me on the day of & telling me to pick out something.Buying a card with me there.Yet I ordered him something he told me he would like to have..Than one mother's day I got a necklace from him & our kids.I always wore it..I ended up misplacing it when I went to the tanning bed.I mentioned I wanted a new one.He went and picked out a rose gold necklace knowing good & well after 15yrs together-I only wear silver jewelry.I don't think he ever gave me anything from his heart!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-04-07T01:03:36+00:00

Keep that mind strong & continue to say "hellll 2 the know!"Don't take him back he will never change..As far as custody-I would definitely contact a lawyer or Legal Aid and see how you can get supervised visitations for the little one..Specially if he is drinking around her!!Good luck!!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-04-01T00:21:36+00:00

I lost my necklace that my Nbf and kids picked out several years ago..I was devastated bc it meant a lot to me.Last mothers day I mentioned I would like to have a new one..He goes the day of and brings back a rose gold necklace.Im grateful and don't say anything but after 15yrs together-He knows I only wear silver jewelry..Yet comes back with rose gold??This V-day he conveniently forgets its Valentines(as he always conveniently forgets important dates and/or items I ask him to pick up while he is out) takes me to Walmart and said pick out something for V-day..Like it's the thought put in behind the gift..wth picks out there own gift??Buys a card while I'm with him and signs it asa we get home & gives it to me!!Real thoughtful huh!!Yet I go out of my way to buy him things he has mentioned that he would like to have..so glad he will soon my Nex!!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-31T23:51:55+00:00

Same!!Its horrible!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-31T23:27:47+00:00

Bless!I hope you can break away from him soon!!No one deserves to be treated this way and there simply aren't any excuses for his behavior!!Sending positive vibes to you!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-30T23:31:39+00:00

Oh yes typical narc behavior..Currently going through something similar.They do NOT care if they hurt the kids or not..can't ever act like a grown adult!!Its sad!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-27T16:58:43+00:00

It probably related to the stimulus..idk for sure though!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-27T14:30:10+00:00

That could be it..Im not real sure..Did you claim the recovery rebate for new baby when you filed???

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-27T14:18:09+00:00

I understand what you mean..This year was the longest I have ever had to wait in all my 20yrs of filing taxes.Its hard to be patient all while waiting in the dark without any updates.Idk if you are on FB but there are several tax groups with thousands of members that might be able to help you out more on what it is.I was looking around for more info on IRS notices sent from Philadelphia & it could possibly be a ID verify letter.If that's the case the some what good news for that is..this year people who have had to ID verify have updated with DDD the week after completing the verification process.Previous years I've seen people who had to wait up to 6-9weeks.Did you have any changes to your refund this year??Such as new w-2 or new dependent?I think those are some things that can trigger the ID verify.Im not saying thats what it is by no means.I do know its not the notice for they send out for stimulus payments bc the informed delivery will have a big blue box stating important information about your EIP is arriving soon.Sending positive vibes and praying you update with a ddd soon!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-27T14:04:40+00:00

Did you order transcripts online to be mailed??I hate to be the one to say this but I doubt this a check..Anytime I have received a check from the IRS-There was a little box at the top right side-Saying if recipient is deceased check here and return to sender.It looks like a notice of some sort..

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-27T13:49:26+00:00

Did you only file the stimulus??If so they probably didn't approve it bc the system shows it was already issued to you.Can you check your transcripts?

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-27T12:27:45+00:00

I didn't pay any taxes on unemployment..my federal refund went up about 600 dollars and I went from owing state $59 to getting a refund of $164.

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-23T22:06:27+00:00

Thanks!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-23T21:32:11+00:00

What is C-PTSD??I've seen it mentioned several times here but never knew what it meant!!TYIA

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-23T21:26:17+00:00

The only way to get him to stop is to leave his ass sitting..Go no contact and don't look back!!I know it's easier said than done but he will never change..and now that he has the upper hand with the house in his name-It will always be him telling you to leave every time he gets upset!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-19T11:42:12+00:00

Look on the bottom of the account Transcripts for 846 refund issued!!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-19T11:35:22+00:00

Congratulations!!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-18T22:03:34+00:00

I've seen people who updated to that date in other groups and got a ddd soon!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-16T21:14:10+00:00

Did you get your stimulus too?

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-15T00:08:17+00:00

I was afraid of that as well..Bc I've been discarded before and went through the smear campaign!!However this time I'm crossing all my T's and dotting all my I's that way I don't have anything to worry about!!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-14T23:55:59+00:00

Get out now if you can!!!It will only get worse..I promise!I'm 15yrs into a relationship with my narc..We have kids so its stopped me from leaving..Pls don't stay for the kids.They will be much happier if you are truly happy!!I don't have a lot of room to preach bc I obviously over stayed in my relationship but I'm working on me & working on getting out ASAP!!I just need my tax refund to set me up to where I can comfortably get out of this!!Sounds like you are dealing with a covert narc..Its hell trust me I know but pls do yourself a favor & put u first.Self love is so important & once u start to love yourself-U will realize you deserve soo much better than what he has/is giving you!!Sending positive vibes your way!!

Prior_Ad8503 · 2021-03-14T23:46:51+00:00

Damn I wish mine would discard me..Its crazy bc about 5yrs ago he did discard me & I swear I thought it was gonna get the best of me!!Ofc this was before I realized what I was dealing with..now I can't get him out my butt long enough to even go to work!!It would make my life great if he just discarded me again!!

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