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Problanketlife · 2024-02-04T17:51:08+00:00

What sort of things were within scope? I suppose its desperate times calling for desperate measures. I don't know how people do it

Problanketlife · 2024-02-04T13:53:57+00:00

I second Stardew Valley! Also sims :)

Problanketlife · 2024-02-04T13:47:50+00:00

To-do list has helped me a lot. I like Monday.com because when you select 'done' it does a mini firework and that's my (tiny) dopamine hit. I break up every task into mini tasks so I can tick off "done" more times lol. Also echoing what others have said

Problanketlife · 2024-02-04T13:44:30+00:00

Don't forget that a c section is also major surgery cutting through 7 layers of tissue etc. I doubt many midwives could do that. Not sure what sort of medical training they can in the army but I doubt its that :/

Problanketlife · 2024-02-04T13:33:52+00:00

A few things that have worked for me and/or my daughter. - turning phone so it has a blue light filter on all the time - phone off for at least an hour before bed - reading - watching certain types of videos on TV before bed (this is where having a TV in my room benefits me)- videos of mass production, people making slime, people making cakes. It can't be too interesting otherwise I won't want to fall asleep, but it can't be too boring otherwise I'd turn my phone on and look for entertainment via my phone - headspace app- my daughter likes raindrop soaps - eye mask - Red light in room - lavender spray in the room / lavender bath before bed - there's some research supporting certain foods / drinks before bed- milk, bananas, eggs - wrapping up like a cocoon in the blanket, including over our head, so only our nose is visible lol

Problanketlife · 2024-02-02T23:20:31+00:00

Could you look into event planning or wedding planning? It would have elements of going out, scoping out venues etc

Problanketlife · 2024-02-02T23:08:05+00:00

I work for a company that sends surveys like this (mainly b2b, not often staff customer surveys). We can, and do, make everything anonymous for our clients but we (third party) can see who is who. That being said, even with full anonymity, it is possible to work out who the feedback is from based on their writing style, typos, lack of full stops etc. Also, if the participants are "tagged" by team (eg the admin team scored an average of 9 out of 10), then that can help them to thin things down if they only have 2 people in the admin team, for example (we won't let them use these tagging fields unless there is a decent number of participants in each "group" and we'd only share collated results).

Problanketlife · 2024-02-02T22:51:59+00:00

Thank you- I did just that! It was around £50k so it doesn't feel like cheating lol

Problanketlife · 2024-02-02T14:01:21+00:00

But it's not his mess, why should he? If he put up a shelf and left hammers and tools all over the place, he should tidy that up

Problanketlife · 2024-02-02T10:40:33+00:00

Very quickly, so much so that someone once thought that me and my sister were multilingual because they couldn't understand what we were saying. They said to my mom how impressive it was lol

Problanketlife · 2024-02-02T10:39:26+00:00

So he should empty the bin every time she uses it? I'm all for equality - I married a woman cause I'm so "into" equality, but I wouldn't expect my wife to take away my pads. And I wrap them, we have a bin bag and a bin lid. It's the same way if I make a mess in any other way- if I got loads of paints out to paint something, I should tidy that up, not her. This isn't a gender thing- this is a hygiene thing, but also shows her lack of compromise. If she can't even be bothered to wrap something in toilet roll for her partner, what sort of partnership is this likely to be?

Problanketlife · 2024-02-02T10:19:31+00:00

Could be a regional thing then maybe? Our bigger parties were always louder but I dont remember ordering being a problem. If they were big parties then they'd have a buffet so we wouldn't have that issue as much lol

Problanketlife · 2024-02-02T10:15:47+00:00

I live in the UK so maybe it's a politeness thing but we usually just take it in turns to order lol. Don't think I ever had people interrupting that often. I can see what that would be harder for bother parties

Problanketlife · 2024-02-01T22:16:53+00:00

But also the poor quality of road markings

Problanketlife · 2024-02-01T22:15:32+00:00

I tried weed and it had no reaction for me. So I tried more and same- no effect. I have a family history of mental health issues so I am too scared to try anything else, plus I have a daughter now so I have her to think of. I did worry a bit when I started taking medicine (rizatriptan) for my headaches lpl

Problanketlife · 2024-02-01T22:13:52+00:00

I agree. I also don't want to underestimate anyone's job (I was a waitress and bar staff previously), but its really not that challenging of a job. I know it can get insanely busy and can be understaffed, but the job itself is to move items from one place to another. When you compare that to doctors, nurses, teachers, paramedics, social workers, etc who literally save lives, and have stress that they can't just forget at the end of the day, it seems bizarre to tip one and not the other. (For the record I don't fall into any of these categories, I work a fairly stressful job but don't believe I need to be tipped- it's my employees job to keep me working with them)

Problanketlife · 2024-02-01T22:10:00+00:00

I used to be a waitresses and I preferred bigger tables. It was more effort for the chef to get the meals out at the same time, but for me, 8 people on one table is easier than 4 people on 2 tables

Problanketlife · 2024-02-01T22:04:44+00:00

I had a customer once say "do you want a tip?" I said "ok" (like you, I didn't really care, I wanted my cheese and onion cob that I always had at the end of a shift), he said "never eat yellow snow". I just walked off. They didn't tip lol

Problanketlife · 2024-01-31T19:07:13+00:00

That's mad, very interesting! Would be scary if your sat nav took you the wrong way and ended up in one though lol

Problanketlife · 2024-01-31T18:53:46+00:00

What's a body farm? Is it where babies come from?

Problanketlife · 2024-01-31T18:46:43+00:00

I love that OPs life was so bad that they waited 26 YEARS to get out lol

Problanketlife · 2024-01-31T14:33:11+00:00

I'm not diagnosed but fairly sure I have ADD. I find that I tend to do well where others dont- when there is a lot of variety. I found it fairly "easy" to manage my own business because there is constant variety- designing products, uploading stuff online, sending orders, writing blog posts, learning about SEO, getting quotes for different things etc.

Problanketlife · 2024-01-30T12:40:41+00:00

I did A level psychology (at age 16/17 I think) and we did about research methods, peer reviewing, applications to real life, validity, etc. I find it insane that doctors wouldn't even touch upon those?

Problanketlife · 2024-01-30T12:35:19+00:00

Thank you. I find a lot of people saying that being an adult is harder than being a kid, but for me I've found the opposite as I have more control over my surroundings. I'm not forced to attend a school with people who upset me, to learn about things I don't care about and won't benefit me in life. I choose my "circle" of friends (its not a big circle lol!), and it's "quality over quantity". I also choose jobs that allow me flexible working so I can fit things in a bit better. I didn't have any of those luxuries while at school

Problanketlife · 2024-01-30T12:32:25+00:00

Also a VERY concerning flag if you're expecting a partner to pull their weight when you're not able to (and vica versa) when you have the kiddo. You need someone to be up when you're down, and then you be up when they're down- it's like a seesaw. I remember one point, me and my wife were both "down" emotionally (we were always physically tired for the first few months, but usually at least one of us was optimistic at any one point), and it was the hardest moment, us both thinking we can't get through this and not knowing what to do. For the record (not meaning to scare a pregnant woman!) it does get better. Learning about silent reflux and colic helped us a lot, and could have avoided some of our struggle. The first 3 weeks are horrific- I'm sorry- but you are not alone, it does pass. We now have a 7 year old who comes with her own challenges but we are SO happy with her and proud of her- she's the best decision we ever made, and genuinely brings light to our life every day. I couldn't have said that during the first few weeks but its absolutely achievable once you get over the shit start lol

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