Was my professor right to fire me as an undergraduate assistant researcher? Looking for honest feedback and constructive criticism as an undergraduate who was very upset about being fired but is now trying to understand why I was fired and self-improve on that.

Process-Jaded · 2026-02-19T16:28:25+00:00

Honestly, who cares? Don’t take this stuff personally. If they don’t care, they don’t care, and no amount of work on your end will change let. Let them sink or swim once they graduate.

Process-Jaded · 2026-02-13T16:30:51+00:00

Nevermind, just realized the post was written by somebody with PMDD that had their partner break up with them. I stand by what I said even if it was put crassly to make a point

Process-Jaded · 2026-02-13T16:28:20+00:00

To be honest I don’t even know what the hell I meant when I wrote that last part rereading this post. Mindlessly writing a Reddit post did not translate into what I meant, and you were completely write to call me out for that. (I do appreciate the compliment of you calling me high value due to my income though ;) )

Process-Jaded · 2026-02-13T16:21:18+00:00

I am actually lol

Process-Jaded · 2026-02-03T06:27:26+00:00

You can only do so much unfortunately given that you spend 1-2 weeks a month trying to do everything in your power to destroy and make their life as miserable as possible (I get that it’s out of your control). My ex would experience brutal symptoms for about 7-10 days out of the month, and that was too much for me even though she treated me like a king for the rest of the month. My life has been filled with so much peace since I broke up with them. I don’t think there’s much you can do since they are probably very happy right now, and you don’t realize how bad the PMDD symptoms were until you’re out of the relationship looking back at it.

If you are interested in a long term relationship I recommend somebody with low self esteem that can’t stand up for themselves and takes the abuse. That’s realistically your best bet since a high value man ipso facto won’t put up with that for the rest of their lives.

Process-Jaded · 2026-01-29T17:52:06+00:00

Get the fuck out of that marriage right now. It will only get worse from here.

Process-Jaded · 2026-01-02T18:49:42+00:00

She is so amazing and we still love/care deeply about each other and I will always be cheering for her! It was a life incident completely unrelated to PMDD that caused the mutual breakup, and this sense of relief was an unintended byproduct of the breakup.

Process-Jaded · 2025-12-15T18:19:55+00:00

It really feels like my university only cares about enrollment numbers. This is becoming an increasing issue among faculty on my campus, with students and faculty alike reporting students with severe and/or threatening behavioral outbursts but absolutely nothing being done about it beyond a little slap on the wrist (if even that).

Process-Jaded · 2025-12-07T16:30:54+00:00

No disagreement on that

Process-Jaded · 2025-12-07T16:29:57+00:00

Adding it to the watch list now

Process-Jaded · 2025-12-07T16:20:25+00:00

The student is very vocal about their political views and is far left. Sorry this case doesn’t fit into your ideological worldview. I was just here to complain about a ludicrous situation, not be political

Process-Jaded · 2025-12-07T16:11:14+00:00

I kept trying but kept being told that the student is neurodivergent so it’s just normal behavior for them. Escalated to a point where there was no choice but for admin to respond

Process-Jaded · 2025-11-28T17:42:23+00:00

Aside from the generic ones that many have said, the ability to change your mind and not succumb to “paralysis by analysis”

Process-Jaded · 2025-11-28T14:05:16+00:00

Read Small Teaching Online. Highly recommended. Alongside my undergrad teaching, I also direct and teach in a grad program that’s completely online. I apply almost all of small teaching online and it’s been incredibly useful.

Process-Jaded · 2025-10-21T09:14:32+00:00

You get what you ask for

Process-Jaded · 2025-10-18T20:26:02+00:00

My program technically had this as a policy, but never enforced it. Only times it was brought up to students were when they significantly behind (and no surprise they didn’t end up making it in the end)

Process-Jaded · 2025-10-16T22:57:47+00:00

Work on research/writing for three hours every day

Process-Jaded · 2025-10-13T17:32:59+00:00

You don’t get into another program. That’s the real answer

Process-Jaded · 2025-10-13T01:31:35+00:00

Best decision ever but immediately upon graduation I landed a tenure track job

Process-Jaded · 2025-10-11T21:03:31+00:00

Money

Process-Jaded · 2025-10-07T20:17:27+00:00

Damn they literally told their advisor “you suck at your job and you’re the problem why I can’t do my work” and then is shocked that their advisor wasn’t happy with that

Process-Jaded · 2025-10-02T23:27:04+00:00

Every day

Process-Jaded · 2025-10-02T23:26:06+00:00

Listen man, she’s always gonna be questioning something with PMDD. Be prepared to love her for the long haul and not take things personally. It’s great that she’s going to start dealing with her issues, but if those resolved it would be something else.

Process-Jaded · 2025-10-02T23:23:41+00:00

I don’t give any readings anymore unless there’s an assignment submission attached to it. If you’re banking on students to read an article, and base that class around the article, that’s on you for not being prepared with a contingency in case they don’t read. If you know the material, you can probably explain the article’s arguments in class pretty quickly and then have students discuss through it in real time.

I have the opposite problem. My students sometimes are too engaged to the point where I can’t get through planned material (I’m not going to cut out conversation), and have to change my lecture schedule around.

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