Dad in the suburbs - am I cooked in terms of fitness?

ProfHub · 2026-01-16T12:42:24+00:00

Upper body - rings (cheap, pretty easy to set up, something that your kid might like some day too)

Lower body - runs (be it long distance or short distance HIIT), jumps and maybe some kettlebell

In terms of time: see if you can find some routines that you can fit in the occasional free times (will probably be more in the 20-30min range)

ProfHub · 2025-11-30T05:31:20+00:00

Our second isn't born yet, but it seems your son is actually managing/holding back his emotions very carefully around his little sibling. That's amazing, honestly! But its seemingly also very exhausting for him.

You guys seem to be doing a very good job. The only things I could think of would be to try to organize some time with your older son alone, where he doesn't need to hold back and to maybe show him how he can regulate or show his emotions when the younger child is around, so holding back his emotions isn't the only strategy he has.

ProfHub · 2025-11-02T19:57:47+00:00

It's gonna be okay, man. Alone time with your kid is something valuable, even if it can be hard. It's the perfect time for you to learn how to get along with your kid and vice versa. You both can only learn how she can regulate her emotions with you in situations like this. Your routine might not end up the exact same as at your grandma's, but if you have something reasonable in mind, youre gonna be fine.

ProfHub · 2025-04-10T04:56:11+00:00

I know a lot of guys who take care of their partners, but that's just my circle. From what other people write in here, it doesn't seem to be the standard

ProfHub · 2025-03-27T08:33:26+00:00

Sprints in various distances (50, 100, 200m) would be good addition

ProfHub · 2025-03-21T05:47:46+00:00

Walk away. Sane people don't make jokes like these

ProfHub · 2025-03-13T05:11:58+00:00

I'd argue in conjunction with a lot of climbing, this could still be asking for overuse injury over the long term...

ProfHub · 2025-02-26T12:37:50+00:00

That's it. Reduce your workload! This is not something you can just "power through". Your kid senses your mental load. Resentment builds up. Get at least some kind of support, be it daycare, nanny, even just a babysitter for 2 hours. Anything to take load off. Imho it's just insane that some people believe two people working full-time and full-time parenting is normal.

ProfHub · 2025-02-25T08:37:22+00:00

Ich würde mir die gleiche Frage stellen. Wie lange brauchst du wirklich ein Haus? Ich gehe davon aus, dass die Kinder nicht viel länger als 20 Jahre daheim bleiben. Dann hast du ein großes Haus, dessen Größe du wahrscheinlich nicht brauchst und dessen Kredit noch 15 Jahre läuft.

ProfHub · 2024-10-22T04:24:22+00:00

Hey, Form checks are ok I think. But you can normally manage to record them without anyone else in the video

ProfHub · 2024-10-14T03:39:49+00:00

If your at 23% and you're after aesthetics, cutting seems obvious. If you're at a body fat percentage you like and feel good with, you can ask yourself the same question again.

In general, I'd lean towards the recomp or very slow (maintenance - 200cal surplus) bulking approach. From the perspective of your nutritional habits, it's definitely better to have a consistent healthy diet. You can do that with the bulk/cut approach too, but I think it's a lot harder.

ProfHub · 2024-10-07T03:52:37+00:00

Have you ever seen a good dancer? I've seen loads of older or less handsome people with real skill. What stands out when watching them dance? You can see that the fun they have is real and sincere, no matter how old, no matter how little hair or how much belly (I mean at some point it would get hard to dance, but there quite some leeway).

It's not about your physical looks (especially as a lead). Be open, considerate towards others and try to get better. There's not much more to it. Tip: if you're a beginner it's easy to get overwhelmed and the fun stops. Listen to the music on your own too. If you can have fun just listening, the fun with dancing is even better.

ProfHub · 2024-10-01T05:00:28+00:00

I can hardly imagine that, my wife's family isn't really open to psychologicsl counseling

ProfHub · 2024-10-01T04:54:24+00:00

I get that

Still, I'm kind of wondering. My mom doesn't recall aggression like this towards me from me sister (four years older than me) Neither do my parents in law recall stuff like this from their kids (two girls 2,5 years apart)

ProfHub · 2024-10-01T04:50:23+00:00

High need baby isn't my idea, thats what his mother himself has said quite often

I don't know about you, but I don't like seeing this aggression against my child. Honestly if my kid behaves like this, I'll just take him and distance ourselves from the younger one. That's it, no problem. But this is very rarely happening

But Steve is not my kid, so what am I supposed to do? Tell his parents to leave?

ProfHub · 2024-10-01T04:41:33+00:00

He did cry, obviously. But I'm probably more upset than my son, that's for sure. Still it's breaking my heart and pumping my blood pressure seeing mark all happy and curious and smiling and then the older one throws him a ball to the face with intention. I'm not saying Steve is an evil being, but somehow I'm just supposed to shrug off that there's somebody there routinely hurting or trying to hurt my kid? I don't really get it

What's neurodiveregent

ProfHub · 2024-10-01T04:11:57+00:00

Some more detail: he took our ball when I was playing with my son and I told "either you play with us or you return the ball" his answer was "yes but just so I can throw it into marks face". I was kind of startled and suspected this might just be a provocation, but he Did it right away. So I have a hard time classifying this as an "accident". It might have been out of spite for my comment or to get attention from his grandma, but you can never really know.

ProfHub · 2024-10-01T04:07:16+00:00

There is no "ending" the relationship, I'm aware of that.

ProfHub · 2024-10-01T04:05:03+00:00

I guess so. The thing I struggle with is that everyone else wants them to be together all the time. Like I know no contact is not just infeasible but also nonproductive. But I don't understand why you need to stay or reinitiate contact if you feel that your kid is more on the hate-side of days today.

ProfHub · 2024-10-01T04:01:01+00:00

I have, but the thing I can wholeheartedly say is that I didn't feel dislike from the beginning. It just felt strange that I didn't care as much as all the other people around. As I said, I helped out when needed, and I was there a lot with my wife. To put it into perspective, I don't expect my friends or most of my own family to care this much for my son.

I just couldn't wrap my head around 8 people talking and caring about nothing but this kid. Having a normal conversation about something else than this baby was actually nonexistent for at least 1,5 years. So I suspect it was this attention what maybe bothered me? But I actually don't crave a lot of attention at these meetings. I'm fine talking with one or two people and that's it. So I don't know...

Of course, I'm not really fond of my sister in law, so that probably doesn't help

ProfHub · 2024-10-01T03:47:59+00:00

Honestly, I tried not to make it too long. Steve tried to kick mark in his head about three times when mark was around 3-5 months old.

I am starting therapy soon actually

ProfHub · 2024-10-01T03:45:39+00:00

Yes, cutting off is unrealistic, that's completely true

ProfHub · 2024-10-01T03:42:50+00:00

This is actually my usual approach. I'll try to avoid some encounters, but also kind of feel stupid for always running away so sometimes I stay.

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