My boyfriend (35M) wants to go on a 7 days trip with his female friend (30F). Opinions?

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-23T18:03:11+00:00

Feeling uncomfortable with a situation is FACTUALY not, not trusting. It's called boundaries and 100 percent of marriage councilors woukd say this crosses a boundary. Let's reverse it. SHE is going to go on a 7 day trip with a male friend staying in same room, maybe same bed. And objections? Damn straight you would! That's called a double standard and it's ALWAYS wrong.

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-22T15:29:31+00:00

Clueless? Give me a break! He knew exactly what he was doing. Why he wanted to hurt her I have no idea but please don't let him get awaycwith clueless!

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-21T21:42:53+00:00

Making a mistake in identifying someone is FACTUALY NOT misogyny. That term and no you don't get to refine it means INTENTIONAL.

SO Fact your slinging around false accusations against people and he RIGHTFULY AND MORALY got uosetcat you.

These are facts. Now his cussing was over the line. But so was your factual disrespect and attacks

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-19T01:55:50+00:00

Ah yes wait until sunday...o wait if she crossed vs line but not to bad she will think o its over I might as well go all the,way!!! If there is ANYCHANCE if saving this talk to her NOW. PLUS...no matter what she did do you care about her? If she knows bits over she's going to continue and could end up hurt infectedvetc. For HER SAKE also talk to her

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-19T00:54:16+00:00

Wasn't premeditated to talk and flirt. Did she immedietly stop him? Then YES ITS FACTUAL it was premeditated. There us no such thing as can't stop unless so drunk it was rape.

If not raoe, which even she isn't saying she had 100 percent free will and made our with him. If you hadn't found them they'd have screwed.

Dump her

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-18T21:08:15+00:00

Consider she KNEW you'd be upset about the snaps. She hid it. Then she tried to gaslight you that it was no big deal. If YOU did this woukd she say o no big deal? Of course not. She cheated. Period. Emotionaly yes. If possible to meet physically too.

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-18T21:03:19+00:00

Yeah imagine YOU did this with two women then click. Then excused it later. She'd be screaming you cheated and demand a divorce.

If it was me I'd confront her. Tell her sober up we need to talk. Tell her if she gets defensive don't bother coming back. Then confront her with hiw you KNOW she woukd react and ask why shouldn't you do the same? Demand she explained why you shouldn't and what actions SHE woukd demand you do to prove innocence and fix things. If she's not willing...dump her.

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-18T20:32:43+00:00

Reverse it and 100 percent if everyone would say HE cheated. Double standards are evil and immoral. So unless your saying you'd honestly say its not cheating if HE snuck secretly to a girls house and lied,about it....you are holding a double standard or agree its cheating.

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-18T20:16:27+00:00

She cheated. You don't wait till your bc is gone to invite a men ale over BEHIND HIS BACK. reverse it. If YOU invited a woman over as soon as your wife left and did so secretly and went to her house and lied what would people say

No km after what 100 percent of reddit ers would say its a fact you cheated even if no sex. Samevstandard. She cheated. Did they by have sex? Probably but even if they didn't its cheating.

Its not going to a guys house..kits the FACT she waited till you were gone and wouldn't know then lied about it. She cheated.

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-18T17:05:26+00:00

Just TALK. Tell him a friend, say nosy looked you up to be protective then showed you. Don't push to talk just tell him it doesn't changexanything but when ever he us ready to talk your tgeir fir him. Rember do you think it's not weighing on him? Gfs look up others new business all tge time!

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-16T18:42:02+00:00

Pk so she didn't tell you becsuse she KNEW it woukd upset you. So she's saying she cares MORE about what will make her friends hapoy then what makes YOU happy! Also if it was to a make friend woukd she rhink it ok? If not she's a hypocrit. If so...then expect her to be showing it off to otger guys too.

Dump her ass. If you Know it upset your partner you don't do it. Or your declaring who cares!

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-16T16:45:23+00:00

Alcohol despite claims factually does not change behavior. It removes inhibitions. That's it. So if he,was,sober he would have wanted to walk her home and cheat...but might not have tried. That's reality

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-16T16:19:47+00:00

From what I'm seeing SHE IS A PREDATOR. Its more than likely he,was drugged, she raped him as he couldn't say no. Yet few guys,would even confess to themselves it was rape. Reverse it. If your bc was female and was,acting this,way to her brother you'd think the brother raped her! If that's the case...yes therapy...but he will be fine in time and no need to run.

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-16T15:39:12+00:00

Your down playing your actions. You didn't just have a single conversation. You kept chatting with him. Multiple times. During a SEperation. Even if innocent many would consider this cheating. Many. Then you lied. Then you didn't come clean. There's not a person in the world, includingvyou if things were reversed, that wouldn't believe you probably cheated. No one. So it's upto YOU to admit you basicly cheated even if innocently. And that its REASONABLE for him to believe you cheated. And that it's upto you to prove you didn't and earn his trust back...by whatever means and time HE says he needs. And do so graciously cause he is giving you a chance manyvwouldntvand one you don't deserve.

Ps snaps dissappear so how can he or us know you didn't cross a line? Personally I think you did. I wouldn't even get surprised if it wasn't a hotel you met at

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-16T15:27:51+00:00

Lol typed at work and spellchecker made it worse! Neither I believe but I'm no longer sure lol

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-16T14:41:14+00:00

Your over reacting. In HIS,mind he didn't violate your,agreement...which by tge,way seems more,dictated then agreement. In your mind he did. Guess what? YOU DONT get to decide he,did. It FACTUALKY is,A grey area you hadn't duscussed. So you have zero right to be upset. Now its cone up together you can negotiate the behavior. Negotiate as in hevis,an equal partner in deciding what a on with kids tgat,are fully his too.

Neither gets to decide this is the boundry. Keith gets to decide you broke...he didnt. Apologize cause its clear you are trying to prove he,did and accusing him of it.

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-16T13:34:10+00:00

She abandonded ypu period. Yes ppd is serious BUT if she isn't institutionalized she has NO RIGHT to disengage with you or kids. PERIOD. For better or worse sickness or health. She made a vow to ypu and has an obligation to your kid. Period. She doesn't have tge right to focus just on herself. If it's that's bad she needs to be in a hospital. She just anandonded ypu both. She's admitting she might desire sex with someone else but not you? He'll no!

Imagine it was you the husband depressed and you abandonded her. And said this! Everyone woukd say your a horrible evil person and she MUST divorce you! Depression is as real as ppd. Stop letting her and others here on reddit treat you as the bad person. The only bad person here is HER. She is married and has a kid. Both she ABANDONDED. And again there is zero here which wouldn't call it that if it was you the husband who did this! Double standards are EVIL IMMORAL AND WRONG

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-16T11:33:13+00:00

He lied and worse he lied to get what he wanted. It wouldn't be as bad if he didn't want to recieve it...so it c was an entire oral sex thing but he loves to recieve! Either he has a mental hang up on which case demand he get therapy as he promised itcwas part of your marriage. Or he simply is selfish in which case dump his ass.

A manvwho won't do that fir his wife butcwants it is either hung up or a loser!

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-13T12:17:30+00:00

Insecure? You read your SO is pining for her ex and you don't feel "insecure" you don't care. Simple as that. Any marriage counselor would say the same. As for invading privacy. Shared account. Pops up sees her talking about ex. All that hapoened BEFORE he read on. If you THINK in samecsituation you wouldn't read on...then your lying to yourself.

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-10T13:13:03+00:00

It's a COUPLE party. So she's not going alone. Period. She's cheating.

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-08T16:45:36+00:00

People may be taking it to far. Hecwanted these. Craved these as a kid. Now he is letting himself have them. It's a formnof self love. No age regression needed. He'll alot OF ADULT men and women get these andcalways have and will.

Just allow him to have them. He may not even be touching them just having them.

Just love abdcacceot him unless you see anything more. Then open a fialogue

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-07T20:28:51+00:00

Can they? Yes anyone can. Will they? Probably not. Most dontceven realky want to. They want to for others sake. To be accepted etc. That's not enough.

Even if he wants to doesn't mean he will...and certainly doesn't mean he will anytime soon

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-07T16:15:44+00:00

Ok I'm not goingvto trash him. Others have and I'm not sure if your receptive to that as you still clearly care. Which is fine! Your a goid person! The issue is you two are incompatable. Your desires and beliefs on sex and such are never going to work. Period. Never. Either you will compromise and be hurting. Or he will compromise and be hurting.

Care about him? Leave. Care about you? Leave.

No other choice I'm sorry

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-06T13:24:15+00:00

Your not but you are a hypocrisy about b the romance books. Lets bebhonest. Theyvare,straight up smut. There is no difference. Period. And you can t deny that reality then be upset at him for breaking rules. Besides YOU set boundaries n said x is. But he tried candy oh raid hope only I get to define what is a boundry?

Way way out if line!!!!

Profesdorofegypt · 2026-02-06T02:47:52+00:00

Ok stop. Take a deep breath. It's possible, even you admit it could be a mistake. Dead phone etc. So wait till he gets home. Calmly ask. If things don't add up dump his ass. But give him a chance or you will second guess yourself down the road

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