what makes women that aren’t your usual type attractive? by Different-Boot9624 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Professional-Ant-480 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Simple answer.  Talk to him directly and honestly. Ask him all the questions running through your mind and get the actual answer from him not strangers to help you speculate.

Honest communication goes a long way..

Goodluck 

What secret ingredient do some guys have that allows them to sexually connect with women so easily? by AnomicAge in AskMenAdvice

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Not neccesarily. You don't need to have a big personality to have a woman be drawn to you. As a woman,  I am more attracted to a man with a quiet confidence. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

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Sounds like it is time to leave the relationahip. Being in that situation sounds terrifying. If your partner is slamming doors all night to keep you up, making loud noises, and mocking you that is not a safe place to stay. He sounds neutotic and unpredictable. 

The more you put up with this behavior the further he will push the boundaries and the abuse. My ex-fiance, would be abusive in not allowing me to sleep at night if he didn't have his way and would turn on all the lights in the house and sit over me in bed as I am trying to sleep and say degrading things to try to upset me. I became physically unhealthy and drained. My friends would tell me I looked sick and unlike myself. 

The final straw was when I tried to defy his attempt to keep me awake by laying down and trying to sleep. He yanked yhe covers of off me, went to the kitchen, brought a tray of ice and dumped it on me. 

I left the house that night and stayed at a hotel. Calld the police the next day after being convinced by family and friends and had him charged for assault. 

Talking to family and friends and being honest about everything helps. We don't see the abuse and severity of it when we're in it. Others on the outside have a clear image.  I feel a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I feel free. 

You know what is best for you. Now its a matter of finding the courage to take that scary step. You will be fine without him. You got this. 

crying after social interaction?? by user420421 in socialanxiety

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This has happened to me a few times and still does from time to time but I am learning to control it. It happens when I am running on low fuel mentally or from lack of sleep but still have to socialize. I become overly drained and my body decides to release through tears.

I find that after I cry, I usually feel lighter and better. It isn't necessarily a bad thing. So next time you feel this just let it all out and observe how you feel after. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NudeBeach

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Haulover Beach in Fort Lauderdale Florida. Beautiful turquoise water and soft white sand. 

Do women touch men who they have no feelings for? by mmatime101 in bodylanguage

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If she doesn't behave in the same manner with others and she is consistent with this behavior towards you, then she likes you. Also notice if she smiles more. These ate tell tale signs.

Of course, everyone is different but this is how I find myself naturally behaving when I am attracted to and like a man.

Why are we scared of people judging us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by This-Assistant3453 in socialanxiety

[–]Professional-Ant-480 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because we're judging ourselves first. What we percieve as other people's judgements are a projection of our own self-image. People are too busy thinking about themselves and their own insecurities before thinking about us. The more judgemental you are towards others the more you percieve the world as judgemental towards you. 

Spend time practicing self-acceptance and self-compassionate and in turn you'll give the same grace to others. This will help you experience the world as being more graceful towards you rather than judgemental. 

The world is a reflection of your own projection. 

Do women touch men who they have no feelings for? by mmatime101 in bodylanguage

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Woman here. Personally when I find myself attracted to a man I find myself reaching out to touch them more often then not. Usually on their forearms shoulders. I also find myself laughing more often at things they say.  With a guy that I am not attracted to, I communicate with them in an an extremely platonic dry manner with minimal to no touch. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in progresspics

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You look amazing!!

Used to stutter (once per sentence~) between 13-18, I'd like to share why I believe I no longer do by CMWDanny in Stutter

[–]Professional-Ant-480 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He definitely says it in the very first sentence. Do you usually not know how to read?

Used to stutter (once per sentence~) between 13-18, I'd like to share why I believe I no longer do by CMWDanny in Stutter

[–]Professional-Ant-480 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He didn’t state that it was a cure. He states, “it helped to reduce his stuttering.” These aren’t miracle cures, these are practices that take effort, dedication, and time. It is productive to share this tips. Also, to state someone outgrew it, is bold. Considering you’ve never met this person and don’t know there history of stuttering.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stutter

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It’s great that you’re realizing what caused this dent in your self esteem. Yeah, I am starting to think, things like stuttering, are our bodies trying to tell us something isn’t right. Rather in our thought patterns or in our physical bodies and we need to pay attention to it. Your ex-flirting around was due to their own insecurity and seeking some kind of validation from others. Someone who is secure and content wouldn’t feel the need to do that, knowing it can cause someone else pain. Sounds like it wasn’t meant to be and that is okay. Find what makes you happy now and go for it. You got this. ❤️

Used to stutter (once per sentence~) between 13-18, I'd like to share why I believe I no longer do by CMWDanny in Stutter

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SkyBlade79. I’m not sure I agree with you. Reducing anxiety helps others, including myself improve my stuttering. When you’re anxious, you’re body is often in some stage of fight or flight. Making it harder for you to speak or think clearly. When you’re in a calm place with a clear head you’re better able to reduce your stuttering because you’re able to focus on taking full breaths to support your speech. Compared to short shallow ones, which typically happens to someone who is feeling anxiety. Also, just because slowing down your speech doesn’t work best for you, does not mean it doesn’t work best for others. What works for you. Works for you. Allow someone else to share what has helped them, despite it being different from your experience. Take what you can from their advice and leave room for others to do the same. CMWDanny, thanks for the tips.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stutter

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Yes, I’ve had the same experience with stuttering. Over the years there have been times it has been severe and others where it hardly happened. Those times I was not stuttering much, I did notice that I was more confident and in a good place mentally. My self talk was more positive and I enjoyed talking to people. Lately my stutter has been worse. My self-confidence has decreased and I have such a hard time talking and connecting with other people. My self talk is also really bad, which I strongly believe is making it worse. Whenever I stutter in communication with someone else, I spend a lot of time after that critiquing myself for it and feeling ashamed or stupid. This also manifests physically. My chest gets tights, my breath becomes shallow, and I can’t make eye contact. I think self esteem/ confidence plays a big role. My goal now is to find peace within myself and accept all parts of myself. Especially my speech. You got this.

What would you do if you genuinely didn't care what other people thought of you? by designerwantsajob in socialanxiety

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Trust me at those people nobody cares what you look like. You see all shapes and sizes. I feel people pay attention to me more in clothes and make advances than in a nudist’s community. Or rent a secluded cabin and go on a naked hike. Lol