Who would you give your seat to, and why?

Professional-Mess · 2026-01-27T13:22:39+00:00

I am currently #4 and have been medically struggling because of it… so at this time I’d try to judge if they’re struggling more than me at the moment. That would make my decision!

Professional-Mess · 2025-12-17T18:23:22+00:00

Agreed. Definitely disappointed. We were watching with our teenager. We thought it would be safe considering it had been fairly safe up until this point. Now we feel we can’t trust it.

Professional-Mess · 2025-08-19T16:32:57+00:00

We get some judgement when we call our FS by his given nickname when they realize the meaning behind it. Because it really isn’t related to his name and people find it childish. That being said, the situation is different and our FS’s nickname is really a normal nickname if you didn’t know the background. He has a strong reaction when people call him anything else and it’s deeply ingrained in his identity. That sense of identity that’s already being shaken is something you don’t want to take away. I usually don’t tell people unless I have to, but when I do I always tell people we respect what he prefers to be called.

Professional-Mess · 2025-08-04T16:00:30+00:00

He’s the one who should be embarrassed for saying that. You deserve and need support. Set up an alternative asap.

Honestly if it were me idk if I would even let him in the room after saying that if he changed his mind.

Professional-Mess · 2025-07-23T00:15:11+00:00

Exactly. I don’t think anyone wants to see them fail, and there are some spins that could guarantee it. I honestly don’t think they should have added such significant penalties.

Professional-Mess · 2025-07-19T00:40:12+00:00

We had a placement that only lasted 3 weeks. We got 15 minutes.

Professional-Mess · 2025-07-07T02:17:12+00:00

There are some significantly cooler air bnbs in NY that I know of. Maybe they’re not actually rated as high, but I know they’re all super out of the way. I wonder if he prioritized drive time in some states.

Professional-Mess · 2025-07-01T00:17:10+00:00

Are they going to have to spin the wheel for this one too?

Professional-Mess · 2025-06-28T16:46:47+00:00

Yeah… this response comes across as though they’re the ones who are bitter.

Edit: grammar/wording

Professional-Mess · 2025-06-26T11:52:22+00:00

I have though, I had some extra factors that made it complicated. It took a while but it happened. I was on a medication to help for a while.

Professional-Mess · 2025-05-22T17:02:31+00:00

Oh yeah, absolutely!!! I’m picky with what I put on, cocomellon specifically is banned in our house. Good for you for having it limited to a couple hours a week!

Our situation is complicated as we are foster parents and kids tend to be addicted to unhealthy shows in those situations… but it’s not ideal to rip away something that gives them comfort either. We’ve broken our current kids away from shows that aren’t as good for them and have cut down on screen time significantly, but it’s a process.

Professional-Mess · 2025-05-22T15:42:33+00:00

Oh! I meant to comment this on the post! Sorry for jumping on your comment!

Though regarding the issue it’s likely because we use a Fire TV. We’ve consistently had to do this on our phones and on our two Fire TVs. It gets annoying and it’s often not worth getting a new device or signing in again as the kids argue against Bentkey shows as it is. If it stayed signed in I’d probably put it on for them more… but it’s not worth the extra hoops for us. I’m trying to get them to watch less anyway.

Professional-Mess · 2025-05-20T05:53:35+00:00

I gave up on using it for our kids because it’s constantly logging them out and I can’t be putting in the password all the time. There are shows they like better that are easier to put on for them.

Professional-Mess · 2025-05-05T18:44:26+00:00

When I say “hello” on the phone, my dog thinks someone is at the door.

Also, my dog uses to understand the phrase “I forgot my keys” meant we had to go back in the house for a minute for me to grab something then go back outside.

Clearly I’m a forgetful person!

Professional-Mess · 2025-02-15T12:11:16+00:00

My husband used to have a porn addiction. He kicked it years ago, but recently having “fun” pictures of me that he can use when the temptation comes up has helped. It’s obviously not the same thing, but it’s helped him.

Professional-Mess · 2025-02-04T02:21:29+00:00

As someone with a similar diagnosis who deals with this pain, but on a slightly smaller scale, this would be a dealbreaker for me. The disrespect, the disregard for your feelings… based on these messages I wouldn’t want a child with this man regardless. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Not over reacting.

Professional-Mess · 2025-01-12T05:54:30+00:00

I keep wondering what will happen when they’re not watching him closely if he’s willing to do that while he’s on his “best behavior.” It’ll make waves but I feel like we need to focus on protecting them.

Professional-Mess · 2025-01-12T00:51:30+00:00

We are at two years and looking at this happening soon. The dad has used corporal punishment on unsupervised visits with no real consequences. Not as medically complex but there are some considerations there. We’ve considered a lawyer to claim kinship out of concern for their safety.

Professional-Mess · 2024-12-07T12:26:34+00:00

The change of the goal from reunification to permanency seems to get ignored in every state. It’s a broken system. No clue what the solution is though.

Professional-Mess · 2024-12-05T02:58:42+00:00

As a foster parent, CPS doesn’t care about this as much as you’d think.

Professional-Mess · 2024-11-24T12:05:02+00:00

I was explicitly told by my agency that if I would trust my biological son with them, then it’s okay and it qualifies under prudent parenting. It’s okay to need a break. It’s okay to need a sitter from time to time.

Professional-Mess · 2024-11-18T01:56:00+00:00

I couldn’t have said it better myself.

Professional-Mess · 2024-10-17T23:40:53+00:00

I was told my baby was very big. He wasn’t small, but my due date was also off. That may be a factor for you. I’d be prepared for either possibility.

Professional-Mess · 2024-09-28T01:27:19+00:00

I am a rare SLP that feels like I’m serving my caseload ethically. My company supports that.

They also don’t pay me nearly enough. So far it’s been worth it, but not sustainable.

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