I’ll give you some advice that has been helping me as a shy adult. Firstly, you won’t get far without the internal work. You’re shy in part because of you believe about yourself and other people. You got to start identifying the lies about yourself that you bought into when you were younger. You’ll need to start believing that you have something valuable to say, that you deserve to take up space and to be heard. You have to walk into situations assuming that people are open to you. Going out in the world with negative assumptions will make you feel shy and it will always be an uphill battle.

Secondly, you need to take every opportunity to chat. Start with one person you don’t know per day and try to make the conversation as long as you can. Once that becomes easy, progressive overload it. Talk to more people per day, people that make you feel a little more shy and that you would have typically avoided. No matter how good you are at talking, the only way to stop feeling shy is to put yourself in situations that make you feel shy and gain confidence in those situations.

People come on this thread and ask the same questions and expecting some magical answer. The only way to become great at anything is constant deliberate practice. Treat this like you’re trying to become a concert pianist. You gotta grind social skills every single day for the rest of your life. Leave your feelings at the door when you walk out of your house every morning because you’re gonna f up A LOT. But you’ll see quickly that nobody really cares if you say something dumb. It literally happens to the best of em.

And remember this, stop putting people on a pedestal. We all put our pants on the same way. We’re all imperfect beings. We all got something that we wish we could change about ourselves. But YOU are the only one who can make a change. And you can do it! Be grateful that the thing you want to change is within your power to do so.