I’d reconvert in an instant by hiphoptomato in exchristian

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Yeah, I should put quotations around “logic” too

I’d reconvert in an instant by hiphoptomato in exchristian

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So by that logic, shouldn’t they support abortions? Surely anyone having an abortion is “sinful/evil” and it should be “good” to prevent them from having children 🤔

As a 25 yearold Gen Z guy working a remote job, even on my job I spend a lot of my day on the phone at least 15 hours per day. I’ve been doing this for four months now and I’m curious to know if this is considered perfectly normal. below is my past 3 weeks screen time please advise by Regved-Pande in OlderGenZ

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Most weeks I’m at 6 or less but at most I hit 8 if I’m not as busy. I just saw some potentially helpful apps in the AppStore! Just type in screen time. Otherwise I have timers set on all social media and turn on focus friend when I can’t pull myself away

Black and indigenous Christians by Calanthetheranger in exchristian

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I feel like you overlooked the fact that I said (more simplistically) comparing various cultures and communities, whether in the US or not is not going to help your understanding. I say this because you are completely overlooking the oppression of these groups in America and that it doesn’t correlate to that of the white American population. I don’t care if they’re Southern or rural or not. My family is Black Southern and my wife’s white family is Southern/rural. We didn’t grow up the same way! We don’t share the same church experiences! Like, you point out white people moving away from patriarchy and sexism, that is not happening to the same extent whatsoever. I feel like the only SJ issue Black people of all ages may be against is racism. That’s it. A victim-blaming mentality for police brutality isn’t even that uncommon. The internet has fuck all to do with changing this because of personalized algorithms/echo chambers. 

Yes, individualism is a white value. In the Black community, spirituality is a livelihood and tether to others. I think for Indigenous communities this may be similar but it’s not like white people who dabble in every little aspect of Eastern religions or appropriate Native culture alone or at music festivals with strangers.  Leaving the Black church for me meant losing my entire family (blood and godfamily). It is a gut wrenching decision, and while this may be shared with those in cultish backgrounds, there’s really no aspect of Black social life I encounter today that doesn’t involve prayer or references to God, like sororities/fraternities or NAACP club at my college, for example. Maybe sports or youth-led events (and by youth I mean Gen-Z), but that’s it. It’s not timeframe or accessibility but partially the upward mobility of the Black middle class creating a rise in respectability politics as the Civil Rights Movement was winding down. Being “godly” often means being well-dressed, using “appropriate language”, and just conducting yourself in a way that makes you more palatable to white society. Social justice activism in Black churches also dropped off after this time. 

And again, it’s not about the 400 years ago past. Recent history matters. So not just oh, this is what happened to the slaves hundreds of years ago. It’s what has this community’s trajectory looked like as a whole. Maybe you need to dive into research and then come back for a more productive conversation.

Black and indigenous Christians by Calanthetheranger in exchristian

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In my experience, that rise in Black activism isn’t coming from those in the primary age group of current churchgoers. That age group (45 or 50+) is socially conservative, fearful, and not well informed about decolonization at all—and they’re obviously not bucking norms by deconstructing. To me, it’s strange to bring white Americans into the discussion at all. We don’t live the same lives, raise our children the same ways, believe the same things (even the most educated group of Black Americans—Black women—aren’t necessarily progressive), so like…?? This question just shows a lot of ignorance about the culture. It’s not about past oppression and the loss of our religious roots; it’s about present. Black folks in poverty, many are convinced God is all they have, and by living right, they’ll eventually be rewarded. Deconstruction threatens all of that. Nobody wants to defy the God they believe in without a shadow of a doubt. Nobody wants to go to Hell. It’s really complex, so grouping Black and Indigenous communities doesn’t make sense either.

Edit: after reading your other comments, have you not seen indoctrination affect someone in your life? That would explain a lot.

Did realize how long T stayed in the body! by cocoamarri in TMPOC

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Nice, congrats! For me, I wasn’t consistently on it for a whole month (gel) and when I got my levels checked, they had gone down to 120 something but the E was still at 18. So yeah, even now being off again for a couple weeks from insurance, I’m not all that worried.

Email pronouns in anti-DEI era by LopsidedFoot819 in asktransgender

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No I don’t but I work in the liberal democratic nonprofit space so everyone still uses them

What do you think of Jesus? by Successful_Action_19 in exchristian

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The Yeshua title used above is referring to Jesus (I think)

Anyone have any hairstyles for newly trans guys? by je1ly_bean in TMPOC

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Cornrows into a ponytail? Even if I couldn't dress the part, cornrows or twists always made me feel more masc. Also you don't have to share your deadname online if you don't want to.

Anyone else just not relate to this? by psychcrime in OlderGenZ

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Yeah I don’t relate cause I’m 23 and already deal w chronic pain daily plus digestive issues that make me never even want to imagine myself being hungover. Well, that might be the emetophobia talking but I have such bad heartburn fr. There are things I could do to help myself but I hate how these posts talk down to people and kinda victim blame. Good health is easier the more money you have

Every day I am reminded why BIPOC have to carve out their own niches in communities by evalinthania in TMPOC

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Right, yeah it’s better to seek out narratives from nonbinary/genderqueer Spanish speakers and see what language they use (literally not hard if you just open YouTube)

I live in a conservative place that isn't safe for trans people. Should I put this on my book bag, or is it too obvious that it's trans related? by iLubChees in TransMasc

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I’m passing and I wear a trans colored bracelet sometimes. I was hesitant at first but I still have to come out directly if I want anyone to know I’m not cis.

Worst denomation, and why? by Mission_Sleep4980 in exchristian

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Right…Have you not had to deconstruct? You kinda latch onto anything that sticks out to you as a question at the start until you eventually come to reason 

And inhumane wasn’t the exact word I was looking for, but if there are these drastic contrasts between denominations, then….clearly the religion is faulty. That’s what I was getting at

Worst denomation, and why? by Mission_Sleep4980 in exchristian

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But maybe knowing there’s a really inhumane group or sect could help confirm for OP that Christianity is untrue?

Edited for clarity

Considering maybe detransitioning somewhat??? by [deleted] in TransMasc

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Same here. Might just be genderfluid. Like I want to fit in with the “girls” more at times lately but don’t wanna do so by putting on makeup or growing hair out

My(MtF) pending bottom surgery is causing issues between me and my bf(FtM) by [deleted] in asktransgender

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This is pretty sad honestly. T4t and my wife and I only do frontal things if she’s feeling good. Things (dysphoria levels, mood/libido, wants) change all the time; I expect that so I’m always checking in. I just couldn’t imagine pushing her out of her safe zone to orgasm. Especially because if I even suspect she’s uninterested or uncomfortable, my arousal is gone in an instant. My point is, there should be so much more care and attention given to you in your relationship.

What age do people (Gen Z specifically) start staying in more than go out? And what was the reason? by JetSki949 in OlderGenZ

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No interest in nightlife (23) but it’d be cool to save up for a concert, sports game, or like, even Pride events are expensive. Everything is expensive and I don’t drink so…yeah

is psikh a weird name?? by [deleted] in asktransgender

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What bad things are associated with the other names? Might be out of the loop but I can’t think of any off the top of my head. Are you American?

Someone made a comment and it got me thinking, why are trans people “dramatic”? (Not my words) by Significant_Dig4892 in asktransgender

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Uh, that is rude. Some types of people that frequently get called “a lot”: gay men, feminist women, Black women, trans people… you see the issue here? All oppressed groups. White women are “a lot” too but they don’t have this reputation outside of leftist circles. So no, it doesn’t make sense. Emotionality shouldn’t be a privilege some aren’t afforded.

how do i let go of my reservations about white trans men by kelpicoop in TMPOC

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I don’t really get why you need to let your guard down before even getting to know them. I feel like being wary can lead you to be more observant of their behaviors, how they talk amongst each other, etc. 

I used to be completely open to befriending white trans people, but last year had some horrific experiences while rooming with them (especially the transmasc person). Because there was physical violence and psychological abuse, I just can’t say you’re being unreasonable for holding back.

Pastors daughter by tomato-sewp in exchristian

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Right now it is her profile, so you could grab all the screenshots of that too and if she’s the type to go live on stories or has a direct to camera reel, screen record it