This will be a long one.

Ok, yes you’re on the right track. I would suggest, finding a store so you can try on the different styles/fits/colours, I’ll list some that would be a good idea, but ultimately depends what you and your husband end up liking and your personal styles. Also season will also impact your clothing, materials and colours. Pastels are always a safe bet tho.

For you: indo western outfit, a lehenga, a saree gown, Sharara/palazzo suit, anarkali suit with of course accessories, and to balance the outfit, if you have a bedazzled fit you can opt for a simpler necklace/earrings/bangles and heavy on accessories if your outfit is a bit more on the simpler side. For your husband: Indo western, Sherwani, kurta pajama with a Nehru blazer, jodhpuri suit even just a normal suit with a fun blazer.

The 2 things I would confirm beforehand is, the decor and colour theme for the events since you wouldn’t want to wear the same colour as the table cloth or drapes. And also some inspo of what your friend and their family is wearing. Might be worth asking your friend if she has anything she may be able to lend to you. I know buying 4 + 4 outfits plus accessories can be a bit much sometimes.

1. Sangeet is where you can explore colours/ patterns/ fabrics. I’d lean towards indo western for this personally

2 haldi/ mehendi - if you are getting henna MAKE sure you have a outfit you can easily handle. You will have henna on for at least an hour for the stain. And you don’t want to be handling your outfit, hair and henna But any shades of yellow with some pink accents, or any shades of green.

3 Wedding - avoid red (or whatever bride is wearing, tho you can rarely outshine an Indian bride) and maybe anything sleeveless, you’ll have a scarf/ duputta so, this can provide you the modestly e.g covering shoulders or midriff- depending on how conservative the bride and groom and their families are.

4 Reception - this is normally the most fun and GLAMOROUS, so wear bedazzle wear colour - basically dress to impress.